going to bars solo. yet I have done it time to time, I'm wondering any brave souls willing to give some advice when you show up to place by yourself how you mingle in with a group? 
simple_collision saidWhen I went to Sweden 2 years back for a business trip for my mom, I decided to go out one night and experience the night life.
Of course I didn't know anyone. I went out and went to a gay bar. At first I was nervous, everyone was staring at me. But I approached a bunch of locals and said hi. We got a convo going and soon I was joining them dancing
Found out why everyone was staring at me. Apparently Black hair and brown eyes was exotic. Everyone was blonde with blue eyes, lol. Oh, I had a fun night *wink*
MMADill saidYes, I know it seems like it can be awfully pathetic
MMADill saidYes, I know it seems like it can be awfully pathetic
SAHEM62896 saidIt's not pathetic at all... I mean, c'mon. If you can't enjoy your own company, how can you have fun in a group?
Sage_Humour said
So those who do go to bars and clubs alone, do you go and start convo's with people in groups? Or other people there alone? Or wait for them to talk to you? Are you naturally very extraverted?
Gbob saidSage_Humour said
So those who do go to bars and clubs alone, do you go and start convo's with people in groups? Or other people there alone? Or wait for them to talk to you? Are you naturally very extraverted?
I am the introvert that appears extroverted so it sort of helps in situations like these. When I go to gay bars alone sometimes I just sit there, sometimes dance -- quite often people will just naturally come over to talk cos they see that you're 'lonely'. I'm always happy to talk to whoever starts a conversation with me (no matter who they are or what they look like) because from that point on I thrive in the conversation. My weakness is not being able to approach people (yet) but once someone says 'hi' I am perfectly confident in conversation. However not always do people come over to say 'hi: they're either busy with their friends or too shy themselves to approach so I just go dance by myself to ease things up. Nothing happens too quickly, but I'm alright with that because I'm only there to make friends.
*edit* ALSO you don't have to call people up to go out or have friends call you when you don't want to go out. You're your own boss, and a free spirit. That's what I love about it: you choose what happens
jk....Kinda Sage_Humour saidGbob saidSage_Humour said
So those who do go to bars and clubs alone, do you go and start convo's with people in groups? Or other people there alone? Or wait for them to talk to you? Are you naturally very extraverted?
I am the introvert that appears extroverted so it sort of helps in situations like these. When I go to gay bars alone sometimes I just sit there, sometimes dance -- quite often people will just naturally come over to talk cos they see that you're 'lonely'. I'm always happy to talk to whoever starts a conversation with me (no matter who they are or what they look like) because from that point on I thrive in the conversation. My weakness is not being able to approach people (yet) but once someone says 'hi' I am perfectly confident in conversation. However not always do people come over to say 'hi: they're either busy with their friends or too shy themselves to approach so I just go dance by myself to ease things up. Nothing happens too quickly, but I'm alright with that because I'm only there to make friends.
*edit* ALSO you don't have to call people up to go out or have friends call you when you don't want to go out. You're your own boss, and a free spirit. That's what I love about it: you choose what happens
I have to see this to believe it- next time you're going out on the town- hit me up ;]
lol
Gbob saidSage_Humour saidGbob saidSage_Humour said
So those who do go to bars and clubs alone, do you go and start convo's with people in groups? Or other people there alone? Or wait for them to talk to you? Are you naturally very extraverted?
I am the introvert that appears extroverted so it sort of helps in situations like these. When I go to gay bars alone sometimes I just sit there, sometimes dance -- quite often people will just naturally come over to talk cos they see that you're 'lonely'. I'm always happy to talk to whoever starts a conversation with me (no matter who they are or what they look like) because from that point on I thrive in the conversation. My weakness is not being able to approach people (yet) but once someone says 'hi' I am perfectly confident in conversation. However not always do people come over to say 'hi: they're either busy with their friends or too shy themselves to approach so I just go dance by myself to ease things up. Nothing happens too quickly, but I'm alright with that because I'm only there to make friends.
*edit* ALSO you don't have to call people up to go out or have friends call you when you don't want to go out. You're your own boss, and a free spirit. That's what I love about it: you choose what happens
I have to see this to believe it- next time you're going out on the town- hit me up ;]
lol
Which part do you not believe lol? We could argue this all day haha.
I go to Freedom a lot in Soho...that's the bar that I jump over the ropes - works every time! Try it out -- you are in London right?
MikemikeMike saidI have done this years ago and it can work. Talk to the bartender see who they know, ask him if he knows anyone in there that night and get an intro.
I can talk to anyone.
Sage_Humour saidGbob saidSage_Humour saidGbob saidSage_Humour said
So those who do go to bars and clubs alone, do you go and start convo's with people in groups? Or other people there alone? Or wait for them to talk to you? Are you naturally very extraverted?
I am the introvert that appears extroverted so it sort of helps in situations like these. When I go to gay bars alone sometimes I just sit there, sometimes dance -- quite often people will just naturally come over to talk cos they see that you're 'lonely'. I'm always happy to talk to whoever starts a conversation with me (no matter who they are or what they look like) because from that point on I thrive in the conversation. My weakness is not being able to approach people (yet) but once someone says 'hi' I am perfectly confident in conversation. However not always do people come over to say 'hi: they're either busy with their friends or too shy themselves to approach so I just go dance by myself to ease things up. Nothing happens too quickly, but I'm alright with that because I'm only there to make friends.
*edit* ALSO you don't have to call people up to go out or have friends call you when you don't want to go out. You're your own boss, and a free spirit. That's what I love about it: you choose what happens
I have to see this to believe it- next time you're going out on the town- hit me up ;]
lol
Which part do you not believe lol? We could argue this all day haha.
I go to Freedom a lot in Soho...that's the bar that I jump over the ropes - works every time! Try it out -- you are in London right?
It isn't so much that I don't believe it, I just don't think i've seen it sucessfully done in action before ;p ....
Yh i'm in London too, but haven't really been on 'the scene' (don't have that many young gay friends tbh--- i hear a tiny violiin somewhere ;)
MMADill saidYes, I know it seems like it can be awfully pathetic
you have a sweetness in your eyes when you smile. 
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