Jerk-Off Party

  • tony_boost

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    Nov 10, 2010 9:17 AM GMT
    so as many of you know i'm not very experienced, one thing i was always envious of about my ex was that he was so ready to try anything sexually, and i've always been hesitant towards, sex. Anyway, i found a jack off/circle jerk party around my area on a4a and i figured since it wasn't sex it wouldn't be too intimidating. I don't really want to do this but i feel like i need to feel normal and like every other gay guy. I've always been kind of an outsider, not in the cool way but in the awkward way, and i don't know what's normal and what's not for me. Anyway, i don't really know what my point is, i'm just up tired and thinking about things. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 10, 2010 9:54 AM GMT
    tony_boost saidI don't really want to do this but i feel like i need to feel normal and like every other gay guy.


    You don't NEED to do anything. If you don't want to do it, don't do it. Be yourself, not what you think other people want you to be, or what you feel you should be.
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    Nov 10, 2010 10:04 AM GMT
    tony_boost saids Anyway, i found a jack off/circle jerk party around my area on a4a and i figured since it wasn't sex it wouldn't be too intimidating. I don't really want to do this but i feel like i need to feel normal and like every other gay guy.


    Getting involved in a jack off/circle jerk party is not a "normal" activity that every other gay guy do. Neither is being gay all about sex, sex and sex. Getting involved in one won't make you feel normal like every other gay guy. You shouldn't generalise.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 10, 2010 10:05 AM GMT
    tony_boost saidso as many of you know i'm not very experienced, one thing i was always envious of about my ex was that he was so ready to try anything sexually, and i've always been hesitant towards, sex. Anyway, i found a jack off/circle jerk party around my area on a4a and i figured since it wasn't sex it wouldn't be too intimidating. I don't really want to do this but i feel like i need to feel normal and like every other gay guy. I've always been kind of an outsider, not in the cool way but in the awkward way, and i don't know what's normal and what's not for me. Anyway, i don't really know what my point is, i'm just up tired and thinking about things. icon_confused.gif


    At 19 there is no rush. I think quality over quantity is better. Not sure if your friend is a whore,but that is nothing to envy.icon_idea.gif
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    Nov 17, 2010 10:19 AM GMT
    One of the most important lessons I've learned in life is that I have to be true to myself. I always felt like an outsider and was teased/bullied a lot growing up for being weird. I grew up in a town of 25,000 and felt a lot of pressure to conform. When I came out at 19 I felt a lot of pressure to conform...but all it did was make me unhappy.

    I'm also constantly pushing myself to grow and improve and force myself to do things that scare me or make me uncomfortable....but they are things that I know will make my life better. For example, I'm afraid of heights but I put myself in situations where I have to confront my fear.

    If you are wanting to explore your sexuality, there are other ways to do it if you are not comfortable with a j/o group. You may want to try things with an understanding friend. I've had a few friends help me overcome some sexual hangups and I'm still friends with them (but without benefits now).

    Just remember that it's the outsiders who have had the most positive impact on the world. Those who blend in and conform are not going to stand out in any way.

    The older I've become the more I've found that the traits I used to dislike in myself are the ones people now appreciate.