Well its hard for us all to give u all the best advice since we are not able to talk to him.
For your bf:
When you wake up in bed and are getting out of bed what is the real motivator to get out and get started. (No we don't want to hear about responsibility.
I understand he is doing more school. But wtf ever.
School is zero answer nor excuse for what you all are going through.
I am by far not an expert. But I have 15400 community service hours given to gay and lesbian communities and working with kids and peers in working thru issues as a peer counselor. Domestic violence counselor. I have had 7 bf's in my life. Shortest was 5 months longest was 4y10m.
You both are smart and driven young men. 1 that you want a long term boyfriend speaks large amounts for your character as a man. Two making the strides in your patience and love for your bf is awesome. But. Id look at some of the basic information below. Try to talk to him about the different layers in your way of talking to him. Checking in on things in his life. He is not really willing to talk about it then.. Id really suggest a Therapist for couples and also that he goes on his own, also suggest you go as well on your own. Just for little while so you can take a heart beat on how you feel and how to deal with your feelings before the form in to resentment into your bf. By your responses on here you do sound like you are at the witts end. Which I can totally understand.
But here - First this is little weird and dry but it makes sense.
I have listened to all your responses. If you look at the things you are talking about. His behaviors and stuff.... Then look at the list 1-5 below. 1 being the most basic stuff to human nature and needs. 5 being the final peace of humanity.
Think of 1 being the base of an house. That is your foundation. If those 1 items are not met or working the smaller foundation you have to build upon. The more things not really working then.... more a person is breaking down and needs help.
Core fundamental principles of human needs are.
1- Physiological - breathing, food, water, sex , sleep, homeostasis(warmth & Home & Shelter), excretion
2- Safety - Security of body, of employment, of resources, of morality, of the family , of health, of property.
3- Love/Belonging - Friendship, Family, Sexual Intimacy
4- Esteem- Self-Esteem, confidence, achievement, respect of others, respect by others.
5- Self-Actualization - Morality, creativity, spontaneity,
problem solving, lack of prejudice, acceptance of facts.
Also you could reach out to friends and family if you all are out. Try to talk to them about other signs that you see if you feel comfortable to try the whole team approach if he does not want to work on helping your all's relationship get back into place where you both are happy.
If you or our bf are lacking more and more of the above then something is going on. You all had great sex for half year then something changed. Trying to get him to find out what that is.
Its really hard I know to work thru this issue. Especially as long as you have been patient.
Other posters of stated the obvious that you are young, very attractive, amazing body, which are all the superficial things most men just look at.
Obviously you have a lot more then that to offer and why you are here asking for ideas.
If you are having problems finding therapists ... let me know. I will help you find resource for your area. Depending on if you are working or he is working for a company sometimes there is free or low cost resources. If both full time students then there are other resources that may be available thru organizations.
Let me know I will help you out in getting to those resources.
Wish the best and if you need anything we all are here for ya.