My Biggest Regret Ever....

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    Nov 11, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    is not being closer with my parents...

    My only true regret in my life is not being closer with my parents. I really did love them and respect them more then anything, I just didn’t know how to show it. I now have lost both of my parents, and the thought of them not knowing how much I truly cared for them before they passed kills me.


    I should have been closer to them. They tried. I didn't.
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    That's really sad and very honest of you. If there's a silver lining you can make sure not to take loved ones for granted again. It's definitely a hard lesson to learn. icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    not much i can do about it now, but hopefully someone else will have read this and maybe thought twice about their relationship with their parents.

    If i had to do over again, things would have been way different.
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:13 AM GMT
    Import saidis not being closer with my parents...

    My only true regret in my life is not being closer with my parents. I really did love them and respect them more then anything, I just didn’t know how to show it. I now have lost both of my parents, and the thought of them not knowing how much I truly cared for them before they passed kills me.


    I should have been closer to them. They tried. I didn't.



    Sweetie love is totally oblivious of time! you loved your parents very much and even thou you may think they didn't know when they were alive, they knew it believe me! so instead of feeling so much guilt be happy that you loved them then as much as you loved them now!


    Leandro ♥
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:15 AM GMT
    I'm sure in their hearts they knew how much you loved them.

    I cherish every moment I am with my parents, even if they don't know of my sexuality.
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:19 AM GMT
    Remember the things that brought joy in your life and put a smile on your face. Those moments w/ them is where the love is at.
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:36 AM GMT
    Thanks for sharing. Don't have regrets, though. They'd want you more than anything to be happy and unconcerned. You'll honor them by doing just that.
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:52 AM GMT
    Being a parent, I can tell you they knew.

    Parents always know. They knew you before you knew yourself. They knew.
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    Nov 11, 2010 7:55 AM GMT
    Stealing Yu gi oh cards back in 5th grade and getting caught! icon_lol.gif I was then arrested and driven home in a cop car and everyone on my block saw me in the car! Was embarrassing for my family and myself...
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    Nov 11, 2010 8:03 AM GMT
    moscowmikey saidBeing a parent, I can tell you they knew.

    Parents always know. They knew you before you knew yourself. They knew.


    I'm a dad of four and for sure they knew in their hearts. From the day you were born.icon_smile.gif The love of a father for their child is special and covers all......

    No regrets, just missed opportunitiesicon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 11, 2010 8:24 AM GMT
    Import,

    I lost my mom a few months ago. We didn't always have the best relationship and despite me moving there to care for her during her final year, it was difficult for us to get any closer. Now that she is gone, I feel what you feel without the regret. For me, she is not here to push my buttons or upset me. In a way, I am safe now and in my eyes and mind she can be what I want her to be. With that being said, the bad is falling away and it is falling away by choice. For whatever it is that kept your relationship from growing, it was what it was and it will never be different. Don't mistake enlightened respect as a regret. Ultimately, you could still be just as estranged today if they were still alive. Forgive yourself and forgive them for not being able to show and receive love in the ways that you or they needed it. Free yourself to live the life they dreamed you would have.