The people who have e mailed me thus far. . .

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    Mar 12, 2008 11:37 PM GMT
    Ok I felt the need to blog about this. . .Thus far the e mails I have gotten from people are all vulgar and inappropriate. I am amazed that no one sends out decant e mails to people on here. Why is it so hard to just make friends with other guys on here?
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    Mar 12, 2008 11:49 PM GMT
    sastud05 saidOk I felt the need to blog about this. . .Thus far the e mails I have gotten from people are all vulgar and inappropriate.

    Not all of them. icon_razz.gif

    Ok, seriously, you don't have much information in your profile other than your stats. How about adding something to let other people know a little more about you, and what you're looking for? Maybe you'll get more responses.

    Also, you don't have to sit around waiting for other people to email you. You could try sending emails to people that you find interesting, and maybe start a dialog that way. icon_wink.gif

    Good luck.
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    Mar 13, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
    what are you wearing?

    sorry, couldn't resist...



    chin up - post on the threads, add hotties and buddies, send emails on your own, and you'll pick frineds up pretty quick.

    oh, and like he said: fill out your profile more
  • SkyMiles

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:15 AM GMT
    I know what you're saying. A lot of people on here are VERY shy, believe it or not, so YOU have to email THEM! Not everyone will write back, but some will and strike up a real conversation. There're some great people on here for real, so don't get disappointed.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:17 AM GMT
    Well I agree with the others. There are some good men on here and I really enjoy chatting, posting and have had the fun of getting to know a number here. You have to take the initiative, just like at a party. Once you get involved, its great!

    I also like the pic with your dog there.
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    Mar 13, 2008 12:29 AM GMT
    I just ignore all the messages titled "unlocked private photos" LOL
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    Mar 13, 2008 12:30 AM GMT
    dude/dood, bro/breau - so this means you've not looked at mine yet... i'ma slap u!icon_wink.gif
  • kinetic

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    That sux. I actually have had quite an opposite experience on here. I think the sickos know to stay away! >_
  • drakutis

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    dood saidI just ignore all the messages titled "unlocked private photos" LOL


    I still look and then say "thanks"!!

    My experience has been that people will look at your profile and possibly hot list you but not send a email saying "hello" ( Ok I'm guilty also. I get shy!)

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:42 AM GMT
    I love the ones that email you out of the blue and tell you that they love you even though you have never said a word to them before...I'm like..WTF??
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    Mar 13, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
    Hey sastud, I'll second (or fourth) the comments about filling in your profile. With nothing in the "about me" or "what I'm looking for" filled out, you're likely to just get random crap. Not to say that you won't STILL get random crap later but you'll probably get notes from regular guys too. Like all systems, this one has both trolls and cool people.

    You do a ton of sports. I think it would be cool to hear about your life and the kind of person you're looking for.

    As a side note, dodging that and leaving it blank or worse, saying "ask me" is a good way to have people skip your profile.

    Good luck.

    Feel free to email and say hello to the guys who responded to this thread (including me). Welcome to RJ! It doesn't suck. Really. :-)
  • swimbikerun

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:45 AM GMT
    I actually write things like "Hello, how are you today?" and rarely get responses...
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    Mar 13, 2008 12:46 AM GMT
    I think we need to have a little contest here that ends New Year's Eve.

    Let's see who gets the most disgusting e-mail.

    Winner gets hugs from everyone else.

    Sorry about your experiences. I've had similar.

    Usually I also get messaged by guys with no pic from Dubai. WTF?
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:48 AM GMT
    swimbikerun saidI actually write things like "Hello, how are you today?" and rarely get responses...


    Really? I find that bizarre. I would feel like such an ass if someone emailed me and I didn't respond (the exception being the unwanted 'your hot, got any naked pics?' emails).
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    Mar 13, 2008 12:52 AM GMT
    icon_confused.gif I havn't gotten a single vulgar email, sigh. No one asking about my stats or what I am into. btw I am into toe nail clippings and being a furry (I like dressing up as a crotchless tiger and eating frosted flakes).

    No actually vulgar emails can be very annoying, especially on gay.com when you just want to chat with some guys and you clearly state no hook ups and people still ask you, if you are into w/s and I reply no but I have thought of taking up water polo cause those guys are ripped!
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 13, 2008 12:56 AM GMT
    wagen22302 said

    Usually I also get messaged by guys with no pic from Dubai. WTF?


    Ignore those emails...it's just ZimaTART incognito. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 13, 2008 1:00 AM GMT
    ShawnTO said
    Really? I find that bizarre. I would feel like such an ass if someone emailed me and I didn't respond (the exception being the unwanted 'your hot, got any naked pics?' emails).

    I've had that experience, particularly with local guys. I just assume they're not interested in corresponding, which is fine.

    The non-local guys seem much more friendly, especially the ones on the forums. icon_biggrin.gif
  • buffboy8n9

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    Mar 13, 2008 1:13 AM GMT
    hey bro I hear where ya commin from:-( so If Its any consolation,...Im moving to Austin hopefully by the end of summer & I would love to be friends with ya! yeah I agree why can't guys(esp.gays)be just friends? why Is It that most of them only want u for ONE THING...that sucks bro:-/ ME...JUST LOOKIN 4 FRIENDS. Vic
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    Mar 13, 2008 1:13 AM GMT
    I am a new realjock user and have been fortunate to have selected the right person to email with. It looks like this is a cool place to meet people. Don't let "One (or few) bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch". Hang in there and give it another try!
    All the best!
  • Timbales

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    Mar 13, 2008 1:16 AM GMT
    well damn, I feel left out. I don't get any vulgar messages or random cock pics.
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    Mar 13, 2008 1:23 AM GMT
    there's also a fairly large emphasis put on Verification here. which is both nice and annoying at the same time. it's amazing how many of the guys on here are verified allowign for a bit more of a trustworthy communication. but at the same time has given some an elitist attitude though many are still fairly friendly.

    and as has been said before, throw urself around in the forums. alot of the guys on here have gotten used to seeing each others' names flying around so you just need to make yourself visible, not just post that you'd kiss the guy above you. let us know your opinion on some of the issues that are discussed. this site has REAL forum discussions.

    someone mentioned this is like being at a party. don't hang out behind the fridge man.
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    Mar 13, 2008 1:23 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidwell damn, I feel left out. I don't get any vulgar messages or random cock pics.

    I'm with Tim. All the correspondence here has been nothing but great guys with brains and brawn. No complaints here. Keep those cards and letters coming in. And a big "Thanks" to all of you who have dropped a line. You're all Aces!icon_wink.gif
  • Kohaku

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    Mar 13, 2008 1:48 AM GMT
    I'd have to say that I've had nothing but good emails with people here. Well, ok, I've gotten a few nasties, but those ones you just delete and immediately forget! I've met some really cool people here.

    And I'll agree with the above posters. Fill out your profile some. A blank profile is just a picture with a screen name and some stats attached. Putting some inflection into it makes it more personal and therefore more human. I think people are less likely to be rude and/or vulgar to someone with an actual presence and personality versus an empty profile. Just my opinion though. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 13, 2008 2:08 AM GMT
    thanks for all the responses guys! I've gotten so many e mails off of this one blog. Looks like thats all I needed to do. I will fill out my profile some more as well. I would like to get to know all of you. I believe that this may turn into the best website I have came across thus far.

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    Mar 13, 2008 2:18 AM GMT
    OK OK. I'll come out from behind the fridge.

    I resolve to always message guys in a non-vulgar way when I gawk their pictures from now on.

    (Man, that's going to be a LOT of emails... Oy.)

    K