SIngle--why???

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    Nov 11, 2010 11:21 AM GMT
    SO i am browsing through the RJ guys and wondering:
    Why in the Hell are so many of these hot guys single???
    Any theories?
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    Nov 11, 2010 12:40 PM GMT
    I'll speak for myself:
    -I'm petrified of men due to my last relationship.
    -I really don't feel like taking the time and energy right now to open up to anyone besides myself.
    -Basically, I'm emotionally unavailable.

    Working on it though.

    I do know from experience though that many gay men have the 'grass is always greener' attitude. Nothing wrong with it if you plan on being single after the dreaded 30.
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    Nov 11, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    Yes- the dreaded 30's are far away from me.
    lol

    Actually they're not that bad, and tmy 40's are terrific so far.
    I have been single for 2 years now. I think I am too picky. But at the same time the thought of a relationship is a little daunting.
    I am enjoying being single though.
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    Nov 11, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    not single baby woot woot yehhaaaaaaaaaaaaaa lmfao...
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    Nov 11, 2010 6:21 PM GMT
    I don't know, Im not single because I followed This basic rule:

    while(futureBoyfriend != Chucky)
    {
    nextOne++;
    allMenOnThePlanet(futureBoyfriend, nextOne);
    }
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    Nov 11, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI don't know, Im not single because I followed This basic rule:

    while(futureBoyfriend != Chucky)
    {
    nextOne++;
    allMenOnThePlanet(futureBoyfriend, nextOne);
    }


    can you translate this into english, spanish or french, you fucking computer nerd.
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    Nov 11, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    charlitos saidI don't know, Im not single because I followed This basic rule:

    while(futureBoyfriend != Chucky)
    {
    nextOne++;
    allMenOnThePlanet(futureBoyfriend, nextOne);
    }


    can you translate this into english, spanish or french, you fucking computer nerd.


    COME ON!!

    I even named the variables and classes propperly! would you preffer something like:


    while(y != x)
    {
    c++;
    tClass(y, c);
    }
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI don't know, Im not single because I followed This basic rule:

    while(futureBoyfriend != Chucky)
    {
    nextOne++;
    allMenOnThePlanet(futureBoyfriend, nextOne);
    }


    LOL so what if its a little nerdy its quite funny :-)
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    uhhuh saidSO i am browsing through the RJ guys and wondering:
    Why in the Hell are so many of these hot guys single???
    Any theories?


    heheh dont know man and i am thinking the same thing.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    I don't consider myself a hot guy and so will not answer as to my own singlehood. But as for the "hot men" I observe, I often assume they are single because of the illusions of opportunity or the exquisite burdens of selfishness.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    Funny...I keep looking through RJ profiles and wondering why so many aren't single.

    Is it really that surprising though? I mean, some people are deviant. For example, I know a few guys that like other guys. Whoa, right? icon_eek.gif Is it surprising that some guys don't want to be in a relationship?
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:20 PM GMT
    I kinda feel guys have their standards and I feel it's as simple as the law of attraction. Hot guys tend to look for hot guys. They have their own standards that they keep, which I think there's nothing wrong. But at the same time, setting too high of a standard in looking for partners is also not good, obviously.

    But bottomline is, if the person is happy with how he lives his life hot or not, single or not, that's all that matters.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    single bc i dont know really any guys who swing my way. i am kinda sure a guy i am crushing is at least bi... he frequently drops hints... but i dont know how to act on it =
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    For me it's simply because any guy I'm interested in usually in another state, country or not interested in me.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
    Was in a relationship for 10 years... I am fine being single. Time to focus on myself, so when I do meet that person who turns my world upside down, i will be a strong half of the relationship.

    I hate that we look at being single as a bad thing. Our biological need to be with another person for life stems from reproduction. Take that out of the equation and you are left with just companionship. You don't need to be in a relationship to have that need fulfilled.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:32 PM GMT
    Single because I don't know where to begin and finding the time commitment is really difficult at this point in my life. I've only got the limited time during weekends to go out and have fun so I'm a little selfish with my time. And of course, I don't believe I'm attractive enough compared to the 10,000 other RJ members in my area who happen to also be single and hot.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:40 PM GMT
    Single here becasue there is no one in my town I really wanna be with...bot that picky but the well has run dry...I need to move!
  • SoDakGuy

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    Nov 12, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    Too busy to give fully to someone. It will happen, but now, I gotta be selfish and focus on me.

    I do enjoy being single. It's fun!
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:43 PM GMT
    spent previous 15 years in relationships with the wrong guys and well, I am sitting back and waiting for the unexpected, who knows what is around the corner :-)
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    I'm surprised by how many guys think there's actually an answer to this question.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:49 PM GMT
    Issues of compatibility and distance. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:49 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI'm surprised by how many guys think there's actually an answer to this question.


    You mean beyond the individual answers?
    While most of the answers might read as generalizations - such generalizations exist due to the repeated occurrences of said answers.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    I either don't initiate or prematurely sabotage all of my relationships. I've convinced myself I'm fine always just being friends and I am undeserving of a loving relationship.

    Then I go kill zombies.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI'm surprised by how many guys think there's actually an answer to this question.


    thats because there is an answer, or should I say, many answers depending on ones individual situation or circumstances.

    Some choose to be single, others have the single-life thrust upon them and well, others just aren't interested in being in a relationship.

    Oh and the one I missed was some people are more in love with themselves to be capable of giving to another :-) lol
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:55 PM GMT
    holyrood saidOh and the one I missed was some people are more in love with themselves to be capable of giving to another :-) lol

    But then they discover that their hands can only do so much.