Sexless relationships....

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    Nov 11, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    Would you stay in a long term relationship if there was no sex involved?
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    Nov 11, 2010 7:59 PM GMT
    I wouldn't stay in a relationship if the sex wasn't entertaining. No sex at all? Hell no.
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    Nov 11, 2010 8:31 PM GMT
    I have many long term relationships with no sex. They are called friends.
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    Nov 11, 2010 9:20 PM GMT
    Yes.
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    Nov 11, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidYes.


    You would only stay in a LTR if the person lived in a different state.
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    Nov 11, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    no
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:52 AM GMT
    Yes, but i would totally lay it on thick that I will get some from him no matter if he likes it or not! icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    Honeydew saidYes, but i would totally lay it on thick that I will get some from him no matter if he likes it or not! icon_twisted.gif


    Ha. I like your answer! icon_lol.gif
  • Joeyphx444

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    Nov 13, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    Yes

    In a world full of sex, it would be nice for once to not have sex interfere

    I think cuddling, kissing, etc is way better anyway

    It takes two very strong individuals to do this and when they do it they have achieved something more than most people could ever
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:56 AM GMT
    ...hell no
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:04 AM GMT
    I was in a 4 year relationship in which we had sex maybe 10 times (not my fault). It ended up with me gawking at other guys, looking at porn, and wanting more. There were other factors to the break-up, but lack of sex sure didn't help the intimacy part of the relationship.
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    Jmuscle33 said

    It takes two very strong individuals to do this and when they do it they have achieved something more than most people could ever


    Doesn't have to be about some herculean self-restraint. I don't have sex because I don't like it. It's easy for me to not have sex.
  • benarw

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    Nov 13, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    PtaGuy saidWould you stay in a long term relationship if there was no sex involved?


    No. That's not a romantic relationship. That's called friendship. Which is great. However, sex, communication, cuddling, romance, passion, sex, and trust are all necessary in my mind in order for a relationship to be a relationship.
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    Nov 15, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    Hi,

    Thx to all those that have replied.
    Please note - I am not talking of friendships....

    What I am talking about is a long term relationship with a partner
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Nov 15, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    No. And I didn't.

    I'm talking about sexual intimacy. I suppose I could go without fucking, but not without physical passion of some sort - kissing, touching, holding, mutual masturbation, tasting and biting and laughing and cuddling and erogenous touch that was intended to excite and pleasure and make my guy orgasmic. That isn't always nor can it forever be about the same kind of animal sexuality we experience and share in limerance. But sustaining the passion in other intimate ways is key to a healthy marriage in my book.

    I've gone on ad nauseum about this in several other threads. Long and short is that without passion and intimacy, there is only frustration and hurt and confusion. It leaves you very little room to grow the deeper love and appreciation when you are truly in love with someone who will not kiss you, caress you, let you hold them and make love with them. For me, I found it very emasculating.

    For the survival of the friendship, and the preservation of the love, it was necessary to exit after sixteen years (nearly a decade of which was without sex) It seemed natural for a year or two, or more inevitable, but when it grew obvious that it was rooted in something complicated, and no amount of effort to repair and rebuild and heal was going to change that, then I brought it to a close.

    It's a horrible life, a passionless life without intimacy. Some people can manage. I'm afraid I'm not one of them. The drive to connect, and be physical is too great. When I sublimated that - out of respect and resignation - it nearly killed me. I cannot do that again.

    I was ashamed of this for a while. I'm not any longer. It would slander my character more to live the lie than to move on. I've watched other men - straight and gay alike - lead very sad lives that they sacrifice to wo/men who don't reciprocate intimate affection. I find the idea to be tragic, truly tragic.
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    Nov 15, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
    no, snoozefest.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Nov 17, 2010 6:34 PM GMT
    Absolutely. Love and connection are far more important than sex.

    Having said that I'm polyamorous so having a partner that is sexless would not be an issue at all.

    Having a monogamous relationship that is sex;less would not be OK for me but it might be OK for you.
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:38 PM GMT
    If it is the man I am married to then YES! Why is sex, i.e. where insertion and other motions are involved, the sole focus of so many relationships? Is it important? Sure. But you need more than that to maintain a relationship and not being with the one you love, for better or worse, because of no sex is a sorry ass excuse for leaving them. Whatever happened to kissing, cuddling, holding, laying in their lap, having them hold you, and looking into their eyes while they talk?
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    cmhoh1985 saidIf it is the man I am married to then YES! Why is sex, i.e. where insertion and other motions are involved, the sole focus of so many relationships? Is it important? Sure. But you need more than that to maintain a relationship and not being with the one you love, for better or worse, because of no sex is a sorry ass excuse for leaving them. Whatever happened to kissing, cuddling, holding, laying in their lap, having them hold you, and looking into their eyes while they talk?


    RIGHT ON!
  • Buffd46

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    Nov 19, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    Yes. If it translated to a long term relationship. The honeymoon fades anyway,plus the sex goes astray.I met people in relationships five plus without sex.Everyone knows they have their extras on the side.Thats cool too cause you won't live forever.Why bother growing old with a stranger who doesn't have time for the discovery period.
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    Nov 19, 2010 3:53 AM GMT

    Yes. That said, it's 21 years today of the anniversary of us meeting (Bill and I) and we still do the wild thang. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
  • mybud

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    Nov 19, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    Honestly did that to my ruin....dudes don't do it....it kills a part of ya....
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    Nov 19, 2010 4:19 AM GMT
    Nope. It's part of a healthy relationship. After time I think most couples have sex less frequently but you've got to keep it going.
  • asixpactogo

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    Nov 19, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    I'm a very sexual person and we've been together 14 years. he has high blood pressure and the pills interfere with sex. He's the best man i've ever met. So the answer is yes. I would.
  • MrPapo317

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    Nov 19, 2010 4:36 AM GMT
    imho it wont last.