Is it offensive when....?


  • Nov 11, 2010 9:04 PM GMT
    So, I'm trying to minimize the time I spend on the computer...

    I'm sure plenty of you receive messages on various social websites..

    If someone is messages you and you aren't interested, or you know they are only interested in sex and you're not into that with them, how is the best way to handle it?

    I know you could say, "Sorry, I'm not interested. Take Care" but I feel like even that is kind of rude. Or, even when you say that, they still get pissed.

    Versus, if you don't reply, they don't think twice about it and you just become another one of the guys they said "Hi" too..

    And I think I just don't have patience for..
    "Hi"
    "Hello"
    "How are you"
    "Good. U?"
    "Good"
    ...
    ...?

    I think I my internet socializing skills really suck. Everyone keeps calling me a dick, when I'm actually a really nurturing and loving type of person.

    So how do you feel when people say that they aren't interested versus not having them respond? Or what's the nicest way to handle the situation with consideration of your own TIME?

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    Nov 11, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    honestly, it's the internet, and though being a nice and respectable person is important...on the internet it's a little different when people are obviously wanting just sex.

    if you know someone obviously wants to hook-up, and you don't, they're more than likely used to being ignored/not messaged back just due to how many people don't want to hook-up on the internet in the first place.

    just put something in your profile saying, don't message me for blah blah, cuz if you do then i won't respond. boom. preemptive.
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    Nov 11, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    You hit the x on the window. Move on.
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    Here are a couple of threads on the subject:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1177017/

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1121172/
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    You're hot. Let's fuck.
  • laguna07

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    Nov 12, 2010 2:16 AM GMT
    I used to feel bad about ignoring people, but have come to accept it as the norm when i am not interested in someone. For whatever reason many people react badly or try to talk you into something when you respond, so i have come to the conclusion it is better to say nothing and somehow they get the message.
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    Nov 12, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    Delete, delete, DELETE.
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 12, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYou're hot. Let's fuck.



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  • Nov 12, 2010 5:36 AM GMT
    Yea.. I've ignored people and had bad experiences witth their friends as a result.. its extra awkward when you see them at a bar too.. =/
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    Be honest. If they don't like it, that's their problem. There is nothing wrong with telling them you're not interested.
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    Nov 12, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    Being honest is never as rude as wasting someone's time. If they are looking for sex and you are not, let them off the hook so that they can go hunt down some more prey. Of course, there are some crazies who will be dicks about it, but I have found that those are few and far between. Besides, at that point, who cares how they feel. They obviously don't care about your feelings...
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    Nov 12, 2010 6:32 AM GMT
    EHhh I feel bad when ignore people so usually I dont, but if all they want to is fuck me and im not into that I just say uhhh sorry i neeed to go water my cat or something stupid and say bye icon_razz.gif! Usually if the conversation is retarded (meaning boring) the I usually just say I got to go nice talking to you and later. Just say bye and leave.
  • Webster666

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    Nov 12, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    Send it and forget about it.
    If you get a favorable reply, fine.
    If somebody sends a message to you, they should do the same thing.
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    Nov 12, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    malefeet said
    paulflexes saidYou're hot. Let's fuck.



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    Ok I changed my mind. You're not hot anymore. icon_razz.gif