grandparents raising grandchildren

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    Nov 11, 2010 9:05 PM GMT
    hello!

    i'm currently working on a presentation regarding grandparents who are raising their grandchildren in the absence of those kids' immediate parents (for any number of reasons, from death to military deployment).

    piqued my curiosity, was anyone on here raised by their grandparent(s)? i'm not going to include any of this in my presentation, but i wanted to get a picture of what it was like, what your emotions and feelings were given the circumstances, and what were the grandparents' experience like (if you were aware of it).

    if you're rather shoot me an actual message, please feel free icon_smile.gif

    thanks for your insights!
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    Nov 12, 2010 3:45 AM GMT
    I was raised by my grandparents. My parents had a lot of friends and enjoyed their weekends traveling and having fun. So, I spent most of my time with my grandparents and great grandparents and when I was 8 I asked if I could make the move (1/2 hour away) to their house. My parents were o.k. with it and I was really thrilled. My grandparents were special to me - and they were on the young side (in their mid 50's). Most of my friends thought my grandparents were my parents (they kept in shape and looked great - no gray hair!) I had to explain many times when asked about what happened to my real parents. Kids at school just blurt out any question they can think of. It was fine with me. I had a great life, full of travel - 123 countries to date, I got to meet a whole lot of people, have tons of fun, but I had to face strict discipline and study hard. My life was very happy with my grandparents. They were kind, loving, generous, albeit formal, demanding, perfectionists. I recently lost them, and I miss them. I still have my parents and enjoy them too, but the grandparents (and great-grandparents) were a huge part of my life.

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    Nov 12, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    MEE!!! Me and many of my siblings were raised by my grandparents for a part of our lives as our parents had to work in other countries.... I loved it

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    Nov 12, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    wow, very diverse stories! thank you for sharing them and letting us all see a little glimpse!

    @Jockbod: your grandparents sound amazing! i was admittedly surprised that your parents agreed to you switching homes, but it worked out nicely icon_smile.gif

    @theguynextdoor: i dont hear a lot of people who were able to hang out with grandparents from both sides of the family, that's pretty awesome!

    @amar: ahh, work-related absence. and share what you feel like sharing icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    me and my siblings were raised by my grandma literally (my dad was a dead beat and my mom was working alot). still it was nice to get to know my grandma and great grandmother.
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    Nov 12, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
    My Sister, Brother and I were raised by my Grandmother. My parents divorced when I was 7. My mother worked many hours and my father moved back to the state where he was originally from. She had a conservative/strict upbringing that she instilled in my siblings and I but she also allowed us to speak our mind. I think that since she allowed us the opportunity to have opinions about things (whether good or bad) allowed for me to have a very close relationship with her to this day, I actually talk to her about 3 times a week an I only talk to my mother and father once a week if that. Ive actually never received any type of punishment/physical discipline from her which I think is due to the balance that she displayed while raising us.
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    Nov 12, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    AdriantheRN said

    @amar: ahh, work-related absence. and share what you feel like sharing icon_smile.gif


    Well not much, I enjoyed it... I actually liked living with my grandparents better than with my parents icon_smile.gif Dont see how its a problem, my parents had to work, thats life... they all did a very good job to the best of their abilities.. I never really thought twice about it nor did it make me think i was different... such is the reality of the non-western extended family... I would always want to have my family close