To All the younger RJ members

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    Nov 11, 2010 11:41 PM GMT
    Firstly, I don't want this to sound like wisdom flowing down from the Old Man on The Mountain, because wisdom is always relative. It is simply from my experience in this life of 59 years held out as advice for those who wish to consider it.

    I am constantly amazed and inspired by so many of you younger guys on here who have taken life by the balls and stepped out as open gay men, who have set your sites on your goals and included who you are in those aspirations. You look forward with the idea of shaping your future around who you are as opposed to shaping who you are around the future.

    That makes a HUGE difference in what will ultimately be a major deciding factor regarding your inner peace. I speak as someone who looked at my aspirations and plowed forward without considering the impact my chosen career and life would have on who I actually was as an evolving gay man.

    I can see it in your photos and read it in your posts that you are happy and at peace and I salute you.

    To those guys who are still young and struggling with this issue, I offer this:
    Coming out is stricly a personal decison, when, where, to whom, how. But I encourage you not to wait until you find yourself locked into a position in life wherein it is difficult to live fully as you need to. I did that, and although I don't regret my life, I do regret not being able to live my life to the fullest as a gay man.

    Talk with other guys, read, listen and do a lot of introspection. This part of your life is as important as the career goals, house purchases, bank accounts and roladex lists, for without inner peace and happiness about who you are, there will be struggles ahead.

    I wish each of you strength, peace, courage and love........Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 11, 2010 11:52 PM GMT
    AWEEE... That's sweet.

    I just can't imagine why anyone couldn't accept their sexual preference in this time period. It's 2010. Gays are as common as tampons.
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    Nov 12, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidAWEEE... That's sweet.

    I just can't imagine why anyone couldn't accept their sexual preference in this time period. It's 2010. Gays are as common as tampons.


    Your kinda right, but unfortunately, tampons are still disgusting to a lot of eyes...

    As for the OP, thanks gramp ;) Your wisdom, openness, and freshness are so revitalizing, it would make PRINCETONY's skin jealous.
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    Nov 12, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    Gramp???????....Keith will do nicely, thanyaverrymuch.......icon_wink.gif
  • disasterpiece

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    Nov 12, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    vetteset saidGramp???????....Keith will do nicely, thanyaverrymuch.......icon_wink.gif


    Hahaha, I didn't mean to be insulting, I was just referring to your wisdom thing and the way you aboared the subject icon_redface.gif Sorry Keith icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    icon_wink.gif ah, just fucking wit ya, hon..................Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    You're not old by any means, Keith. Just more wise than the most of us.
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    Nov 12, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    I <3 this thread (and you, Keith). icon_biggrin.gif
  • Import

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    Nov 12, 2010 1:32 AM GMT
    Sound advice.

    I salute u as well, for being a cool ass guy
  • laguna07

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    Nov 12, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    It is wonderful that today it is so much easier, especially in certain parts of the country, to come out at an early age and develop a strong support network. The internet has been responsible for so much of this. This was not the case for many of us that have been around awhile longer.
  • rioriz

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    Nov 12, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    Thanks Keith for those words! I am proud to be who I am and share this bond with so many others!
  • justinlee86

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    Nov 12, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    Awe than a lot!!!!
  • pelotudo87

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    Nov 12, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    Good post!
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    Hey y'all! Oh shit, this isn't the chat room... Nevermind, I'm out.
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    disaster. I bet he can run circles around you man lol.


    Keith, thanks for the post I respect your words as always.
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    Aww how soppy lol icon_lol.gif

    RJ has helped a lot in me coming out to my friends -- I haven't come out to my parents yet though because I'm pretty sure they will kick me out of the house just like they kicked my sister out lol. One day when I'm financially secure I might just have sex with a guy in my bed just to show em how much I'm into men lol. And then if I get kicked out, then yay I can move out of the house finally haha.

    Sorry if this post is lacking seriousness, I literally just watched the hottest guy give the best blowjob in the world in a porn vid -- so I'm a bit too relaxed and euphoric atm lol. Times like that you realize how much you love men lol icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    Nice post! I'm proud of who I am and that's being gay!
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 12, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    laguna07 saidIt is wonderful that today it is so much easier, especially in certain parts of the country, to come out at an early age and develop a strong support network. The internet has been responsible for so much of this. This was not the case for many of us that have been around awhile longer.



    I agree totally icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:44 AM GMT
    Thanks Keith for your heartfelt and warm message. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    Thank you Keith uncle!! icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    GBob, you're euphoric because you're down a quart......icon_lol.gif........Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    OMG Keith.... thnx for such a beautiful post .... I'm really proud of being gay and to be surrounded with people who love me for who I am.

    The only one person i would think twice to tell him about my sexuality is my dad (not that he doesnt suspect already, i think), but, its just something that wouldnt be wise to do.

    But for the rest, all my friends and some people in my family, and my life has change ever since im out. It feels different, better.

    Thnx Keith for sharing! ....
  • Ironman4U

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    Nov 12, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    Keith, as an older guy on here, I can understand your message and fully appreciate it. I hope the young ones heed your advice. Often in the gay world (or just Western culture in general), we don't have the respect and understanding for those that are more experienced and wise. You are both.
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    Nov 12, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidAWEEE... That's sweet.

    I just can't imagine why anyone couldn't accept their sexual preference in this time period. It's 2010. Gays are as common as tampons.


    LOL! icon_lol.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 12, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    Thanks Keith....I bow at your feet 77.gif