Do you guys think it's easier to be friends with straight people?

  • KnuxNole

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    Nov 12, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    With straight guys, there's really no requirements to be a friend, as long as your personalities and character don't clash and such. But it seems with gays, they have a whole list of people that they would write off as a non-sexual buddy(based on internet profiles). From what I read in a lot of previous threads, it seems gays in gay-related areas form tight cliques that you can never break into unless you look like a 10/10. The thing is, if I had an attractive gay friend, there a good chance I would not have sex with him AT ALL and prefer just a friendship, because well, I don't wanna sleep with everyone!

    It seems like it is easy to make friends and such, but all the people I've met are straight, and they seem more open. From what i'm hearing, if you approach a gay guy for a convo, they will quickly judge and see if you are dating material or not.

    Which leads to the question, is it possible to hang out with a group of gays for PLATONIC friendship? I.e, hang out with 3 or 4 guys in which you never sleep with at all, but are very close friends?

    I guess I wouldn't care if I had straight friends the rest of my life, but I'm always the token gay, and I thought going to meet gays would be great, but now I feel scared that the gays would only be 100% judging!
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    Nov 12, 2010 8:22 PM GMT

    Hmm, I thought I was the only one. I get along with straights much more than gays...to the point, I have questioned whether or not I really AM gay... icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 8:25 PM GMT
    All of my friends are straight. Straight people judge everyone else just as much. I do at least. My judgements are never on looks; I judge more on intellect and personality.

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    Nov 12, 2010 8:47 PM GMT
    Same reason why in the straight world guys hang out with guys and girls hang out with girls, there's no sexual interest.

    Seriously I have never heard a straight guy complaining because he only wants to be friends the hot chick but she keeps on hitting on him.
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    Nov 12, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    makes no fucking difference. Cunts are cunts. Nice people are not.
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    Nov 12, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
    So does this mean gay guys have to be friends with girls icon_question.gif

    I guess straight males fit too, I know how to keep sexual interests in check. I guess that's why I wouldn't hesitate having platonic gay friends too, since I'm not a huge horndog.
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    Nov 12, 2010 9:13 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidmakes no fucking difference. Cunts are cunts. Nice people are not.


    ^^YUP^^ most of my life in the straight world but see this sentiment applies to humans in general...Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 12, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    hauptstimme saidAll of my friends are straight. Straight people judge everyone else just as much. I do at least. My judgements are never on looks; I judge more on intellect and personality.



    Kinda true. Straight guys don't look at you in sexual ways like gays do. Gay people are way more judgmental than straights. They judge your looks, first. size you up, if they're interested in fucking friendship is the last thing on their minds. With straights its the opposite, which is why straight guys are way more personable and nice than most gay guys who lack personality and depth.

    Think about it... gay guys are basically women in a man's skin, and women don't have much personality because natural selection doesn't require that they do. Unless you're a black woman or a black man dressed in drag. then those laws seem to disintegrate.

    I can say that because I'm gay.....


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    Nov 12, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    Assholes come in all shapes and sizes...and sexual orientations.
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    Nov 12, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    Nope, its pretty much the same I either like them or I dont.
    I stopped caring what people thought about me a long time ago... you should try it.
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    Nov 12, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    I don't actually know any gay people so I couldn't tell you. :p
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    Nov 12, 2010 11:07 PM GMT
    CaliBoySwag said

    Think about it... gay guys are basically women in a man's skin, and women don't have much personality because natural selection doesn't require that they do. Unless you're a black woman or a black man dressed in drag. then those laws seem to disintegrate.

    I can say that because I'm gay.....




    WOW!! Be thankful that this is a men's website, any woman reading what you have posted above would freak out! Male chauvinist, and such like.

    Everything said above is very true within straight male friendships. When gays strike up a friendship, sex would be at the forefront of their minds.

    But imagine a group of single straight men, all buddies with one another. Then one day one of them is seen chatting joyfully with a female, a pretty one too. What would the others think?
    Nudge nudge, wink wink, say no more!
    Then each will turn to each other to discuss what to buy for a wedding present.
    And he only knew her for a moment, having just met...

    OR

    Unknown to the others, the two worked in the same office for a long time and both know that they live in different towns, and both are surprised to see each other in the same location on a Saturday afternoon. But of course, THEY don't know that...
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    Nov 12, 2010 11:45 PM GMT
    I prefer gays. I don't have to explain the jokes to them. And I never understNd what straight people are going on about. We are on totally different frequencies.
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    Nov 12, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    I can only speak from my own experiences, but the straight guys I know make the best of friends! they don't judge me, could care less about my looks, what I wear, and they don't bud into my love life, and did I mention they are tons of fun to hang out with!! Many of my gay friends on the other hand are bitchy, moody, jealous, envious, nosy, superficial, materialistic, and primarily use you as friend as a reserved spare item to satisfy their needs and wants when they want to and not when you need them.


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    Nov 13, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    I have alot of straight friends, mostly male; I have basically one gay friend.
    But it really depends on the person, regardless of their orientation. If we click, then great, but if not, no skin off my ass.
  • mybud

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    Nov 13, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    Yes for me... making friends with straights guys is easier because sex is always an underlying thread in gay friendships....you go out start drinking and BAM....your fucking your friend....they get serious...it messes your whole understanding....My straight guy friends aren't interested in sex with me...they just want to hang out.....watch football....go play pool....and talk about pussy.....my 2 cents...BUD
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    I agree, the gays can be bitchy, mean, and yes they do judge way more. They size you up in many, many ways and always think of sex first. Straight guys are so much easier to get along with. Way more chill and easy going, but I also think you attract what you are. All of my gay friends are really chill just like my straight friends
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    Where are all these great straight guys hanging out and how can I find them?
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    Straight friends will try to hook you up in my experience. With gay ones it feels more like you have to compete.
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    I love how all these guys say they have mostly straight friends then go onto criticize gay guys. From what I can tell is the people saying they only have straight friends only actually know one gay person and that is themselves. So either they are really cynical of themselves or bigots.
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    charlitos saidSame reason why in the straight world guys hang out with guys and girls hang out with girls, there's no sexual interest.

    Seriously I have never heard a straight guy complaining because he only wants to be friends the hot chick but she keeps on hitting on him.



    Soooo if you want gay friends you should look for tops if you are a top and bottoms if you are a bottomicon_question.gif
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:16 AM GMT
    as I get older it seems str8s carry less baggage even if they're typically a mess
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:19 AM GMT
    Yesss you can!!! it is true that a lot of gay people cant be friend with a cut boy.. because he will try to sleep with him... but in my personal experience... I have 4 friends that are like brothers to me.. one is a lesbian, two are straight and one is gay.. and the gay one is a really handsome guy.. and we NEVER EVER take our relationship to more than friendship... so... it is Hard to have gays friends that are ONLY FRIENDS.. but.. it is possible
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    Yes, they love the plucky gay guy. icon_smile.gif Who doesn't?
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    Nov 13, 2010 5:30 AM GMT
    No. My straight friends have their own brand of drama.