To Chris

  • NerdLifter

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    Nov 13, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    You had me at "Frakking Cyclon."

    You were the first person that I've met to actually spark my interest.

    We finished each other's lines with Star Trek, Battlestar, and Star Gate quotes.

    We were both engineers and got each other's differential equation jokes.

    You were nearly 5 years older than me, but I didn't care; you are an amazing dude.

    But alas, after the 3rd date, you grew distant; your texts went from paragraphs of infatuation to short single phrases, to stopping all together.

    I just want to let you know, if you ever change your mind; I'll be here.
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    Nov 13, 2010 6:48 AM GMT
    Stop being a douche Chris, at least tell him why you’re not interested anymore so he can move on faster.
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    Nov 13, 2010 8:33 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidStop being a douche Chris, at least tell him why you’re not interested anymore so he can move on faster.


    This, if not being interested is true.
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:32 AM GMT
    i still don't understand why certain men are coward naturally and find it difficult to clear there point when there is a heart involved, atleast to move on.
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    Frakkin' engineers!
    (:
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    What he forgot to add to, "...I'll be here," was "for now."

    Nothing wrong with waiting, it's just not gonna be forever.
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidStop being a douche Chris, at least tell him why you’re not interested anymore so he can move on faster.



    Yeah man i hate that type of guys icon_evil.gif
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    Nov 13, 2010 3:59 PM GMT
    Isn't it bizarre how that happens? All is going well, then it comes to a screeching halt! Perhaps some guys are afraid to move beyond the intial "chase" phase.
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:13 PM GMT
    Gosh, Studinprogress, that last line I said a few times back in the early years.

    One day while brushing my teeth I had an eureka moment. I looked at myself in the mirror, then wryly said to my reflection in the mirror,

    "Great, Doug. There's nothing like being in love with a guy who fades out with no explanation. How fullfilling to be with some guy that does a disappearing act whenever he feels like it." Around a mouthful of toothpaste it came out as,

    " Ghee Fug, Fere'f noffin ike a being ing ove wiv a guy who fayghs oup wif no exmamafun...'


    I decided at that point I'd had enough of flakes, which are much better in a cereal bowl than as lovers.

    -Doug

    PS I used to call 'em snowflake men. Melting away at the first touch.
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    Nov 13, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidIsn't it bizarre how that happens? All is going well, then it comes to a screeching halt! Perhaps some guys are afraid to move beyond the intial "chase" phase.


    Perhaps some guys aren't into comiting or looking for a relationship, lets face it the chase is tricky but fun. I personally dont blame chris for not "breaking up" if it has only being going on for 3 dates.

    But my dear OP its time to move on, if you say I'll be here, your basically saying its ok for him to neglect you, leave and then come back (for who knows how many times)
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    Nov 13, 2010 5:18 PM GMT
    I agree with the above post.

    Why, WHY, why on earth would you put your life on hold for...ugh, Chris when there's so much for you to do, places to go, people to meet.

    MOVE ON!
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    Nov 13, 2010 5:33 PM GMT
    My life really isn't on hold; engineering has kept me redicously busy.

    I've "moved on" as you've said, just "I'll be here" if he changes his mind, at least until someone else that sparks my interest just as much as Chris did falls into my lap again. If not, no big loss; I've got plenty to keep my life busy.

    One's "life" is not all about being on the prowl, some of us are content with being single.

    Until then, I see no need to input the crazy amount of time and effort some guys devote towards *just* searching for a date.
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    Nov 13, 2010 5:55 PM GMT
    meninlove said Gosh, Studinprogress, that last line I said a few times back in the early years.

    One day while brushing my teeth I had an eureka moment. I looked at myself in the mirror, then wryly said to my reflection in the mirror,

    "Great, Doug. There's nothing like being in love with a guy who fades out with no explanation. How fullfilling to be with some guy that does a disappearing act whenever he feels like it."


    Gee, Doug... I didn't realize you knew Jackson.....icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 13, 2010 5:58 PM GMT
    Is Jackson that guy who gave you such grief?

    -Doug
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    Studinprogress saidMy life really isn't on hold; engineering has kept me redicously busy.

    I've "moved on" as you've said, just "I'll be here" if he changes his mind, at least until someone else that sparks my interest just as much as Chris did falls into my lap again. If not, no big loss; I've got plenty to keep my life busy.

    One's "life" is not all about being on the prowl, some of us are content with being single.

    Until then, I see no need to input the crazy amount of time and effort some guys devote towards *just* searching for a date.

    Everything you've said is agreeable except "'I'll be here' if he changes his mind, at least until someone else that sparks my interest just as much as Chris did falls into my lap again."

    Listen, I hate to break it to you but after 3 dates, Chris probably realized that he's not into you and he's not going to fall back into your lap. I can assure you that he's gone. BUT you're going to meet someone, actually quite a few who have the same qualities as Chris and ONE of those (maybe more) who ARE into you.

    My advice to you in regards to love is to recognize the difference between 'Like' and 'Love'. I think you were smitten by the fact that he had a lot similarities as you when in reality, you simply liked him. You've got to give yourself plenty of time and space between you and your potential mate to learn, play, grow. Once you have made enormous discoveries, you can decide if you want to make an emotional investment in that guy. And I'm talking waaaaaAAAAAAaaaaay beyond 3 dates. Say 6 months, maybe more. Use your judgment and I'm talking from your head first then your heart. BE WISE!

    In the meantime, you, a very YOUNG gentleman, should enjoy singlehood as long as you can and let things fall where they may. Love will strike when and where you least expect it.

    Good luck!
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
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    Studinprogress saidMy life really isn't on hold; engineering has kept me redicously busy.

    I've "moved on" as you've said, just "I'll be here" if he changes his mind, at least until someone else that sparks my interest just as much as Chris did falls into my lap again. If not, no big loss; I've got plenty to keep my life busy.

    One's "life" is not all about being on the prowl, some of us are content with being single.

    Until then, I see no need to input the crazy amount of time and effort some guys devote towards *just* searching for a date.

    Everything you've said is agreeable except "'I'll be here' if he changes his mind, at least until someone else that sparks my interest just as much as Chris did falls into my lap again."

    Listen, I hate to break it to you but after 3 dates, Chris probably realized that he's not into you and he's not going to fall back into your lap.


    No no, you misunderstood that sentence; I met him sort of unexpectedly, hense he "fell into [my] lap," and I was saying that until someone else who falls into my lap unexpectedly the way he did. Map out the sentence; notice the subject of the dependant clause was not "Chris" but rather "someone," using an analogistic construction comparison to Chris.

    I never said he would fall back into my lap! I said that's HOW we met the first time.

    Sentence structure people, sentence structure!

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    Nov 13, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    Stud, there's still the issue of what he did to you, the fade away and leave you in silence stuff. Why would you ever want more of that? *shudders* He did it this time, what makes you feel if he comes back it won't happen again?

    I'm curious about what kind of explanation he'd give to you upon his return.

    -Doug
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    I'm sure he's just busy, what with running Real Jock and all...
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    meninlove said Stud, there's still the issue of what he did to you, the fade away and leave you in silence stuff. Why would you ever want more of that? *shudders* He did it this time, what makes you feel if he comes back it won't happen again?

    I'm curious about what kind of explanation he'd give to you upon his return.

    -Doug


    This is a valid point, it's hard to see past that.

    I dunno why dudes choose to just grow distant, then fade into the dark awkwardly. At the very least, we could have been buds, we shared a lot of interests, but obviously he wasn't even interested in that. But oh well, moving on with my life.

    He was beyond infatuated after the first date, it just made him even more interested, but then after the 3rd I dunno. Maybe the thrill of the chase was gone; if that is the case, then it's too bad that such a nice guy has such a major flaw.
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:48 PM GMT
    Hotness.
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    A1EX saidHotness.
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    I like your thread non-sequiturs, they remind me of mine. Except I usually introduce images of snacks.
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    Nov 13, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
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    More BSG hotness.
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    Nov 13, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    But to all the above advice, you guys are correct. Thusly, I'm moving on.
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    Nov 13, 2010 10:20 PM GMT
    Good job man, move on. Its his loss and his fault being a snowflake.
    Guys like that are afraid of real love and intimacy, and distance is their way of handling it. Believe me, I've met a few of them here. Too bad theyre too insecure to realize what theyve done.
    Moving on.