Is Shyness a Turn-off for Most Guys?

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    Nov 13, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
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    Nov 13, 2010 11:14 PM GMT
    Shyness per se isn't a problem. But if he can't hold up his end of a conversation, that's a deal breaker. I'm not doing all the work.

    BTW, I see we have a lot in common. "...the most important thing one should know about me is that I am a very loyal, good-hearted person who would never intentionally hurt another living soul."
  • chapguy123

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    Nov 13, 2010 11:18 PM GMT
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    No. But if he's not careful, it can come off as indifference or boredom.
  • swimmer8671

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    Nov 14, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    Shyness is a HUGE turnoff for me! I do not like when guys are way too quiet and shy to even talk to you when you have already shown a general interest. The inability to insert themselves into public settings very easily is also another reason being shy is a turn off. I like to be social and talk to people and if i'm with a guy who is too scared to talk to people its just frusturating. Confidence is key, and confident people arn't shy.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Nov 14, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    I don't know about anyone else, but I think it is a turn on. I think it adds an element of mystery and sweetness to a guy.
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    Nov 14, 2010 1:15 AM GMT

    I haven't been out long enough to meet shy guys... However, I can see how shyness can be a turn off because then you just don't know if you have someone interested in you when after you had put your interest out there on the table.

    Shyness can be cute to an extent I think but to what extent I don't know, I haven't met a shy guy...

    Shy guys are generally the loudest in the bedroom though... lol
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 14, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    I consider it a worthy challenge icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 14, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    shyness is my problem in starting up a conversation or meeting people. i know that's how i am and my friends have all told me when they first met me that's how i was.

    once i get past my shyness i open up much more and usually have no problem carrying on a conversation. it's this damn shyness of mine. it probably makes me seem aloof or uninterested, but one of my strong suits is listening. if i'm in a group i love sitting back and just listening to everyone. it doesn't mean i'm not interested that i'm not talking. if it's just me and someone else of course i'll carry my side of the dialog.
  • bmw0

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    Nov 14, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    I find it sweet. icon_smile.gif I'm a little bashful sometimes myself..but only when im really taken with a guy.
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    Nov 14, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    it can be to any extend if it happens often, am sure there is some degree of shyness in meeting someone for the first time, but it gets old if you have to meet the same guy and re-enact the first time.... Boring!!
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    Nov 14, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    No I prefer shyer guys cos I find them endearing. Also it's because I'm quite shy myself too. However I would hope that after being together for a while he wouldn't be shy to me anymore otherwise that would be a bit weird. A bit shy is cute, but too shy to the point he can't even look you in the eyes, that's not so good.

    I'm not too fond of obnoxiously loud and overconfident guys because I feel that I would need to compete with them. That would be a fiery relationship.
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    Nov 14, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    Shy guys are kinda cute, but you won't be shy long around me. icon_wink.gif
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Nov 14, 2010 1:46 AM GMT
    Shyness is an endearing quality, sometimes. So long as it isn't symptomatic of lack of self-esteem or social awkwardness that verges on reclusiveness.

    I'm with MALEFEET on this one, it's a challenge. Let me respect your shyness, be the first to say hello, and counter it with proof that you've no reason to be shy. icon_wink.gif
  • swimbikerun

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    Nov 14, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    "Shyness is nice but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you want to."
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    Nov 14, 2010 1:55 AM GMT
    swimbikerun said"Shyness is nice but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you want to."
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    Nov 14, 2010 6:32 AM GMT
    I get shy over certain things but most the time Im a wildcard...
    Never a dull moment icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 14, 2010 6:37 AM GMT
    Kind of. Especially in bed... it makes you feel like you are violating the guy.
  • TadPohl

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    Nov 14, 2010 6:42 AM GMT
    For me...shyness isn't the problem. Insecurity is the root issue that's the huge turn off. Insecurity translates into either shyness, neediness or over compensation. If a guy can lose that fear of judgement and just relax in his own skin.... I find it completely mezmoring and sexy. This is my perception.
    Nothing wrong with being shy if it's an introvert thing and not an issue regarding their self confidence.
  • trugh

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    Nov 14, 2010 6:44 AM GMT
    I'll take shy over obnoxious any day
  • Joeyphx444

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    Nov 14, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    I think ppl get frustrated w/ shyness

    It's sad and unfortunate cause there are a lot of great guys out there who are shy.

    Guys just don't want to put in the effort with a shy person. It's like they want you to tell your life story to them immediately. What ever happened to working for a relationship?

    TRUE nice guys would be patient and work w/ a shy guy as long as the shy guy tries

    PLUS a guy will come out of his shell if there is a true and real connection
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    Nov 14, 2010 7:06 AM GMT
    It's sort of funny since with guys and striking up conversations, it takes me a while to warm up.

    But certain things I'm far the most outspoken, just not with the boys...
  • timmytwister

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    Nov 14, 2010 7:34 AM GMT


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    Nov 14, 2010 9:29 AM GMT
    Ideally a more active and an open minded extrovert paired with a shy is an interesting combination;) if you know what i mean icon_razz.gif

    but a more shy guy may not express/communicate and that becomes the only problem to move ahead!
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    Nov 14, 2010 9:41 AM GMT
    I only get shy around gys I find attractive
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    Nov 14, 2010 10:51 AM GMT
    swimbikerun said"Shyness is nice but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you want to."


    i was thinking the exact same thing, and now the rest of the song is running through my head.

    and it tragically applies to me. icon_sad.gif

    but it's still an excellent song.