How to deal with a boss invading personal space

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    Nov 14, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    My job is a little unique as being a professional, I am expected to go out into the community in order to bring in new clients (prospect) into the firm. I have done this by joining chambers of commerce and becoming very active there. However, I have also done other things such as joining gay sport teams in order to meet new people, and show "face-time" in the community.

    The head adviser has a gun-hoe attitude in regards to recruiting to the firm. When I went to my friends birthday party, I received 2 calls from him essentially saying "there is no such thing as personal time with this job, you need to be looking for people to sit with while at this party." I shrugged it off, and thought of him as an idiot for trying to prospect to college students in a club. When I joined the swim team, I mentioned to my supervisor about this type of behavior, and how I thought it made myself and the firm look bad if I were to join the team, and instantly try to bring people into the firm. He agreed, said that if I foot the bill, I would be able to "market" it however I felt like.

    Well, today we had a social event, and lo and behold I was awoken from a txt from my boss saying "come back with a prospect today, better yet make an appointment." with a follow up one later on asking how my luck was. To put it short, I didnt really respond, as I feel like my boss is now invading my personal space, and I didnt even go to the damn event.

    What is the best way to set boundaries for my boss? He is extremely reasonable, and open to talk to, at the same time when it comes to business he can be very thick skulled as he has had 40 years of success in the industry. He feels like the only way to succeed is his way.

    any advice, greatly appreciated.

    If you are gonna tl:dr, short story crazy boss sends crazy txt messages, how do you get them to stop?
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    Nov 14, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    Fire yourself and look for work somewhere else. Some jobs are 24/7 , that's the way it is. I had one. So as the old saw goes.
    If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen. Seriously
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    Nov 14, 2010 5:48 AM GMT
    beneful1 saidFire yourself and look for work somewhere else. Some jobs are 24/7 , that's the way it is. I had one. So as the old saw goes.
    If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen. Seriously


    Yea I get that man, at the same time they are not open to new ideas. I can make a real change/difference at the place, and I love it there, I cant imagine doing anything else. I find some of his practices that may have worked in the 60's and 70's to be old, outdated, and kinda slimy in this day and age.

    Also, part of the issue for me is he preaches about building long-term relationships, and becoming "icons" in the community, but then sends txts supporting/encouraging/demanding that we go out there and try to slam as many people into the firm as we can. His actions confuse me.