Display of Affections you give to your Family and Friends

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    Nov 14, 2010 11:03 AM GMT
    So tell me ya all, how do you show your affection to close family members and friends... Standard hugs or are you the distant and aloof type but you have special indicators that they know that you still care for them.


    I'm the odd child of the family. When it comes to giving affection, I'm highly Unorthodox. The best way that describes my affection is behavior of a cat (OT: I am a dog enthusiast) ...... Any reaction is attuned with some sort feral noise, I make my hand into claws and grip my parents arms. I even stalk and pounce on my friends....

    Actually my other two siblings do that as well but each of us have distinct cat trait

    My sister is alpha female cat-woman and she will hiss and claw you and is highly moody

    I'm the affection giving cat that sometimes goes overboard.


    My bro is the tomcat... Comes and goes as he pleases but always makes sure that he gets the fullest attention when he's around.


    Hahaha you guys think I am so weird...Honestly I'm not that weird..I just have a quirky way to show people that I care!! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Nov 14, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    I kiss them.I am Irish and german and they are not too big on displays of affection,but I grew up around Italians (i like them better) and followed their lead plus I am gay lol
  • rnch

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    Nov 14, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    WickedRyan saidI kiss them.I am Irish and german and they are not too big on displays of affection....
    yeh, german-russian is my doner DNA make up so i KNOW what you mean.

    it was decades before my mother started showing any sign of affection to her grown children.

    my perfectionist father was a stone statue until the day he died. after about age 6 or so the only emotion he gave me was anger and disappointment.

    now i hug my mother and kiss her on the cheek everytime i see her.

    my niece and nephew were affectionate with me from the day they were born, as i am with them, we always hug and cheek kiss. they appear to have escaped the affection-challenged personality trait of our family.

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    Nov 14, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    were mexican catholic, my family from mexico gives kisses and hugs, my family in america its hugs for the women and handshakes for the men, only man i hug is my dad.

    when it comes to my friends i dont like alot of contact unless i'm drunk
  • rdberg1957

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    Nov 14, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    I was very affectionate toward my father, brother and mother. My father and brother didn't reciprocate that much. As an adult, I tend to be more affectionate with a few gay friends, but otherwise am more hands off. I had a cat like FiveAlive. HIs name was Dr. Seuss and he did go overboard. He liked sleeping with me next to my head. One night when I had a boyfriend over, he was displaced and then pissed on my boyfriend's coat.
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    Nov 14, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    rdberg1957 saidI had a cat like FiveAlive. His name was Dr. Seuss and he did go overboard. He liked sleeping with me next to my head. One night when I had a boyfriend over, he was displaced and then pissed on my boyfriend's coat.



    Hahahaha, well I wouldn't do that....Unless the guy I was seeing brought someone in and kicked me out.....

    and I wouldn't just piss on the guys coat either..icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 14, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    hugs and kisses for everyone.....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 14, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    With a lot of people Iet them take the lead because I'm not great at knowing what people's comfort level is.

    Generally with female relatives and friends a kiss on the cheek, handshakes with guys unless they initiate a hug or it is someone I'm at that level with.

    With guys I know really well I am more likely to be more physical throughout an encounter, not just at the beginning or end... things like "accidentally" bumping into each other as we pass, headlocks (not to hurt or intimidate, just playing around), biceps squeeze, etc. I have one friend, who -- I have a baseball cap on -- will always at some point steal it and either wear it for a while or put it back on my head sideways.

    This comfort level is something that develops subtly over time between guys, I've noticed, and again I usually follow their cues. If a certain guy moves to hug stage with me, I remember that for the next time. I've been lifting with the same guy for a few years and we only recently got to the point where it feels comfortable to touch each other outside of necessity. I think it came from spotting each other as we move up with weights... you have no choice but to be physically close and have your hands on each other, and it requires a lot of trust to let someone help you hold 260 lbs. over your head.

    My only "catlike" trait would be I love to use very close male friends as a pillow, leaning my back against their chest or thighs while we are hanging out/drinking in a group. I have two friends that I'm at that level with, both straight, and boyfriend/wives are fine with it.
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    Nov 14, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    I forgot to mention that with my close mates, I've bitten them on their shoulders several times....:icon_twisted.gif I think its way to mark them as part of my pack! xD
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    Nov 14, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    Fivealive said
    rdberg1957 saidI had a cat like FiveAlive. His name was Dr. Seuss and he did go overboard. He liked sleeping with me next to my head. One night when I had a boyfriend over, he was displaced and then pissed on my boyfriend's coat.



    Hahahaha, well I wouldn't do that....Unless the guy I was seeing brought someone in and kicked me out.....

    and I wouldn't just piss on the guys coat either..icon_twisted.gif


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    Nov 14, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidI forgot to mention that with my close mates, I've bitten them on their shoulders several times....:icon_twisted.gif I think its way to mark them as part of my pack! xD


    LOL okay I don't feel weird anymore! I bite my boyfriend on the ass now and then but I wouldn't try that on my friends, they'd probably fart on me!
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    Nov 14, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    We're all huggers.
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    Nov 14, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    njmeanwhile said
    Fivealive said
    rdberg1957 saidI had a cat like FiveAlive. His name was Dr. Seuss and he did go overboard. He liked sleeping with me next to my head. One night when I had a boyfriend over, he was displaced and then pissed on my boyfriend's coat.



    Hahahaha, well I wouldn't do that....Unless the guy I was seeing brought someone in and kicked me out.....

    and I wouldn't just piss on the guys coat either..icon_twisted.gif




    her live (augmented?) performance of this song on SNL was, IMO, even better than her staged, pre-recorded ones.

    also, the guy walking accross stage playing the electric fiddle emphasis licks was darn cute.
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    Nov 14, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    I'm not really the affectionate type. I travel to visit them a lot, and I guess that's proof I care.
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    Nov 14, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    I dont display any affection to my family really... no hugging and kissing except maybe when we havent seen one another in a year... i will however kiss my grandmother on the forehead once i a while... also because I feel she is the family matriarch and its both a display of affection and respect

    For my friends, with males: when we greet, we do fistbumps and shoulderhugs, thats the common male greeting in the islands

    For females, for greetings, its kissing on the cheek, especially for people I havent seen in a while, and people I just met.... for close friends that may be skipped and we may hug, as kissing is somewhat more formal than hugging

    Shaking hands is not really done except with elder people you are introduced to maybe... and even then no physical form of contact is required, so usually a simple nod and "goodday" are all is required to greet someone...

    Hmm thinking about it now, I realise the rules of physical affection are rather complex down here... for every person you know, and depending on the context you are in, the rules of what is expected or aceptable, changes, from family to friends, to formal, to informal setting, to the amount of time you havent spoken, to intimacy of the relationship, to age and status differences.... all have an influence on the rules of engagement in different "levels".. its rather complicated to explain... but yeah, I guess its easily comparable to the complexity of Italian displays, it seems very similar to me
  • disasterpiece

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    Nov 14, 2010 6:55 PM GMT
    I live with 3 girls and oftenly slap their ass once in a while.

    I may be the gay guy, I'm still the male alpha (and I guess my "crown" shows it well... No ? Ugh...)