I have been thinking a lot about this-
I cannot stand the self shot. And its sad because it gets way more love on these sites and the pictures tend to "bend" the way one may look. I cannot count how many times ive met guys off of the internet and they look nothing like their profile pictures because of the angle at which the picture was taken, or the lighting, or the whatever.
Last time i was on this site (as claybud, if anyone remembers)all of my pics were smutty mirror pics of me in jocks and briefs with just the right lighting to show my shade of a six pack, or my ass dimples or whatever i thought would get me more attention, and of course I got oodles of emails from plenty of people, and i felt wonderful. However, later reflection helped me to understand that those pictures werent me being natural, they kept the profile from being a reflection of me. Feeling dirty about my last internet trysts, i decided to keep my new profile updated with only random shots of me, caught off guard or at least while the camera is being held by someone else.
then again, it is damn near impossible in the picture plane of the internet to avoid being smutty.
Anyhow, without my pubes and my six pack glaring from my tiny box, my profile doesnt get much hits.
Course there is a whole other side to the mirror pic thing. What are we saying when we are taking pictures like that? What do we want others to see? Its basically a picture of a reflection of a pose that pleases the photographer who also happens to be the subject. Damn, i could write an essay on this.