Should I, or should I not???

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    Jun 13, 2007 7:33 AM GMT
    I am 35. I own a duplex, I live in one unit, and rent the other. In my rental unit, there is a really hot guy. He is about 21, I think. He has lived there for about a year. He is very hot! He is very coy, yet always flirting. I have never done anything to lead him to think I would ever be interested in messing around with him. Until the other day! I went to his apartment to ask him a question. He was in his boxers, laying down on the couch. He made very aggressive eye contact. I could see he was getting hard, and I made no secret about my woody. He then nervously got up, and stood next to me. We briefly touched. I playfully pinched his nipple, he pushed me with his body, pressing his chest in to mine. Then, he started to walk around, sensing that we had both just overtly flirted, and both had raging boners! He seemed very nervous, horny, and scared of what may happen. Then, his roommate drove up and we quickly went our separate ways. I have not seen him in a few days. I am very anxious to mess around with him. But, I have one problem. I live in the other unit, with my boyfriend. I want to know what you guys think I should do. It would be a very discreet, non-evolving "hookup"! I wouldnt even mind it being a once-in-a-while thing. Is this a bad idea? Should I pursue it? Should I let him make the first move? Let me know what you are all thinking! Thanks for your help!!!
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    Jun 13, 2007 7:39 AM GMT
    The right thing would be to stay away, but I have a feeling if you are asking this question, you have already made up your mind.
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    Jun 13, 2007 8:49 AM GMT
    Hmmm. What would your boyfriend think of your actions? You are 35 he's 21. Perhaps you should act your age.
  • Laurence

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    Jun 13, 2007 8:54 AM GMT
    Hi lane

    I agree with Udat here, sounds like you've made your mind up already.

    What sort of relationship do you have with your partner? Is it open?

    Personally I think that you may be in danger of playing a bit too close to home and this may then become an issue. It's not like an anonymous shag in another state. It's a guy that you and/or your partner have to have dealings with. It may be impossible to keep secret.

    I can see you're flattered and turned on by the situation. But you might be bringing a lot of trouble into your life, for a bit of sex. Would it be worth it? You're a grown man and not a kid and sometimes we have to think with our heads and not our dicks.

    Whatever you do, play safely.

    Loz
  • GQjock

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    Jun 13, 2007 10:54 PM GMT
    Ummm... Boyfriend?
    21?
    Unit you also live in?
    He has a str8 roommate?

    Could this have monstrous repercussions written any less than all over it?
  • cityguy39

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    Jun 14, 2007 3:50 AM GMT
    Rent the move Qniecernia(sorry for the spelling) there is a story line in the movie that covers your situation. My advice, don't dip where you live unless you want some twentysomething drama in your life.
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    Jun 14, 2007 7:29 AM GMT
    Wow! Thanks everyone, for the advice. I havent made up my mind about this situation. Seeing all negative responses helps me put it in a different perspective. You are all right, think with the other head!!! Thanks for making me "check myself"! Peace...
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    Jun 14, 2007 7:51 AM GMT
    Hey Lane, you didn`t answer the question Laurence asked, is your relationship open?
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    Jun 14, 2007 1:33 PM GMT
    Udat, the answer is on his profile. It says he's in an open relationship.