I'M AT A CROSSROADS FELLAS AND NEED SOME ADVICE

  • dubcwarrior

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    Nov 15, 2010 6:41 PM GMT
    Ok here is the situation in which I need a little advice in. I'm a young bi guy still trying to find myself sexually. Still very much attracted to girls and everything about them, but recently have been more open to possibly exploring a relationship with a guy.I'm very masc, I'm an athlete in four different sports, know when to give space and know to to be compassionate, just an all around good guy. I've came close to it three times to where I've met three really cool guys(all in different lengths of time) to where we would hangout, travel, watch sports,spend the night, etc. and everything was going great in all three situations to where I felt it would be really possible to start something. Later on in the three situations to where I thought we would take the next step they tell me that either they're not ready for a relationship and but don't want anything to change but think I'm a really good guy/catch. Now to me it's kind of like a strike three; I've given it three attempts and failed at all three to where I thought there could be serious potential. So my question to you guys is should I just give up on guys in general or what advice can you guys give me.


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    Nov 15, 2010 6:44 PM GMT
    talk to mnboy


    You will be able to relate with him. I'm a different generation of bisexual -
    and I was out and married.


    He is the guy who can really help.
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    Nov 15, 2010 6:50 PM GMT
    while advice is always good, I think you have to follow your heart and your gut on this one. Being bisexual is, imho, the most difficult situation to be in but most of humanity is bisexual, they just don't act on it.

    Firstly, you appear to want your cake and eat it too. In other words, are you ready to have a full time relationship with a man and give up the hetero side? You have had three sexual experiences, with three guys not ready for a relationship. It is no different in the hetero world, just a different ratio. If you are serious about a gay relationship, they take time and effort to find. You are young, new to this, as am I, and will find the stands are not nearly as full as on the straight playing field.

    Some things to consider and I'm sure more input will be forthcoming from fellas much more experienced than I...........Good luck, brother,.....keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    Buddy I feel for ya...I'm a bi guy myself and I've found myself in almost in the same situation....

    The thing is don't lose hope over it...Just go on normally with your life...Trust me a guy would know that he'd be lucky to have you...

    If you have anything else you'd want to talk about I'm here to give whatever advice I would be able to give ya.
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    bi doesn't exist
  • dubcwarrior

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    Nov 15, 2010 7:08 PM GMT
    @fivealive...thanks I appreciate that
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    If you give up after only three times, the desire will nag you until you try again. Doors don't close that tightly in your mind and it won't be long until a sweet guy kicks it back open.
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    BELLOO saidbi doesn't exist



    DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER!

    Ignore him. He is a vicious and very dangerous troll.


    I was advised BELLOO was booted off the site before for revealing someone's HIV status on here when his victim trusted him with that private information.

    BELLO also posted the guy's picture.

    in some places that is actually a crime.


    MEMORIES ARE LONG BELLO.


    (Look for him to disappear and reappear as another name as people block his new identity.

    He is a bit more careful now not to give admin a reason to boot him again but be VERY wary.



    Why he would want to be where no one wants him is utterly beyond me.

    I was given the warning about him, so I now pass it on.


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    Nov 15, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
    BELLOO saidbi doesn't exist


    This is not true. Bi does, in fact, exist. I am living proof and so are many of the others on here. Your statement implies that we are in some way crazy or making it up, but we are BI and yes, it's true, we are attracted to both men and women; some to different degrees. It escapes me why some gay men will be so disapproving of anything or anyone given the nature of the fight for equality. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:28 PM GMT
    This guy BELLOO(and I use that term "guy" loosely) sounds like a real Dickhead...
  • dubcwarrior

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    Nov 15, 2010 7:30 PM GMT
    @UpperCanadian & Tonync1969: Thanks guys I appreciate your coming to my and Bisexual as a wholes defense.
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:33 PM GMT
    You got it, It's not black and white, you will know your true love when you meet him or her... Good luck, friend! Tony
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    I would not consider myself bi, but I get the "you're a really good guy and a catch, but no thanks" phrase... (followed by "it's me, not you") Heard it plenty of times. Hang in there, the right guy will come along in time.
  • dubcwarrior

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    Nov 15, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    I would also like to say that I went through the phase from 18-mid 20's with the whole hookup thing and friends with benefits so I'm not a rookie when it comes to the sexual side of guys, but It's the emotional side with guys that I'm breaking into.
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    Nov 15, 2010 7:48 PM GMT
    We need to be fierce!!! tumblr_l5iwl7NKoh1qcc8zxo1_250.gif


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