I wasted my crush on a straight guy

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    Nov 16, 2010 12:29 AM GMT
    I had ( and to some extent still do) a crush on a straight guy. I just found out that he had a girlfriend today, which really solidfy that he was straight. And I really not upset that he's not gay or has a girlfriend. The only thing that I'm upset about is that I wasted some of my energy crushing on a guy, I could never have. I think that I'm also upset because I can't find a gay guy in my area and that I can never find my dream guy. Has anyone here fault like that at one point in their lives?
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    Nov 16, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
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    Nov 16, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    cold saidOMG - you only have 8 crushes left now. Use them wisely!


    Lol, I didn't mean it that way. It's just that I wasted and my feelings for a guy, I could never have.
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    Nov 16, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    Fret not... more crushes lie ahead.
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    Nov 16, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    Did you read the post. I'm not disstress over this crush, it's just that I'm having trouble finding a gay guy near me.
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    Nov 16, 2010 2:55 AM GMT
    RUMEL saidicon_lol.gifJoin the clubicon_lol.gif


    I agree I think we have all been there
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    Nov 16, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    Awwwwwe Hugs!!!
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    Nov 16, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    well time to focus your energy else where. the perfect guy is out there somewhere. and he usually shows up when you're not looking for him.
  • kane469

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    Nov 16, 2010 3:25 AM GMT
    YES, I have many times.
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    Nov 16, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    And this is news because????

    Let me see, I have a crush on this guy at the gym that takes 40 minutes to shower and has a gay bikie mo......is he straight? Probably.

    There is this guy in my office, not too bad looking a bit effluent but is he straight? More than likely.

    There is a guy I see at the shopping mall each time I go to buy some dinner on Mondays. Hot hot hot! But most likely straight.

    If I had spent my time having a crush on each of them I'd probably be a sobbing mess each time I was "crushed" by the fact that I can't have them. But I'm not.

    Get over the crush, meet someone in a place where you know they will have a higher probability of being gay.

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    Nov 16, 2010 4:06 AM GMT
    been there. the depressing thing was people asked me if this person i was crushing on was gay, which got my hopes up that there was a possibility...since i wasn't the only person who thought that he might be. i started crushing on him when he was a single guy. then i later found out that he went out and got himself a girlfriend. icon_sad.gif

    oh well...better to find out sooner than later and move on.
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    Nov 16, 2010 4:07 AM GMT
    amuletazawakh saidI had ( and to some extent still do) a crush on a straight guy. I just found out that he had a girlfriend today, which really solidfy that he was straight. And I really not upset that he's not gay or has a girlfriend. The only thing that I'm upset about is that I wasted some of my energy crushing on a guy, I could never have. I think that I'm also upset because I can't find a gay guy in my area and that I can never find my dream guy. Has anyone here fault like that at one point in their lives?


    I went through the same thing over the summer with a guy who was probably just a wee bit young for me anyway (okay, he was eighteen). He was sooo incredibly sweet and funny and blonde... and I was just sure that he was gay and just in the closet. And then when he found out I had a crush on him, things got awkward between us, as we had become good friends. But he eventually got over it and told me that he only felt awkward about it because he thought I was embarrassed and didn't want to be friends anymore. Anyway, I got over my crush, and we're still friends. Did it hurt? Yes. But at least he was a gentleman about it.
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    Nov 16, 2010 5:17 AM GMT
    Happens man, the trick is, just keep crushing on other people... you're bound to crush on a hundred before one is an actual hit... compare it to learning baseball... dont stress over the last strike, jsut keep doing it over and over till you hit icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 16, 2010 5:51 AM GMT
    RUMEL saidicon_lol.gifJoin the clubicon_lol.gif


    FOR REAL!!!
    Lately ive been OBSSESSED about this one hot straight guy at my gym, and I know hes hetero; I tried to flirt with him, but he gave me a dirty look. WAAAAAAHHH!!!! icon_cry.gif
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    Nov 16, 2010 6:02 AM GMT
    Mobile, Alabama is probably not the ideal locale for meeting your dream man. But hang in there, buddy. At least you're not in Afghanistan--no trouble meeting a man there I hear.
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    Nov 16, 2010 9:04 AM GMT
    I once had a crush on a guy (much more than a crush), who I wasn't sure was gay or not. One day I found out he had a girlfriend and that he got engaged. Although he never even knew how I felt, I was heartbroken. It was a wasted crush, but it felt good while it lasted. Two years later and I do ask myself what I was thinking. But I've had many more crushes since then on guys much better than him ;)
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    Nov 16, 2010 9:59 AM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidFret not... more crushes lie ahead.


    Yes..read literally.. LIE... Str8 bois lie! icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 16, 2010 12:32 PM GMT
    You can't stop yourself from being attracted to some str8 guys
    ............ some of them Are Hot icon_cool.gif

    but what you can do is live in the real world
    and not obsess about them or try to think that he'll cross over
    and you'll both live together in connubial bliss
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    Nov 16, 2010 12:40 PM GMT
    You're 20 years old, still have PLENTY of time.
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    Nov 16, 2010 2:59 PM GMT
    Tryintofindme said
    RUMEL saidicon_lol.gifJoin the clubicon_lol.gif


    I agree I think we have all been there
    yup! icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 16, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    CHIdude saidI once had a crush on a guy (much more than a crush), who I wasn't sure was gay or not. One day I found out he had a girlfriend and that he got engaged. Although he never even knew how I felt, I was heartbroken. It was a wasted crush, but it felt good while it lasted. Two years later and I do ask myself what I was thinking. But I've had many more crushes since then on guys much better than him ;)


    Very much like my story, although in my case, I think my crush was either bi or gay himself. How many straight guys tongue your ear when they say goodbye?

    I told my crush I had a thing for him, then he introduced me to his girlfriend. They're now married and have a kid. The last time I ran into him, he looked like he saw a ghost when he saw me, as he was with his wife and son.

    All I kept thinking was "what was I on?"icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 17, 2010 4:45 AM GMT
    Dammit, it's happening now! Cute consultant dressed in a pink shirt and tie and all I keep wondering is..... Well you know. Lol
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    Nov 17, 2010 4:47 AM GMT
    amuletazawakh saidI had ( and to some extent still do) a crush on a straight guy. I just found out that he had a girlfriend today, which really solidfy that he was straight. And I really not upset that he's not gay or has a girlfriend. The only thing that I'm upset about is that I wasted some of my energy crushing on a guy, I could never have. I think that I'm also upset because I can't find a gay guy in my area and that I can never find my dream guy. Has anyone here fault like that at one point in their lives?


    welcome to being gay

    and just because he has this thing called a 'gf'

    doesn't make him strait
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    Nov 17, 2010 4:48 AM GMT
    Many of us have been there. But you'll soon have that gay guy come along who you'll have a crush on, and hopefully it'll flourish into something more! :-)
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    Nov 17, 2010 5:23 AM GMT
    This is all I'm going to say, but yes- I've been there also. So far twice. icon_redface.gif