"Phaking" it over the phone??

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    Mar 13, 2008 10:28 PM GMT
    I recently "phaked" an orgasm over the phone with a guy I'm dating. He really likes the trend, but I hate it...I didn't want to hurt his feelings and say "No", so I went along and faked a "full release" orgasm...I even surprised myself as to how well I acted it out.

    Well, the bad thing is that he said he now wants to have phone sex often when we are away from each other. We have not even had real sex yet, and now he'd rather do it vocally??.

    What should I do? Should I pull the plug on this guy? Is phone sex even considered "cool" anymore?
    Help me!!
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    Mar 13, 2008 10:33 PM GMT
    JadamoTX saidI recently "phaked" an orgasm over the phone with a guy I'm dating. He really likes the trend, but I hate it...I didn't want to hurt his feelings and say "No", so I went along and faked a "full release" orgasm...I even surprised myself as to how well I acted it out.

    Well, the bad thing is that he said he now wants to have phone sex often when we are away from each other. We have not even had real sex yet, and now he'd rather do it vocally??.

    What should I do? Should I pull the plug on this guy? Is phone sex even considered "cool" anymore?
    Help me!!


    Tell him you would rather "text sex"
    Then you can watch TV or make dinner and he won't have any idea.
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    Mar 13, 2008 10:35 PM GMT
    I have never really gotten anything out of phone sex, but thats just me. I know a lot of guys enjoy phone sex. If you dont like it...dont do it, and if he likes you enough, he will understand!
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    Mar 13, 2008 10:37 PM GMT
    Tell him NO phakey phone sex until the REAL deal!!!!
  • auryn

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    Mar 13, 2008 10:40 PM GMT
    Either get a web cam, tell him you're really not into it, or stroke his ego while you sit back and watch a movie or something on youtube. Sometimes faking an "O" is important to finish things up so you can actually do the filing and cleaning that you're thinking about when you're not really in the mood. It's a skill we should all have.

    Just be careful not to laugh, flush, or make noise in the kitchen while you're at it.
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    Mar 13, 2008 11:28 PM GMT
    I think it's as simple as: Do you like the phone sex, yes or no?

    Make your decision based on the answer icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 13, 2008 11:41 PM GMT
    Seriously, just tell him you're not into phone sex. He had no problem telling you he likes phone sex - you should have no problem telling him you don't like it. Good luck!
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    Mar 14, 2008 12:27 AM GMT
    I have been in several long distance relationships. I found that phone sex, while sometimes faked and often not really enjoyable for me, really helped keep the sexual connection alive. However, having that be your first point of sexual contact? Strikes me as a little odd. No wonder you feel uneasy about it.

    Observe a very worthwhile clip from the golden age of phone sex


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    Mar 14, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
    Guys faking orgasms? Now I have heard of everything. If it ever got to that point in the relationship (long distance or not) I would be saying "so long dude".
  • drakutis

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    Mar 14, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
    I never could do the phone sex thing. It never did anything for me. I have done the same thing and then waited for my award that never came.
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    Mar 14, 2008 1:53 AM GMT
    I've done cyber and phone sex in the past. The first 2 times of each were really to try it out and get my nut off, but after the 3rd time it turned into a cheap for of entertainment. Like paying to see cars crash into each other, or watching a straight guy strip horribly at a gay bar.

    I used to "phake"/fake it over the phone, that I was good at it, that they in the next room over in the quad knocked on door asking "us" to keep it down. It was hilarious, and led to me making some more real friends in my dorm and dropping it altogether.

    Now I just don't like it anymore, and wouldn't revert to it no matter my desperation. I can take care myself with paid for online porn and the occasional thought through one nighter, with protection. I don't care if anyone else does it, even my exes. At least they have as much fun as I doing a fake phone sex session, that ends in a sudden hang up and/or loads of restrainable laughter!!

    I'm mean you no disrespect JadamoTX or anyone else in the thread, just make sure you know how sincerity comes through on a phone sex call, or a cyber. If it's too good to be true, than it's too good to be true!
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    Mar 14, 2008 2:08 AM GMT
    I'll just add this: the brain is the most sexed up organ in the body. Phone sex, phaking, etc., go direct to the source of all pleasure initiation and response. Consider it - that just talking/thinking about the 'phex' enables someone to experience an intense physical/sexual reaction.

    But...some center their sex on their dick. Nothing wrong with that. Just remember that sex is far expansive than a cock, ass, or tickled nipple.
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    Mar 14, 2008 2:11 AM GMT
    mnjock2003 said[quote]
    Tell him you would rather "text sex"
    Then you can watch TV or make dinner and he won't have any idea.


    lmao, text sex. i love it.
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    Mar 14, 2008 2:15 AM GMT
    Sad... Sad...Sad....
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    Mar 14, 2008 2:28 AM GMT
    In response to the indirect comments directed to me. I enjoy physical pleasure just as much as any other man does. Assuming that I just enjoy sex and the sensation on my dick when you have no proof or experience, of my personal sexual-Sensual style of lovemaking/sexual practices is just rude and childish/stupid.

    For me the act of sex is more than just a quick service performed by to concenting adults. For me, sex is about enjoying each other's bodies, company, touching gently and surprising on another from 'performance' to another.

    You certainly don't expect me to sacrfice an experience so beautiful that connects me with my boyfriends, or lovers, or partners, for a cheap thrill on a phone or on a chat screen. Sure it fires the imagination, but when does good sex stop being a way of bonding passionatly with your partner, and start becoming the complete manifestation of your "imagined" phone sex/cyber/sex-texting experience. It's unnatural, and a poor substitute.

    I can no sooner turn to cyber sex for full connection with another man; than a man can turn to a playgirl and claim that he's found a soul mate in full year's subscription. It's sick sad old people like you guys, whom argue only ad nauseam, for the sake of bringing other people down to your level, because your life isn't all you thought it'd be, even after all your sacrifices and losses. You're all victims of your own imaginations and vanities. I'm thankful that I'm not like you now, or will be, by any measure.
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    Mar 14, 2008 3:11 AM GMT
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    Phone sex is what I did when I was 16 (Jail bait, was over-weight, and desperate for sexual attention).

    Sure it worked then, but now I need more than that. You could say instead of oral - fixation... its... fiber-optic telecommunication fixation? icon_razz.gif

    Really though - If you really like this guy, you have to be able to tell him you just aren't that into phone sex. If he can't deal with that - move on! Find a guy you can have full on contact with!

    and as always - be safe.



    To summarize - Get laid


    and not with your phone company!
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    Mar 14, 2008 8:07 AM GMT
    Phone sex... weeell... at least it's safe. icon_lol.gif
  • Kevin82

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    Mar 14, 2008 9:10 AM GMT
    I think you have learned a valuable lesson. That faking it doesn't do you any favors. You should just tell him that your not into it.
  • GQjock

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    Mar 14, 2008 10:18 AM GMT
    Phone sex is def not for me it's like tryin to have sex with your hands tied behind your back
    ....hey wait that might be fun

    No...it's like why bother
    Tell him that you'd much rather either have him there or at least splurge on a web cam
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    Mar 14, 2008 10:56 AM GMT
    Phone sex is really only any fun if the other person doesn't know you're getting yourself off. Try saving it for a sales call. "Hello, is this....? This is Optimum Online calling to offer you ...."

    "Yeah? How big is your cable? Oh, I bet your cable is soooooo big and sexy. You know, I've been a bad boy and I need a spanking. I've been watching satellite TV and Youtube. What's that? You're going to change my channel? Oh, yeah, yeah, YEEESSS!"
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    Mar 14, 2008 11:09 AM GMT
    McGay saidPhone sex is really only any fun if the other person doesn't know you're getting yourself off. Try saving it for a sales call. "Hello, is this....? This is Optimum Online calling to offer you ...."

    "Yeah? How big is your cable? Oh, I bet your cable is soooooo big and sexy. You know, I've been a bad boy and I need a spanking. I've been watching satellite TV and Youtube. What's that? You're going to change my channel? Oh, yeah, yeah, YEEESSS!"


    HAHA ROFLMAO!!!
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    Mar 16, 2008 10:33 AM GMT
    I've never had to fake on the phone, but I have in the flesh....
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    Mar 31, 2008 2:25 AM GMT
    RunintheCity saidI'll just add this: the brain is the most sexed up organ in the body. Phone sex, phaking, etc., go direct to the source of all pleasure initiation and response. Consider it - that just talking/thinking about the 'phex' enables someone to experience an intense physical/sexual reaction.

    But...some center their sex on their dick. Nothing wrong with that. Just remember that sex is far expansive than a cock, ass, or tickled nipple.


    I wanted to make a comment on this, but my brain just had an orgasm...and now it wants a sandwich...and a nap ;)

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    Mar 31, 2008 3:19 PM GMT
    McGay saidPhone sex is really only any fun if the other person doesn't know you're getting yourself off. Try saving it for a sales call. "Hello, is this....? This is Optimum Online calling to offer you ...."

    "Yeah? How big is your cable? Oh, I bet your cable is soooooo big and sexy. You know, I've been a bad boy and I need a spanking. I've been watching satellite TV and Youtube. What's that? You're going to change my channel? Oh, yeah, yeah, YEEESSS!"


    McGay, I'm choking to death over here, I'm laughing so damn hard! Seriously - you've missed your calling by not writing/performing comedy.
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:50 PM GMT
    UPDATE:

    Well, I did meet up with said guy and, well, we had sex... but now I'm feeling the odd residuals of our episode.

    First of all, he hates being a bottom but can't keep a hard-on...I topped him, but his "openess" forces me to think he might be a whore.

    His Prince Albert did some damage to my throat when I gave him "car-head" and now I'm gonna miss the Karaoke contest this weekend because I CAN'T SING!!icon_evil.gif DAMMIT!

    I spent most of the weekend waiting at the bars for he and his friends. After 30 minutes, I'm gone - you can find your own table, bitch!!

    I sooo got rid of this guy!icon_cool.gif