WHERE'S ALL THE BIs ??? (Bisexuals)

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    Nov 16, 2010 5:52 PM GMT
    just curious what really makes up for bisexuals as to most gay/homosexual considers such bisexuality but a mere facade...

    to all the Bi's i wanna hear you defend yourselves.
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    Nov 16, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    For me its about being interested in the person themselves and how they relate to me and I to them.



    I mean we all want attractive partners but besides all I want is someone to understands me...I'm looking for other instrumentalist that harmonizes my tune.

    Although I haven't been in a relationship in a very long time I still leave my future as something that isn't written in stone....

    Like I said before I think for myself from time to time if I am gay....But there just something about woman's body language that I find irresistible
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    Nov 16, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    I have nothing to "defend," thanks.
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    Nov 17, 2010 1:05 AM GMT
    I am here and i am Bi.
    So if you don't like that you can just don't reply my messages as a bunch of you guy do.
    An i think i am a good guy can love and be faithful to a gay guy as any other guy
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    Nov 17, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    UpperCanadian saidI have nothing to "defend," thanks.
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    QFT

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    Nov 17, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    DEFEND? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 17, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    I find it strange that a lot of gay people think that sexuality is one way or another, you either like guys or girls, no in 'between'. And what's the basis of sexuality? Is it sexual attraction as well as emotional attraction?

    I love bi guys, I see it as having an open mind though I've met some that won't kiss a guy but will do everything else during sex which I sort of don't understand.
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:19 AM GMT
    jim_e saidI find it strange that a lot of gay people think that sexuality is one way or another, you either like guys or girls, no in 'between'. And what's the basis of sexuality? Is it sexual attraction as well as emotional attraction?

    I love bi guys, I see it as having an open mind though I've met some that won't kiss a guy but will do everything else during sex which I sort of don't understand.



    I am bi as well, and I've met a couple of bi guys who wouldn't kiss either, which I found weird. Oh well!
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:21 AM GMT
    Vladimir01 saidI am here and i am Bi.
    So if you don't like that you can just don't reply my messages as a bunch of you guy do.
    An i think i am a good guy can love and be faithful to a gay guy as any other guy


    This
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:25 AM GMT
    Stop hating on the Bi guys...jeeze. Theres nothing to "defend"

    And, no I'm not bi
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:27 AM GMT
    Im about ten percent straight..

    When I get drunk and I meet hot girl, I get the urge to just jump them...

    When I sit next to a hot girl in a car, or she touches my arm, I'll get a semi hard on

    But Im 90% gay

    If I see a hot girl and a hot guy, I'll notice the girl, but my attention will be fixed on the guy

    When Im with a hot guy, I get a hard-on immediately, full-on


    I know a ton of bi's in all colours

    Some are 30% gay, 70% straight

    Some are 50% gay, 50% striaght

    What most bi's will tell you, is that they prefer one sex, but can haev fun with the other....

    Ive had trysts with straight friends before..., that had gay tendencies, that never did a guy before and never had really bothered to before me.... they had no problems being and staying turned on with me, and they enjoyed themselves, but they would still go back to girls after, and prefer them
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    UpperCanadian saidI have nothing to "defend," thanks.
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    True that,

    Its bad enough to be deviant, to have other deviants attacking you, honestly
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    Nov 17, 2010 6:30 AM GMT
    If you see one use a master ball.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Nov 17, 2010 6:36 AM GMT
    Why do bisexuals need to defend themselves in the broader LGBT community? This is tantamount to having heterosexuals demand an explanation, and subsequent defense, from gay people for being gay. In my opinion, it is ridiculous.
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    Nov 17, 2010 4:22 PM GMT
    Yep...I'm definitely a closet homosexual posing as bisexual. icon_rolleyes.gif
    Go ahead and continue assuming that, and I'll continue avoiding the gay community.

    JR84 saidI am bi as well, and I've met a couple of bi guys who wouldn't kiss either, which I found weird. Oh well!

    Facial hair is nasty. I'm sorry. I will kiss guys because it's expected, but I don't like it. Nothing is a bigger turn off for me than facial or body hair.

    Even if they shave, I don't like the stubble. Shaved body hair usually isn't a problem because I can't normally feel stubble. Facial hair just gets too thick to really remove well.
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    Nov 17, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    I wish a lot of gay men would stop alienating bi guys and trying to tell them what they are. Why do we need fractions from within the GLBT community when we have enough of that from outside the community. Sexuality isn't just black and white.

    And bi's are a very important part of the community and in my opinion make up a large percentage of it. And this is coming from a gay guy.
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    Nov 17, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    there's nothing to defend and I'm tired of having to do just that.

    I'm bi. big whoop.

    amar_m saidIm about ten percent straight..

    When I get drunk and I meet hot girl, I get the urge to just jump them...

    When I sit next to a hot girl in a car, or she touches my arm, I'll get a semi hard on

    But Im 90% gay

    If I see a hot girl and a hot guy, I'll notice the girl, but my attention will be fixed on the guy

    When Im with a hot guy, I get a hard-on immediately, full-on


    I know a ton of bi's in all colours

    Some are 30% gay, 70% straight

    Some are 50% gay, 50% striaght

    What most bi's will tell you, is that they prefer one sex, but can haev fun with the other....

    Ive had trysts with straight friends before..., that had gay tendencies, that never did a guy before and never had really bothered to before me.... they had no problems being and staying turned on with me, and they enjoyed themselves, but they would still go back to girls after, and prefer them


    I'd say 70/30 works for me, but the 30% of me that is gay is like Nathan Lane gay.
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    Nov 17, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    RRButch saidjust curious what really makes up for bisexuals as to most gay/homosexual considers such bisexuality but a mere facade...

    to all the Bi's i wanna hear you defend yourselves.


    I'd rather hear you defend yourself for being gay. Why are you a queer? Did you make that choice somehow? Or do you secretly think every man lusts after you under the facade of being straight?

    Or why do you even care why anyone has to defend themselves against their own sexuality?

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    Nov 17, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    RRButch saidjust curious what really makes up for bisexuals as to most gay/homosexual considers such bisexuality but a mere facade...

    to all the Bi's i wanna hear you defend yourselves.


    It is not about defending. because bisexuals are a part of our society. It is a recognized sexuality. so, we do not need to defend ourselves. Bisexuality is not abnormal. It is perfectly normal.
    Bisexuals are not equally attracted to both sexes in most cases. they may like girls more or men less. or men more or girls less. it depends on each bisexual and their preferences.
    Gays should not treat bisexuality as mere facade. because we dont pretend to be bisexuals. we are naturally bisexuals. so, give us the respect that is natural. we respect gays a lot.
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    Nov 17, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    In general, I think people assume Bi is a facade because in the end when you are in a relationship you are either with a man or a woman. But here is the part that people don't seem to realize. Bisexual does NOT mean whom you are going to be with, Bi means what you are attracted to, what turns you on, that is sexuality. Being Gay, Being Straight, Being Bi is just your sexuality. Doesn't mean more then that. So, even if you end up with a man or a woman, if you attracted to both, you are Bi regardless were you end up.

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    Nov 17, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    I think the reason many gay people treat bisexuality as a facade is because there are a lot of people who have used it as such...telling themselves and others they are bi to hold on to that last little bit of "straightness" the word implies, and then later realizing they are fully gay. I think many gays are probably used to the "boy who cried wolf" aspect of the situation. However, I think we need to learn that the existence of those in denial does not mean that there can't be true bisexuals.

    Also, there have been studies that show bisexuality is much more prevalent in women than in men. Of course, the reliability of those studies is a matter of opinion. LGBT groups criticized the selection of participants. But all this to show that there are some fairly mainstream (at least in the LGBT-savvy community) views that influence others into thinking bisexuality for men is not real.

    For me, I guess I kind of understand bisexuality. Technically I'm probably bi, although I shift far closer to the gay end of the spectrum so I just think of myself as gay. I have had some serious emotional crushes on girls before, some becoming all consuming. However, there is absolutely nothing about a girl's body that has ever turned me on physically. I think they are incredibly beautiful, and their beauty has definitely led to crushes, but at the end of the day if you put even a naked Megan Fox in front of me I wouldn't be able to even force myself to get aroused. So for me, pursuing a relationship with a woman wouldn't be fair to myself or her. I can love her to death and provide for her that way, but if I can't satisfy her sexually without wanting to puke there really is going to be a huge strain on intimacy. Therefore I think it's probably right of me to only seek out guys.
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    Nov 17, 2010 5:22 PM GMT
    DanielH saidIf you see one use a master ball.


    LOL rarer than a shiny mewtwo
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    Nov 17, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    travelfan saidI think the reason many gay people treat bisexuality as a facade is because there are a lot of people who have used it as such...telling themselves and others they are bi to hold on to that last little bit of "straightness" the word implies, and then later realizing they are fully gay. I think many gays are probably used to the "boy who cried wolf" aspect of the situation. However, I think we need to learn that the existence of those in denial does not mean that there can't be true bisexuals.

    Also, there have been studies that show bisexuality is much more prevalent in women than in men. Of course, the reliability of those studies is a matter of opinion. LGBT groups criticized the selection of participants. But all this to show that there are some fairly mainstream (at least in the LGBT-savvy community) views that influence others into thinking bisexuality for men is not real.

    For me, I guess I kind of understand bisexuality. Technically I'm probably bi, although I shift far closer to the gay end of the spectrum so I just think of myself as gay. I have had some serious emotional crushes on girls before, some becoming all consuming. However, there is absolutely nothing about a girl's body that has ever turned me on physically. I think they are incredibly beautiful, and their beauty has definitely led to crushes, but at the end of the day if you put even a naked Megan Fox in front of me I wouldn't be able to even force myself to get aroused. So for me, pursuing a relationship with a woman wouldn't be fair to myself or her. I can love her to death and provide for her that way, but if I can't satisfy her sexually without wanting to puke there really is going to be a huge strain on intimacy. Therefore I think it's probably right of me to only seek out guys.


    Very well stated.
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    Nov 17, 2010 5:43 PM GMT
    travelfan saidI think the reason many gay people treat bisexuality as a facade is because there are a lot of people who have used it as such...telling themselves and others they are bi to hold on to that last little bit of "straightness" the word implies, and then later realizing they are fully gay.


    This is the issue. The correctness of being some part straight - I think this is what irritates "gay" men. Regardless, bisexual people exist. If you find men AND women attractive - regardless what percentage of the two - it's an indication you are bisexual. Bisexuality doesn't say one way or another who you'll end up falling in love with or, for that matter, marrying.

    Like being gay, the hardest part is accepting it, coming out, and dealing with the alienation because people think you are a fraud for being bisexual. I don't see why gay and straight people think it's something that can just change. As a result, I think bisexual people have an exponentially more difficult time accepting their sexuality because you've got straight and gay people screaming you are one or the other.

    It's inconsiderate of gay men and lesbian women to tell bisexual people "it's just a phase"... doesn't that sound familiar???? icon_neutral.gif
  • neosyllogy

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    Nov 17, 2010 5:52 PM GMT
    As you're probably aware, this thread is redundant with an already active one.:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1234285

    Should fold it in with the latter, it lacks for any interesting antagonism. Just happy bi people.