Muscle for Muscle only?

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    Nov 16, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    I've been noticing that muscular guys seem to be only interested in dating other muscular guys. Is this kind of like the norm?

    If so then there is little hope for somebody like me with my slim to average body wanting to date a muscular guy in my age group.

    EDIT: Wow, great to see so many and interesting replies.
    Just to add; I know that muscles aren't everything and I shouldn't be hung up on them. Its just kind of my preference. After all no point dating a beefy guy if he's a jerk. Regardless I wont say no to a hot guy no matter what his body type. If I get rejected, then so be it. That's how it goes.

    Also naturally I've been working out myself for the past 5 months. Though I'm mostly doing so to get into shape than to build masses of muscle.
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    Nov 17, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    Don't listen to him Leo. I'm skinny as a rail and muscle guys seem to like me. Dudes like guys who are in shape esp on this site but u don't have to have big muscles. How u carry yourself and jus bein sexy in your own way helps.
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    Nov 17, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    the_leo saidI've been noticing that muscular guys seem to be only interested in dating other muscular guys. Is this kind of like the norm?

    If so then there is little hope for somebody like me with my slim to average body wanting to date a muscular guy in my age group. icon_razz.gif


    Don't listen to musegeek, he's either being humorlessly sarcastic or his reality is greatly distorted with superficiality.

    At first that muscle to muscle thing bothered me quite a bit especially when I saw things like 'only into super muscular guys' etc because they're being exclusive with their tastes and frankly, it's very...superficial. It's like saying 'I only prefer guys with green eyes' or 'only white guys please'. However, superficial or not, it is ultimately their taste and choice and I can not contest that.

    Back to the question, I don't know whether it's the norm or not because I'm still trying to figure that one out but it I think it greatly depends on the individual. However I would feel inclined to say that muscular guys tend to seek out other muscular guys.

    P.S. I am slim too myself and I'd rather a guy love me for who I am naturally than for a guy to 'love' me for the body I've spent excessive hours sculpting and perfecting (if I really cared that much).
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    Nov 17, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    aqualad2 saidDon't listen to him Leo. I'm skinny as a rail and muscle guys seem to like me. Dudes like guys who are in shape esp on this site but u don't have to have big muscles. How u carry yourself and jus bein sexy in your own way helps.


    Um- you're not skinny..... You're fit. icon_neutral.gif

    Join a gym and eat. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 17, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    well... you want to date a muscular guy by the sounds of it so... ya there are others out there who want to as well, including other muscular guys.

    But as far as I know, a lot of muscular guys don't have muscles as a pre-req for dating... I'm not the biggest guy around and some of the guys who are into me are in pretty damm good shape!
  • barriehomeboy

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    Nov 17, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Nah, don't worry. There are muscular guys who want to be intimidated by even more muscular guys, and then there are guys who are looking for a girly guy who wants to feel their muscles to make them feel appreciated for their muscles, instead of their really tiny tiny penis. Just saying.
  • TxGrunt

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    Nov 17, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    it's the norm. be able to offer what it is you want. get to the gym and make it happen, do PT (physical training) of some type on your own at home... there is no down side. with a physique that displays your fitness will also come higher levels of energy and confidence, both of which are also attractive and appealing... start asap and try not to let go of it, make physical fitness a part of your lifestyle. now add that to your unqiue personality as a human being and what a combo!

    with that said, doesnt mean there are not exceptions, but don't you wanna give the other guy some of same thing you like?

    ***edit: if norm (within a bell curve) is the wrong word, then i would def say: it's more the average, but i think in the context of a normal distribution, it would fit
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    Nov 17, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    Here's one to ponder, for those who have "arrived":

    Does achieving the kind of body you wanted make you more or less particular about the body types to which you're attracted?
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    Nov 17, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    aqualad2 saidDon't listen to him Leo. I'm skinny as a rail and muscle guys seem to like me. Dudes like guys who are in shape esp on this site but u don't have to have big muscles. How u carry yourself and jus bein sexy in your own way helps.


    Dude, you don't have an average body nor are you skinny as a rail.
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    Nov 17, 2010 2:24 AM GMT
    musefreek saidyes, it's the norm and you'd be really fortunate to find a muscly guy into your body type sexually.

    muscly guys work damn hard for their bodies and mostly seek the same in others who also worked hard for a body to show off.

    either get in the gym and pump some weights or look forward to only dating guys with average shapeless bodies.



    What a moron, Go tweek your nipplesicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 17, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    I used to think muscular guys would never be into me but muscular guys are pretty much the only guys I have been with, so I would say no they are not exclusive...but i would also say that the better shape you're in, the better the odds.
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    Nov 17, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    In your age group YES
    Do young hot muscular dudes want to sex it up with other hot young muscular dudes…du
    Do they want to have a relationship with the same type…not so much.
    Trick is finding one that wants a relationship.
    Someone like you…brother please. You have a lot going for you; seriously doubt you have any problem dating anyone you like.
    Just my opinion: some of these super muscular guys are a little too high maintenance for my liking, but that’s just me.
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    njmeanwhile saidHere's one to ponder, for those who have "arrived":

    Does achieving the kind of body you wanted make you more or less particular about the body types to which you're attracted?


    Only the one in the mirror...Only that overzealous hypocritical dude.
  • FredMG

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    Nov 17, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    It's probably not fair to paint all "muscle guys with the same brush" - I would say the majority of the people that work out, or are active look for people who are fit and active. There's a lot of really hot, sweet and stacked guys on this site who are supportive and encouraging.
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    I agree with aqualad, I was out one night and I was standing next to this twig. Next thing I know this big muscly guy walks towards me - my heart is racing, my dreams of him forming in my mind - then he says hello to this twig next to me and I'm like "WTF?"

    I also asked a guy once before - nice body, solidly built - what his preference for a guy is and he's also the muscle boy who likes to have something not like himself.

    It's a dynamic, either it is or it isn't. I've always wanted to be bigger to have a big bf, but it's not how it works. These days I don't give a damn how big they are physically, as long as I can chat, laugh, cry, just enjoy life with them and be happy.


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    Nov 17, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    the_leo:
    Important to remember that EVERYONE is different, although I think there is a tendency for guys to be bodybuilders because that is what they are attracted to. You say there is no hope for you but you didnt say whether you
    have tried to build your body. Perhaps that would help your self esteem too, as it usually does.



    TO MUSEFREEK: Your reply seemed needlessly harsh ,
    AND I NOTICE YOU HAVE NO PICTURES?

    Hmmm.....
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Nov 17, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    It's actually a good question, and it also requires that you consider that you're seeking a particular type of guy. So as much as you're hoping they're not limited, I'm wondering if you're any less limited in what you're hoping for?

    I have an ideal - I think you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who doesn't have one. But all I hope for in the end is a guy who is as committed to fitness and taking care of his body and sharing in that as I strive to be. I have this somewhat glib zeitgeist that some guys rent the body their in and some guys actually own it. That is that some muscle jocks are all show, but aren't connected to that body - the better men are committed to their training and conditioning for more than just parading and luring sexual hook ups.

    The more I work on my own conditioning - which less than a year ago was the equivalent of a sack of shit tied in the middle - the more I realize I'm shaping my ideal within myself. Who I attract is more a matter of my character than the vessel, but there is a harsh reality about physical attraction, and so I strive to be up to par and put my personal effort where my desire is, if you will (i.e. money where my mouth is...okay, leaving that hanging in hopes it goes unnoticed...)

    My experience is that particularly well-built men tend to be attracted to other men who appreciate it, and it helps to strive for it in order to better understand and appreciate it. That does not mean defacto other muscular guys. But it does seem to trend that way. Someone who simply wants to enjoy it, but doesn't think it's all the important to work as hard themselves, is at least not being realistic, and could in some instances be behaving somewhat selfishly, no?

    You're very cute, OP, and you clearly are a complicated (in a good way) and interesting guy. That alone is going to attract a higher quality man than average, and if what you're hoping to enjoy is a man who makes the effort to build an athletic body, you should at least consider whether that's something you want for yourself as well. Not just in order to attract other muscular guys.

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    Nov 17, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    I'm embarrassed to say that LA has made me a little self-conscious. I usually have no problem talking to guys I think are hot (and anyone who has seen my hotlist knows I like 'em muscly and athletic), but since moving here, I sometimes think the men I think are hot look at me and decide I'm either not pretty enough or give out this vibe like they are afraid that I am going to fawn over them.... which I wouldn't. Usually I just brush it off and move on, but I'd be lying if I didn't say that every once in a while I wonder if I'd have an easier time if my physique were a little more impressive... which is so stupid 'cuz I really like the way I look.

    Men are weird... including this one.
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    we know you looked delicious -- LA men are short-sighted. IGNORE them. I wouldn't loose any sleep ....

    p/s how are you coping with your new job/home?

    Hugs

    SAHEM62896 saidI'm embarrassed to say that LA has made me a little self-conscious. I usually have no problem talking to guys I think are hot (and anyone who has seen my hotlist knows I like 'em muscly and athletic), but since moving here, I sometimes think the men I think are hot look at me and decide I'm either not pretty enough or give out this vibe like they are afraid that I am going to fawn over them.... which I wouldn't. Usually I just brush it off and move on, but I'd be lying if I didn't say that every once in a while I wonder if I'd have an easier time if my physique were a little more impressive... which is so stupid 'cuz I really like the way I look.

    Men are weird... including this one.
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidI'm embarrassed to say that LA has made me a little self-conscious. I usually have no problem talking to guys I think are hot (and anyone who has seen my hotlist knows I like 'em muscly and athletic), but since moving here, I sometimes think the men I think are hot look at me and decide I'm either not pretty enough or give out this vibe like they are afraid that I am going to fawn over them.... which I wouldn't. Usually I just brush it off and move on, but I'd be lying if I didn't say that every once in a while I wonder if I'd have an easier time if my physique were a little more impressive... which is so stupid 'cuz I really like the way I look.

    Men are weird... including this one.


    You look great man, aint nuthin wrong with you. icon_biggrin.gif

    Most of us are insecure with our looks, even the guys we think are perfect. And everyones entitled to like whoever theyre attracted to.
    Whats really important to ask is, after the initial physical attraction, what else can we offer to each other (besides sex)?
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
    I'm not muscularly huge but got some muscle so people consider me muscular but I LOVE thin guys and guys shorter to me or my height....Love to HOLD them in BED ALL NIGHT...
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:29 AM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidI'm embarrassed to say that LA has made me a little self-conscious. I usually have no problem talking to guys I think are hot (and anyone who has seen my hotlist knows I like 'em muscly and athletic), but since moving here, I sometimes think the men I think are hot look at me and decide I'm either not pretty enough or give out this vibe like they are afraid that I am going to fawn over them.... which I wouldn't. Usually I just brush it off and move on, but I'd be lying if I didn't say that every once in a while I wonder if I'd have an easier time if my physique were a little more impressive... which is so stupid 'cuz I really like the way I look.

    Men are weird... including this one.



    Screw LA..... come to Orlando.
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:29 AM GMT
    the_leo saidI've been noticing that muscular guys seem to be only interested in dating other muscular guys. Is this kind of like the norm?

    If so then there is little hope for somebody like me with my slim to average body wanting to date a muscular guy in my age group. icon_razz.gif


    Melt their hearts with a fearless smirk and some cute looks and they are all yours. . icon_twisted.gif
  • _gingin

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    Nov 17, 2010 3:29 AM GMT
    while the ambercrombie clone often likes himself and those that looks like him there are muscle boys outside of that world of mirrors. i know icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 17, 2010 3:31 AM GMT
    musefreek saidyes, it's the norm and you'd be really fortunate to find a muscly guy into your body type sexually.


    In which world??? It's not a norm. Everyone is different

    musefreek said
    muscly guys work damn hard for their bodies and mostly seek the same in others who also worked hard for a body to show off.


    There are also those who prefer people who do not enter their domain, do not want to work out with like minded people. Believe it or not, there are those of us that do not look for identical clones.

    musefreek saideither get in the gym and pump some weights or look forward to only dating guys with average shapeless bodies.


    And join the stereotype. Just the right advice to pass on.

    Muscle worship is nice, it's fun it's also a lot of work that could in the end just be not what your after. You can find some guy who has the best body, but he works out 12 hours a day with a diet meaning you can't have a quick cheap snack, hasn't got time to socialise and probably poor because all his money goes into his fitness and he's performing poorly at work due to his obsession. Hey there are those who aren't so into it but don't start dictating the norm when it's not real.