UpperCanadian saidFair or not, perception is if you cannot manage your family, you aren't ready for the big jobs.
Dude, that's so unfair. Her daughter lives her own life. Her daughter is probably at school twice as often as around her. Why do you have to put people's private lives in the spotlight?
Did you ever call someone fat or ugly in high school? If so, maybe your parents should be fired for being incompetent since they clearly can't "manage" you.
I'm just saying it's really hard to judge someone based off of the behavior of a 16 year old. Sometimes they'll do things just to piss off their parents anyway.
Yeah, it is unfair on the kids, bit it is true.
Even at 16 I had to learn that.
I got to enjoy the privileges, I had to accept there were expectations placed upon us.
I will recount two incidents that happened to my brothers and me when we were overseas (on a NATO) posting.
1. Mum & Dad had been in Canada and were en route back (flying into Germany; they would then be driven to our home in Holland).
My brother was driving our family car (this while my parents were still somewhere over the Atlantic). My other brother (as a joke) put the "staff flag" on the car (indicating a private vehicle occupied by a General ( rank indicated by the number of stars on the flag ( for American generals; Canadians had maple leaves.
It was on for no more than 5 kms while we went up the hill past the Officer's club out to where we lived. But the moment my Dad got in the door we got blasted
He was barely off the plane in Germany when it was reported to him via official police complaint
(from the Dutch national police) what we had done.
What seemed insignificant to us, was a BIG
protocol violation in the military (impersonating an officer. We could have been arrested and charged for it - it is actually a crime.)
. My father was sharply taken to task for having failed to properly instruct us on the standards of conduct and it was NEVER TO HAPPEN AGAIN or we would
be arrested, and despatched back to Canada in disgrace.
2. The son of an American Brigadier General was busted for smoking hash behind the bleachers.
Parental rank offers certain protections, so the MPs just confiscated it and informed the American headmaster, who called ME in to take the young man aside and "instruct" him.
Because our fathers held the same rank, so he and I had similar expectations placed upon our conduct.
The moment my father came home that night, he said "so, how did your talk with General ____'s son go? Does he understand that If this happens again, his father will
be sent home (to the States)? "If he cannot keep his family in order, he cannot command a Brigade."
That is just the reality of expectations at command level.
Deal with it, or Poppa goes back to a lower profile job.There is a price to be paid for privilege.
Pay it or go back to the small stage.