Have guys ever rejected you and what happened?

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    Nov 18, 2010 9:35 PM GMT
    Swallow your pride and tell us your story.

    This question is mainly referring to when first meeting a guy e.g. rejection to your face, not answering your call, avoiding you etc.

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    Nov 18, 2010 9:36 PM GMT
    I grabbed him by the globes and I shook 'em, shook 'em, shook 'em!
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    Nov 18, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    Oh I've been rejected a number of times...What can I say....

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    And these rejections happen after the fact....

    Which then makes me feel highly unattractive....

    Like I've said before.... Heartbreak Hotel sees me as their VIP icon_lol.gif


    Some rejections piss me off though...Cause I'm like wtf I made time for ya and now you've given me shit?! Oh hell no!!icon_mad.gif
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    Nov 18, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    Of course no one likes rejection, it hurts the ego but for me, I wouldn't be able to stand being rudely rejected. That would be unbearable and I couldn't imagine doing that to anyone else because it would hurt me and more importantly them in doing so.

    The major difference between: 'I'm so sorry but I'm already with someone [in a sincere tone]'

    as opposed to: 'dude, I'm not into you, take a hint'.
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    Nov 18, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    I got the the latter rejection but it was like you're into me...we talk and and seemingly get along...

    Then bam, he texts saying I don't want to EVER hang with ya...

    Gives no reason what so ever.....


    Or worst....


    After

    You're a decent guy, lets be friends....


    Excuse me... You were all over me and now u want to be friends!

    Plus I hate the word Decent...makes me want to cause hellicon_evil.gif
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    Nov 18, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    I've found most guys don't have the balls to be honest and do weird things to avoid telling me they are not interested. I much prefer the straightforward approach of saying it's not going to work rather than canceling dates at the last minute, etc. It gets way too confusing when guys give mixed messages. I think many want to be a "good" person and don't want you to dislike them, so they can't tell you the truth.

    My favorite rejections is still the guy who convinced me after some reluctance that we could have a good relationship. We planned to have a date the next evening and get a fresh start....but he called that afternoon to tell me he got back with his ex!

    You can't let it get to you too much. When I used to do fundraising, one of the adages was if you're not hearing "no" a lot you're not asking enough. The same goes with guys....all it takes is one "yes" and the rejections can teach you a lot and help you appreciate the man who doesn't reject you.
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    Nov 18, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
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    My favorite rejections is still the guy who convinced me after some reluctance that we could have a good relationship. We planned to have a date the next evening and get a fresh start....but he called that afternoon to tell me he got back with his ex!.[/quote]

    That sounds strangely familiar icon_surprised.gif except he found someone to commit on the very same night....
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    Nov 18, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
    Right I'm gonna put on my thick skin next time I'm interested in a guy -- it's an ugly world out there lol! :icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 19, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    technically anyone who gets dumped has been rejected. thats the ultimate rejection. I think so many times we associate rejection with a pick up attempt.

    being rejected SUCKS! when it's a big thing it can take a long time to process and deal with it. if it was a pick up attempt I used to just let it roll off my shoulder. Saying this in the humblest of ways, I am a nice little package and anyone who rejected me back in the day should feel pretty dumb!

    although I always kinda took it as a learning opportunity. Not to say that each time I was rejected I feel like I did something wrong, but I try to take something away from each and every experience.
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    Nov 19, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    haha i remember one time i was rejected because i was to tall.haha and sad part he was only a few inches shorter than me (6'4) he wanted to be the tall one.

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    Nov 19, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    About two years ago a guy was so excited to hangout with me. He would build it up. Looked forward to it. So did he or so I thought. When it came about an hour or so before we were to hangout communication would go silent. Happened about 4 times over two weeks. I just dropped him. It was a waste of my time.
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    Nov 19, 2010 4:56 AM GMT
    Every "no" is just one step closer to a...

    Yes!

    Yes!!

    OHHHHH-YEAH-MAN-BANG-ME-LIKE-A-SCREEN-DOOR-IN-A-HURRICANE-YES!!!!!

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    Nov 19, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    Happens all the time icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:09 AM GMT
    i'm not sure if that's the kid's O-face or if he's just passed out!
  • mybud

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    Nov 19, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    You can't take that crap personally....I have been rejected ...probably everybody has.....
  • mybud

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    Nov 19, 2010 5:13 AM GMT
    Samm77 saidHappens all the time icon_smile.gif


    If you're rejected all the time...the guys in your town are morons....just sayin....BUD
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:15 AM GMT
    lissenup saidI've found most guys don't have the balls to be honest and do weird things to avoid telling me they are not interested. I much prefer the straightforward approach of saying it's not going to work rather than canceling dates at the last minute, etc. It gets way too confusing when guys give mixed messages. I think many want to be a "good" person and don't want you to dislike them, so they can't tell you the truth.

    My favorite rejections is still the guy who convinced me after some reluctance that we could have a good relationship. We planned to have a date the next evening and get a fresh start....but he called that afternoon to tell me he got back with his ex!

    You can't let it get to you too much. When I used to do fundraising, one of the adages was if you're not hearing "no" a lot you're not asking enough. The same goes with guys....all it takes is one "yes" and the rejections can teach you a lot and help you appreciate the man who doesn't reject you.


    Guy's are pussies when it comes to rejections, they just can't man up and say I'm not interested. If they can't be honest up front than their not ready for a real relationship any how. Communication is the number one key element to a successful relationship.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Happens all the time. I go home and have a cry and a wank.

    No.

    Just the wank.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    every person has different likes and dislikes. I used to take it really hard, now I usually know after speaking to someone weather or not that person is interested in me. But it's all about the connection. Smile, be friendly and something good will usually come out of that.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    Not often but when it happens it inevitably goes something like this:

    Me: *approach cute guy* "So I think you're cute, what's your name?"
    Guy: *gives name*.
    Me: "Do you like me?"
    Guy: *gives some vague hesitant response*
    Me: "Uh, so what does that mean to me? Do you like me or not?"
    Guy: "Sorry man, blah blah blah"
    Me: "Ok, have fun"

    I don't see how i can be disappointed or feel bad / hurt about people I barely know.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    Cant recall many times I was ever NOT rejected lol icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    The rejection that bothered me the most was when I answered an ad in my local newspaper. That was how we did it back then as there was no internet at that time. We exchanged a letter and photo and then I gave him my phone number. I can not remember exactly what his ad said. I do remember that he was tall and muscular and was looking for someone about my height and with a descent body. We decided to meet at a McDonalds that was across the parking lot from where I worked. We got our lunch and went and sat down and talked for a minute. He abruptly got up and yelled "I was looking for someone better looking than you who was muscular and you are not it!!!" and took off and left me sitting there with a mouth full of food and several people that I knew sitting near me.

    Now about 25 years later, I have a good laugh over it, but at the time it was rather devastating. I never answered another ad again from the paper. The other time was when I met someone about 3 years ago at Starbucks and he sat down across from me and promptly said that I definitely was not what he was looking for and left. That made me think about the McDonalds thing and I started cracking up and some guy came over and introduced himself to me and we became great friends. Then of course there are the no shows. I think that is rather tacky. He made a date with me, he should keep it or at least call, email or text me and tell me why.
  • jslifting

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    Nov 19, 2010 5:56 AM GMT
    OMG.. I have NEVER been rejected.

    Pshh...


    (NOTE SARCASM)
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    Nov 19, 2010 9:06 AM GMT
    usually rejection is from insecurity.

    I was rejected by a guy who said he was straight?
    does that count? LMFAO
  • nv7_

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    Nov 19, 2010 9:10 AM GMT
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