Is this guy I know gay?

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    Nov 18, 2010 11:11 PM GMT
    Alright. I met this guy who has a GF, and he came out to me and he believes he's also bi. He went on one adam4adam and he met this guy and had sex with him. he text me and told me he liked it (being bottom and topping) and he believes he'd definitly bi. he's still seeing his gf, but he met this guy 3 times and had sex with him 3 times. He was also texting another guy to meet up. then he told me, "I gave this a lot of thought, and i am definitly straight." I was like really? you had sex with a guy 3 times, that makes you pretty much gay/bi.

    now he's like trying to avoid men just to prove he's straight. i said, "if you are straight, you wouldn't have been on adam4adam or any other website if you were straight, and if you are straight you would have known it after you had sex with that guy the first time." even before he thought he wasn't gay. and yet he had sex with a guy the first time and then continued seeing that guy.


    so what do you think? i think it doesn't make sense to call himself straight if he had sex with that same guy 3 TIMES!! instead of just that 1 time and stopped.

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    Nov 19, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    ???http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1239518???
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:17 AM GMT
    It's called DENIAL.
    It's the result of homophobic upbringing due to strong social stigmas. In short most of us were forced to deny our instinctive sexual orientation from the earliest age and left with social scars of various types. It's up to us to set the world 'straight' about us, letting them understand that we are as 'normal' as they are, just that our sexual orientation is different.
  • sf_thumper

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    Nov 19, 2010 2:24 AM GMT
    Why does this matter in any way to you?
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    who cares? is this about you?
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    He's having the usual denial/buyers remorse, he tried it, he liked it, he's confused by it and not sure he wants to fit into what his natural inclinations turned out to be. I'll bet its kind of scared him too. After all, he's got a girlfriend and he's supposed to be straight to fit into what he has been taught is normal life around him. don't be supprised if he even shows anger over defending his "being straight". and Whatever you do, don't get any attachment or attraction to him sexually even if he acts like he wants to get it on sometime with you. Someone this confused will usually turn on you to cover his ass. BE CAREFUL !!! not saying you should shun his friendship, but keep your hands OFF. for your own good.
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    He just wants sex nothing more. What do u expect from him?
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    Nov 19, 2010 4:29 AM GMT
    I hope his girlfriend finds out before he gives her a disease.
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    Nov 19, 2010 4:52 AM GMT
    Having been totally gay since puberty, I don't understand guys like this. I presume they inhyje center of the sexual continuum or slightly gay. But with the social pressure and stigma, they want to be str8.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    sf_thumper saidWhy does this matter in any way to you?


    im just asking. it's like asking, "is the guy gay for having hello kitty things?". i just like to know. when things don't make sense, that's when we ask.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:39 AM GMT
    realifedad said He's having the usual denial/buyers remorse, he tried it, he liked it, he's confused by it and not sure he wants to fit into what his natural inclinations turned out to be. I'll bet its kind of scared him too. After all, he's got a girlfriend and he's supposed to be straight to fit into what he has been taught is normal life around him. don't be supprised if he even shows anger over defending his "being straight". and Whatever you do, don't get any attachment or attraction to him sexually even if he acts like he wants to get it on sometime with you. Someone this confused will usually turn on you to cover his ass. BE CAREFUL !!! not saying you should shun his friendship, but keep your hands OFF. for your own good.


    yeah don't worry. he i did like him at first until i got to know how sneaky and how unrealistic his goals are.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:39 AM GMT
    tallcanuck saidwho cares? is this about you?

    he came to me
  • mybud

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    Nov 19, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    you wanted him to bang you instead of the other guy....now your pissed....beat off...go to bed...things better in the morn....BUD
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    Nov 19, 2010 7:10 AM GMT
    Guys explore their sexuality.
    If he says he's straight, then that's what he is.
    I've had sex with guys that (right after intercourse) still claimed to be str8.
    I don't care if you're an extraterrestrial.
    Just as long as that (explicit) is TIGHT