Kissing an Ashtray instead of Peppermint or Spearmint!

  • MrNomis

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    Nov 18, 2010 11:41 PM GMT
    the guy i am currently seeing or been on a few dates smokes and even if he doesnt smoke when on a date or even a few hours before i can still smell the foul cigarrete on his breathe, lips, fingers, and when i kiss him.. I have tried to not let it bother me but i am having a difficult time with it.. He stated he will try and quit smoking so close to going on a date with me or when around me but even if he smoked early in the morning and i see him late that evening i can smell the cigarrette. I am loosing interest and am having a difficult time telling him.. "sorry i am just not that into you" icon_sad.gif ..any recomendations, advice, criticism?
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    Nov 19, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    There you go, trying to change the person you met and at some level who holds some of the characteristics you look for in a lover/partner.

    If the nastiness of the cigarette smoking really bothers you then you are going to have to say, adios. STOP fantasizing that he may quit if you guys grow closer.

    Nicotine is legally dispensed drug which is addictive.
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    Tell him honestly how you feel and move on. Its not easy to kick this habit and in the end you both might just end being frustrated.
  • camfer

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    Nov 19, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    Just pop one of these on your nose before he tries to kiss you.


    Seriously I'd never date a smoker. You're exposing yourself to all kinds of toxins even if he doesn't smoke around you. Then there's the guaranteed emphysema he'll get.

    You have to weigh if you want to be with a smoker. The idea that he might quit someday does not hold enough weight to be part of what you consider. Dating someone while hoping he will change doesn't sound very tenable.
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    Next time, date a NONsmoker.
  • shirty

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    Nov 19, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    you shouldn't expect him to quit for you so if it bothers you i would just move on...
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    Nov 19, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
    This topic reminds me of what happened at the bank years ago. I was looking after a guy who'd brought his little boy with him. Another customer was passing out no smoking stickers (it was the 70s and banks were chimneys). She approached the little boy and gave him one that said,

    "Kissing a person who smokes is like licking a dirty ashtray"

    The boy showed it to Dad who looked at the lady and said, quite mildly,

    "Have you ever done it?"

    "Done what?" she asked.

    "Licked a dirty ashtray."

    She looked horrified and said, "No!"

    He said, "So how do you know what it's like?"