What should I do

  • lick_it_low

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    Nov 19, 2010 5:13 AM GMT
    I went out with a guy and he paid for every thing our night was a blast and expensive on his half you can say. Not sure if he expected any thing but he didnt get any thing that night. If he takes me out again what is a good way to repay the favor. I am new at this too so keep that in mind. Only been with a couple guys.

    What would make you guys happy on a second date where your taking care of the date and stuff.
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    Nov 19, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    Jet say hey, can I repay you with a blowjob?!
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    Nov 19, 2010 7:35 AM GMT
    Just help by paying! Dont be the bitch that doesnt pay for anything or atleast pay for half the things! Hmmm maybe you should take him out and do something he enjoys to do.
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    Nov 19, 2010 9:02 AM GMT
    What's wrong with paying?

    I grew up being generous (and also part of my culture) and when I like someone (a friend, family member or someone I'm seeing) I always like to pay. It's not a big deal for me either and I never brag about it. I never even mention it.

    And I don't expect anything in return.
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    Nov 19, 2010 10:17 AM GMT
    lick_it_low saidI went out with a guy and he paid for every thing our night was a blast and expensive on his half you can say. Not sure if he expected any thing but he didnt get any thing that night. If he takes me out again what is a good way to repay the favor. I am new at this too so keep that in mind. Only been with a couple guys.

    What would make you guys happy on a second date where your taking care of the date and stuff.


    what do you consider expensive?
  • Regina_Guy

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    Nov 19, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    If you're suggesting paying the guy back with sexual favours just because he bought you a nice super, that's lame. If the only reason he bought you a nice supper was to get into your pants, that's equally as lame.

    Tell him how much you appreciated him buying you supper the other night an offer to return the favour next time you go out. If you can't afford it, there are probably other things you could do, like offer to make him supper, or take him to a movie.



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    Nov 19, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    iGotsuprise said
    lick_it_low saidI went out with a guy and he paid for every thing our night was a blast and expensive on his half you can say. Not sure if he expected any thing but he didnt get any thing that night. If he takes me out again what is a good way to repay the favor. I am new at this too so keep that in mind. Only been with a couple guys.

    What would make you guys happy on a second date where your taking care of the date and stuff.


    what do you consider expensive?


    This, but to elaborate, take him out to things that he likes or what ever mutual interest you both have.

    Nothing has to be expensive...Unless he's the snobby type and only likes for what you have in your wallet...If that's the case, then its red flag by me!
  • Iakona

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    Nov 19, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    Just thank the guy, and if there is chemistry, give him a good night kiss that he would never forget........depends on what you want to do mate....
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're a gold digger /prostitute. Fine, if that's the path you want to follow, but, be prepared to be tossed away.
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:58 PM GMT
    On the next date when you buy something like tickets to the movies, just preempt him and say that you'll get it because he paid for it last time. With his response you could go a few ways:

    He Says: Oh don't worry about it, I don't mind. / Are you sure? / Cool, thanks
    You could respond: It's fine, I don't want you to pay for it, you got it last time. / Sweet

    It's all about balance in where you both stand with each other and the situation, it's not that much of a big deal. I know that I do that with friends, one will pay for drinks because it's convenient and the other will get the next round/ shout some other time or I'll bring food and someone will bring furniture or whatever. I don't see why dating a guy would be any different than going out with friends (besides the hopes it will be more than friendship!). It doesn't have to be 50-50 as along as you neither of you take advantage of the generosity.

    Personally, when someone offers to do something for me without me asking, I expect that I would return the same courtesy and that is all (not necessarily right away either but in this case I think you should).

    The only thing I really remind myself to do is to be attentive to my date and it's pretty easy to do that if I'm into him. Notice how close he gets to me, carry his jacket if he's fumbling around for keys, smile when you look him in the eyes. Little things makes people notice you.

    It sounds all so adorable. Hope it goes well.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 19, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    dude, i would say don't beat yourself up over it. the only thing you should do is return the favor. if you two go out again just pay for it. hell suggest a movie or a nice restuarant. anyhow, if you want ask if you can cook him dinner. those are some good options
  • Timbales

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    Nov 19, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    Ask him out on a date and do something within your means.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Nov 19, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    lick_it_low saidI went out with a guy and he paid for every thing our night was a blast and expensive on his half you can say. Not sure if he expected any thing but he didnt get any thing that night. If he takes me out again what is a good way to repay the favor. I am new at this too so keep that in mind. Only been with a couple guys.

    What would make you guys happy on a second date where your taking care of the date and stuff.


    I think you are operating under the wrong mindset (i.e. "If he takes me out again"). HE is not taking you out, you're going out together. If he picked up the tab the first date, figure out something you can afford and treat him on the 2nd date. It's not important what something costs so much as the thought put into it. If you allow the precedent to be set that he is expected to pick up the tab on your dates, then he will never respect you. Most people can smell a free-loader a mile away.
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    Nov 19, 2010 4:29 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    lick_it_low saidI went out with a guy and he paid for every thing our night was a blast and expensive on his half you can say. Not sure if he expected any thing but he didnt get any thing that night. If he takes me out again what is a good way to repay the favor. I am new at this too so keep that in mind. Only been with a couple guys.

    What would make you guys happy on a second date where your taking care of the date and stuff.


    I think you are operating under the wrong mindset (i.e. "If he takes me out again"). HE is not taking you out, you're going out together. If he picked up the tab the first date, figure out something you can afford and treat him on the 2nd date. It's not important what something costs so much as the thought put into it. If you allow the precedent to be set that he is expected to pick up the tab on your dates, then he will never respect you. Most people can smell a free-loader a mile away.


    My thoughts exactly... OPs date could have had different motivation, but it's best IMO to operate under the assumption that it was just an act of generosity that doesn't require a measured payment of any sort. Just have fun together. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 19, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    cuddle, kiss, hand job, blow job, mission, doggie so he's not expecting any or all of these on a date????

    You not expecting any of the above on date???

    Check your pulse if your not, you might be dead.
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    Nov 19, 2010 5:04 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidSounds like you're a gold digger /prostitute. Fine, if that's the path you want to follow, but, be prepared to be tossed away.


    Why so quick to judge? icon_rolleyes.gificon_confused.gif