can't keep relationship

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    Nov 19, 2010 6:41 AM GMT
    Any advice ? I hooked up rather with quite a few real nice tops but just cannot keep the relationship ? any suggestions or ideas for me - Thanks
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    Nov 19, 2010 6:45 AM GMT
    Don't give it up so much.
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    Nov 19, 2010 9:04 AM GMT
    Davebottom0254 saidAny advice ? I hooked up rather with quite a few real nice tops but just cannot keep the relationship ? any suggestions or ideas for me - Thanks


    Well its about maturity, sex doesn't have to be the beginning of the end.
    if both people are upfront and honest about their intentions.
    ie...sex first, then date after... it's possible.
    I'm open to that...but most guys are too immature.
    Or just accustomed to being humped and dumped.

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    Nov 19, 2010 12:50 PM GMT
    Your profile seems to sum it all up. Maybe not make it all about sex and you'll get a different response.
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    Nov 19, 2010 1:29 PM GMT
    NC3athlete saidYour profile seems to sum it all up. Maybe not make it all about sex and you'll get a different response.

    Yup. How about make some "real" dates where you actually talk, do some personal stuff before hopping in bed. "Hooking up" and dating are usually different processes - and often come with different expectations. Make 'em wait a bit for the "prize"... like three dates. Not a hard rule, but if you like someone and it's mutual, they will probably wait for it. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:05 PM GMT
    res_ident said
    NC3athlete saidYour profile seems to sum it all up. Maybe not make it all about sex and you'll get a different response.

    Yup. How about make some "real" dates where you actually talk, do some personal stuff before hopping in bed. "Hooking up" and dating are usually different processes - and often come with different expectations. Make 'em wait a bit for the "prize"... like three dates. Not a hard rule, but if you like someone and it's mutual, they will probably wait for it. icon_wink.gif


    I agree. Also, I think another factor to be considered may possibly the types of guys your after; if these guys are just into the "hit it & run" scenario, then you can't be blamed for getting what you ordered. It's hard to house train a Tom cat, ya know?

    Also, rather than looking for a relationship, just focus on yourself; make yourself happy and you will have better odds of attracting the right kind of guy. Don't seem desperate because that is man poison; I know if I meet a guy and they instantly start talking about wanting a relationship I get a little gun shy.
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:43 PM GMT
    I know this sounds old-fashioned but leave sex out of the picture and get to know these men as real people. Go out on a date or for a walk in the park or the museum; spend time getting to know him and yourself and see how you click.
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    when you base your relationships on sex, thats all that you will get from it. When you base it on more substantiative criteria, you'll get more substantial results.

    If you're hooking up and expecting a relationship, you need to set your expectations accordingly.
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    Nov 19, 2010 2:55 PM GMT
    iGotsuprise said
    Davebottom0254 saidAny advice ? I hooked up rather with quite a few real nice tops but just cannot keep the relationship ? any suggestions or ideas for me - Thanks


    Well its about maturity, sex doesn't have to be the beginning of the end.
    if both people are upfront and honest about their intentions.
    ie...sex first, then date after... it's possible.
    I'm open to that...but most guys are too immature.
    Or just accustomed to being humped and dumped.



    This.......

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    The male species as a collective are ingrained to lay 'seeds' all around them... You just have to find the smart one for him stick around...Or use your man clenches and hold him tight ;)
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    Nov 19, 2010 8:01 PM GMT
    NC3athlete saidYour profile seems to sum it all up. Maybe not make it all about sex and you'll get a different response.

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