Nov 20, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
So, I'm kind of confused (and a little sad) and want to know what you guys think. I met a guy online a little over a month ago. After a week of talking he suggests we go out sometime. Since then, we have gone on 5 dates. One weekend, we hung out Friday, Saturday and Sunday night... so I was feeling good, thinking, he's definitely not dating anyone else, which is good for me. We then hung out that Thursday, went to see a movie, and had a great time. The thing is, I really thought he liked me- after every date he would text me (literally within 15 minutes of parting) that he had a great time. We still hadn't kissed though, but I will say most of the time it was wasn't a good place for a first kiss, especially since we are both somewhat shy guys.
Anyway, on our last date, he asks me shyly if I was doing anything over the weekend and suggested maybe we should hang out. Here is where things just went downhill. I texted him Saturday to see if we were still on, that I was gonna take a short nap and then we should go out. He said he was going to do the same and for me to call him when I was up. So I did, but didn't hear from him for over 2 hours, so I texted him again asking if he was awake, and he texts back and said that he totally passed out, was feeling tired and was just gonna stay in, and maybe tomorrow? I was bummed but just figured, OK, tomorrow. Well, I texted him the next day and AGAIN, no response for 2 hours, then finally he messages me saying he was so sorry he missed my text, but a friend is in town and they are going to dinner, but that he wanted to see me soon. At that point I decided to stop contacting him, to let him call me if he really wanted to hang out. So he did, a couple days later asked if I wanted to grab a beer on Thursday, and I said yes. Last night comes, and I texted him to see if we were still on. AGAIN, no response for 2 hours, and then I get the same story about him falling asleep after work and another night would be better, and that he's sorry he's doing this again.
I just don't get it. We hit it off so well, and nothing happened after our last date to have changed things... it's like a switch just flipped in his head. He acted so interested then out of nowhere, this. What do you all think? Could he really have been genuinely too tired/busy for 3 times in a row? I'm never too tired to hang out with a guy that I'm into, ya know? To me, it feels like he is still in love with an ex or something, and I'm kind of like the rebound/2nd guy. I've been in that situation before and this is how the guy acted. I've decided to not contact him any more but I can't get over the fact that I really believed he was into me. I'm also trying to not let this hurt my ego, but I'm feeling really depressed because I was excited about where this was heading.
Sorry for the long rant, I really just wanted to explain the situation fully!
Anyway, on our last date, he asks me shyly if I was doing anything over the weekend and suggested maybe we should hang out. Here is where things just went downhill. I texted him Saturday to see if we were still on, that I was gonna take a short nap and then we should go out. He said he was going to do the same and for me to call him when I was up. So I did, but didn't hear from him for over 2 hours, so I texted him again asking if he was awake, and he texts back and said that he totally passed out, was feeling tired and was just gonna stay in, and maybe tomorrow? I was bummed but just figured, OK, tomorrow. Well, I texted him the next day and AGAIN, no response for 2 hours, then finally he messages me saying he was so sorry he missed my text, but a friend is in town and they are going to dinner, but that he wanted to see me soon. At that point I decided to stop contacting him, to let him call me if he really wanted to hang out. So he did, a couple days later asked if I wanted to grab a beer on Thursday, and I said yes. Last night comes, and I texted him to see if we were still on. AGAIN, no response for 2 hours, and then I get the same story about him falling asleep after work and another night would be better, and that he's sorry he's doing this again.
I just don't get it. We hit it off so well, and nothing happened after our last date to have changed things... it's like a switch just flipped in his head. He acted so interested then out of nowhere, this. What do you all think? Could he really have been genuinely too tired/busy for 3 times in a row? I'm never too tired to hang out with a guy that I'm into, ya know? To me, it feels like he is still in love with an ex or something, and I'm kind of like the rebound/2nd guy. I've been in that situation before and this is how the guy acted. I've decided to not contact him any more but I can't get over the fact that I really believed he was into me. I'm also trying to not let this hurt my ego, but I'm feeling really depressed because I was excited about where this was heading.
Sorry for the long rant, I really just wanted to explain the situation fully!
