threesome question

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    Nov 20, 2010 7:12 AM GMT
    so, I had my first threesome. they picked me up at a gay club, we were all very drunk, we went back to their place. and giddy up.. I exchanged numbers (with one of the couple) and I got a taxi home.

    a day or so passes and I get a text from one of them saying please don't contact us, his partner and he have been arguing ever since. a couple more texts about how cool they were, and I was, and wish we could be friends etc.

    I don't want to be a home wrecker! is it wrong for me to text him and see how it's going? I feel like I need to talk things through with them etc. I don't want to do the 3some thing again, but I would like some gay friends.

    wdyt?
  • my8kitso

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    Nov 20, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    Having sex with one person is complex, having sex with two is 10x more complex. When they work, 3somes can be awesome and A LOT of fun. When the don't work, they can be a real disaster.

    Having sex while intoxicated is never a great idea because you or them may do things they otherwise might not, which can bring up resentment or guilt later. When you are the 3rd with a couple, it's important to go into it very open about what you're expecting from them. Like any relationship, or just a one nighter, being open and honest about what you want is always the best way to go.

    Be sure to give everyone equal attention, it never works if you're only into one of them. In the case you described I would not text them or contact them. Give them time and if they want a repeat they know your number. If they are having relationship issues a text from you is not going to help matters.

    Good luck!

    Pete
  • Timbales

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    Nov 20, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    I'd stay out of it at this point.

    If you get contacted again, tell him to call you when he's single.
  • joncfernan

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    Nov 20, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    Definitely stay out of this one. Sounds like a danger zone for you and them!
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    Nov 20, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    makarov99 saidDefinitely stay out of this one. Sounds like a danger zone for you and them!


    Seriously if they are having whatever relationship troubles...Stay out of it...Besides you can always makes other friends....


    I remember this guy I liked brought another guy for a threesome...I was not into the guy at all...I simply simply ignored whatever he was doing and well he stopped giving attention as well... After wards I he changed and left...And I gave the other guy a piece of my mind....
  • Gaymer

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    Nov 20, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    If you were asked to not contact them, then don't respond if they contact you.

    Just stay out of the situation. It obviously won't work out. You had a great time, and just leave it at that.

    Normally, I would advise to try and mend the situation, but it seems that even if you try to be nice and helpful, that you'll just agitate the situation even more.

    Hopefully (if you have another threesome opportunity) it won't turn out so dramaticly icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 20, 2010 3:52 PM GMT
    Threesomes are like chemistry. When everything comes together it can be fireworks. Otherwise, shit blows up in your face & you suffer first degree burns.... If that couple has been fighting since the night they took you home, there is a good chance they had issues before; don't get caught in the crossfire
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    Nov 20, 2010 4:18 PM GMT
    Stay out of this atleast for right now. If you ever bump in to them again start over as just friends. If you contact one of them, the other one might end feeling insecure and thus it will pull you into the drama as well.
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    Nov 20, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    Definitely stay away. This could get messy.
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    Nov 20, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    Just leave them alone for now. A friendship with a couple u just had a three way with won't work out. Step away and let them figure out their own issues. This is not about you or you and somebody else, there are way too many characters in this scene. He said don't contact us, then don't. If they want to talk to you again they will text/call you. Move on.
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    Nov 20, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    What the hell is wrong with that couple??... get a grip man, sheesh!!

    There's only one place for drama... the theatre

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    Nov 20, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    thanks for your replies guys. i'll take the advice and keep out of it!

    ta.
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    Nov 21, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    why should you care? that was a fuck and go situation.
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    Nov 21, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    STRANGER DANGER!

    2 + 1 doesn't always equal 3. It can also equal a major box of crazy ....
  • NerdLifter

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    Nov 21, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    amar_m said

    There's only one place for drama... the theatre

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    Ah Amar... why are you so epic?
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    Nov 21, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
    but when they give your number to someone else, as a reference LMFAO!
  • mynyun

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    Nov 21, 2010 4:52 AM GMT
    iGotsuprise saidwhy should you care? that was a fuck and go situation.



    While I agree with this I also agree the [being] drunk situation probably wasn't a good one. Don't get me wrong. I've had a few drunk scenerios as well. But in a threesome... Well it sounds like someone probably felt slighted or it wasn't completely agreed upon or whatever the case there was hostility on their end. So I'd chuck the number and carry on. icon_rolleyes.gif
    Because in the long run aren't we all looking for less drama.?
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    Nov 21, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Perhaps they do not understand the difference between love and lust. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 21, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    Being a really good "3rd" is an art.

    First, I have to be attracted to both guys.
    Second, they both have to be attracted to me.
    If either of the above two attractions is not there, it just won't happen.

    Next, I make sure that I am the orchestrator of the event. I make sure that everybody is having a good time and that everybody has their turn being the center of attention. Nobody gets left out.

    When done, I might come back for a repeat performance, maybe.

    If I sense any kind of disengagement from either guy...we're done.

    I also reassure the guys that I respect their relationship and acknowledge that I am "spice", and that's it.

    When I have three ways, they tend to go well. I make sure they do. Or they just don't happen at all.
  • Vaughn

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    Nov 21, 2010 5:41 AM GMT
    Committed gay couples at a gay club. I guess if your there for the music and to dance then it makes sense.
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    Nov 21, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    It's really not your problem anymore. THEY were the couple who brought YOU into it.

    That you keep communicating exacerbates what should've been only an issue BEFORE the fact.
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    Nov 21, 2010 8:05 AM GMT
    Well... *evil laughter*
    Generally.. hypothetically...
    You're gonna be attracted to one more than the other...
    And guys tend to be possessive with the guy they're fucking.
    so to share that piece of ass, will bring out the bitch in any guy.