I just told my mom

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    Nov 20, 2010 10:06 PM GMT
    I was so scare, it took me like and hour to get into her room to tell her that Im gay, she was so accepting, she huged me, I cry, she didn't. We talked, she asked the expected questions: had I been with a man? Was it her fault? Was I compleatly sure?

    She is taking it so well I think and yet I dont feel as good as I though I would, or as I remember feeling after I just told my brother or my best friend, why is that?
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    Nov 20, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    Congratulations on coming out to your mother. She must be a very wonderful, compassionate person to take it so well.

    ShaDoWhn saidShe is taking it so well I think and yet I dont feel as good as I though I would, or as I remember feeling after I just told my brother or my best friend, why is that?


    The very first people you come out to is very personal in that not only are you telling other people, you are now truly admitting it to yourself. While telling a parent is a very big step, by that time most of us have usually told several other people, so we have passed that satisfying feeling of self awareness.
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    Nov 20, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    ShaDoWhn saidshe asked the expected questions: had I been with a man? Was it her fault? Was I compleatly sure?
    My mom also asked me "the basic three."
    My answers were "yes, yes, yes."
    Even today, almost 20 years later, I still remind her it's her fault because she made me accept a porcelain doll as a Christmas gift when I was in 2nd grade.
    She still believes me. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 20, 2010 11:08 PM GMT
    Congrats brother and good for your mom. I think the difference is she is your mom and it would be the same feeling if she found schmegley in your underwear, it's your mom, man. But she is a genuine mom, unconditionally loves her son and that is so wonderful man that you have to take time to understand and get your head around it. I love this......Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 20, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    Thanks guys she is wonderful. I am the one reacting weird I think, I feel like Im in shock or better yet "numb" like I should be feeling something either extreme joy or sadness.

    She is amazing though reading Pflag's guise to parents (not acurrate name) I must say theres not a lot of info in espaƱol.
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    Nov 21, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    Yes, soon you will grow tired of coming out: it gets boring; still waiting for someone to go ape shit.
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    Nov 21, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidYes, soon you will grow tired of coming out: it gets boring; still waiting for someone to go ape shit.


    Wow, I just came out to my family like Tuesday and I am already tired of the attention. Did have a scare when my brother got drunk, broke down my door, and started throwing me around (this was brought on by something other than me being gay, it just happened to land on the night after I came out). My mom won't quit calling because the wants me to know she loves me... Me and my brother are already back to normal (other than the fact that he now calls me kitten icon_eek.gif ) and now my brothers girlfriend is all about petting me, playing with my hair, and wants to talk about boys.

    I fear after coming out everyone around me is making me uncomfortable rather than me doing it to them.

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    Nov 21, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    I told my mom 2 weeks ago. It was surprisingly uneventful. Like usually someone ends up crying and saying "I love you" lol...

    In my case it was:

    Mom, think I might be gay.

    mom: Oh... are you sure?

    Me: Pretty sure yes.

    Mom: Okay (beat). Are you bringing someone special for christmas this year?

    Me: I wish! lol

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    Nov 21, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
    kkongroar saidI told my mom 2 weeks ago. It was surprisingly uneventful. Like usually someone ends up crying and saying "I love you" lol...

    In my case it was:

    Mom, think I might be gay.

    mom: Oh... are you sure?

    Me: Pretty sure yes.

    Mom: Okay (beat). Are you bringing someone special for christmas this year?

    Me: I wish! lol



    Your mom is badass
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    Nov 21, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    I dare say yes she is lol

    But u wouldnt know from just looking at her. She's a very classy and somewhat reserved person... still my favourite person in the whole world tho.
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    Nov 21, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    This thread is full of great stories. Congratulations, and thanks for sharing.
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    Nov 21, 2010 7:23 AM GMT
    Congratulations. Best wishes.