online dating, and im striking out

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    Nov 21, 2010 8:02 PM GMT
    Hey,
    So I've been doing the whole online thing for a while. And lately I've been chatting with a couple of really decent guys.

    I usually chat with them online, exchange numbers, text or chat on the phone a couple time, then when I think it is safe I see if they want to hang out. There might be an adding of facebook friendship as well (to learn more about them and to also see more pictures of them).

    And recently, I've been striking out...

    Date #1: Meet up with at dorm room, chilled and chatted. Seem like a nice guy, but when I saw him for the first time was a lot bigger than all of pics portrayed him to look like. He also came off as a lot more feminine than what I usually go for. (I go for: in shape guys as I am in pretty decent shape myself and more masculine guys). Strike 1

    Date #2: Meet up with him and when out for coffee. Seemed like a great guy in the beginning, but them ended up coming off really pretentious, as if he was too good for this conversation or even me. (Again, is it too much to ask for a nice guy to just have a good conversation with?) Strike 2

    Am I doing something wrong? Should I take a break from online dating? I’m usually too nervous to go up to guys at bars or clubs, and I don’t usually like going to bars or clubs either. ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED. Thank you in advance
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    Nov 21, 2010 8:08 PM GMT
    In all honesty, I'm not sure the success rate of "real life" dating is any higher. You have to try quite a few before finding a good match. Even then, there's no guarantee they won't flake out six months later.
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    Nov 21, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    i've given up on online dating, love and men altogether.

    where's that revolver?
  • jofo

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    Nov 22, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    hahah
    you cant give up after 2 dates...
    ive been on quite a number and im still trying to be hopeful icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 22, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    You need to stop picking. Get to know your date. I would go for personality
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    Nov 22, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    Just keep meeting people. Hopefully you will find someone you at least click with as a friend. The best relationships start as friendships. Just keep meeting people, and drop your expectations a bit. If you go into every meeting looking for your perfect match, you're bound to end up disappointed more often than not. If you just go into it with the intentions of getting to know someone, you might end up being presently surprised down the road. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Slevin75

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    Nov 30, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    I have too.
  • Slevin75

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    Nov 30, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    I have too.
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    Nov 30, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Mmmm my friend its really hard i am doing this online stuff for a long time hehe but on RJ i meet a really nice guy smart,funny,intelligent,hot, you know all of the things you thought are impossible a great looking guy that is nice and a good friend and he has a brain too heheh.So i really like some of them i would love to meet them some day live but until you meet them theire is nothing you do to know their really great guy icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 30, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    Reminds me of this:
    Cause I always meet people that are too far away =[

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    Nov 30, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    101matty saidReminds me of this:
    Cause I always meet people that are too far away =[

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    heheh same here my friend same hire icon_cry.gif
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    Nov 30, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    txguy1977 saidJust keep meeting people. Hopefully you will find someone you at least click with as a friend. The best relationships start as friendships. Just keep meeting people, and drop your expectations a bit. If you go into every meeting looking for your perfect match, you're bound to end up disappointed more often than not. If you just go into it with the intentions of getting to know someone, you might end up being presently surprised down the road. icon_biggrin.gif


    This.

    And also this:

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    Nov 30, 2010 12:39 AM GMT
    I gave up awhile back but now have started back up with a new attitude that seems to be working. I'm not looking for love at first date or even expecting to find love at all. I'm just trying to meet interesting people and hopefully make some friends. I had a bad date on Wednesday night but a great date last night. We made plans to get together tomorrow night. Another guy I met online took me around town and introduced me to all his friends.

    Just try using the internet to expand your social network not to find the perfect date.