Coming out friendship help! Need some advice!

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    Nov 21, 2010 8:49 PM GMT
    Alright guys, this thanks giving I want to come out to two of my best friends I have and they both are guys. One of them just came back home yesterday and we have a long history with each other of doing stupid stuff and having a good time. We had so many adventures while we were high going out and exploring places stoned and last night we got stoned again since we havent seen each other in like 3 months. So last night we were talking about all our retarded things we did while we were high and how amazing they were since we were like "how do the fuck did we get there or do that?" While we were talking I was thinking about coming out to him during that time but then I was hesistant that he might take it the wrong way like "oh I like him or something." Cause I think he may take it the wrong way and think in his head I have feelings for him or something around that relams. I dont want to ruin our friendship over this, cause he is one of my best friend I have. Today we are doing a trip to Santa Barbara to pick up my other best friend. Its going to be a 2 hr ride and I was wondering should I tell him while im not stonned and see his reaction or tell him while im high and ease him down in to the conversation.
    For my other friend, I dont know what his reaction is going to be since he is kind of an odd one to figure out. I know he might not want to talk to me again, maybe... I dont know.
    I dont know If I should tell them and ruin our weekend trip over this or wait till like the end of thanksgiving while they are about to leave so they have time to reflect over this. What is your opinion on this topic? I kind I want to hear what you guys have to say or experiences you had on this topic. Might help me make my decision quickly in my head to tell them or not.
    Also, I came out to a couple of friends before, I dont know if they took it well or not, but I havent talked to them ever since. That is why im soo worried about coming out to my best friends cause I dont want something to go wrong.
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    Nov 21, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    Firstly, it's great to have friends like that, brother....Secondly imho you're doing one thing wrong.....setting a timetable. This is not something that should be done that way.. It should be done when you are right, the time is right and the circumstances are right....and when all three stars align, you will know. As far as your friends thinking you are interested in them, I thought the same thing so when I came out to them, I qualified that they were friends only....that I wasn't interested in them sexually...

    Know what their response was? "Why, what's wrong with me, not cute enough?". I laughed my ass off.

    Take it slow bud, it'll work out and you'll find out that they love you anyway and it's no big deal.......................Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 21, 2010 9:20 PM GMT
    Well right now I feel its like the right time in my life to come out to my good friends since I feel like Im holding something back about myself to them. Like this past few months it allowed me time to reflect about many things in my life that I was able to deal with a lot of stuff without my two best friends since they were gone. I feel like Im ready to tell them like around sometime this thanksgiving break we have,but I dont know if I should. I feel like once I tell them this, I dont have to hold back on the stuff I want to be doing in my life like actually going out with other guys and etc. I think this is the only thing holding me back in my life right now, the acceptance of my best friends cause they are like family in a sense to me. I am more closer with them than my real family and they know everything about me.
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    Nov 21, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    I don't like hearing about you getting stoned, but aside from that you're doing great and I'm proud of you man. Remember what Vetteset says about the time and the circumstances being right....and when all stars align, you will know.
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    Nov 21, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
    I agree with my fellow posters. One suggestion is to come out to both of them at the same time. That will take care of the "Are you coming on to me?" questions. Good luck, live long and prosper.
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    Nov 22, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    I had the same situation a while back with coming out two my two best friends from highschool. I had been worried about t for a while and finally one day we were all goofing off playing video games and I just said it. They both we completely fine with it and didn't even bother to pause the game...we have talked about it since but I loved how t was just "o cool- I'm stillgonna kick your ass in this round"

    My advice- don't work it up to be a big deal just when you have both of them there *I would say not high* just say it
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    Nov 22, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    The biggest demons are imagined, and, are within.
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    Nov 22, 2010 2:58 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidThe biggest demons are imagined, and, are within.


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