any advice on dating someone cuter than you?

  • helios01

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    Nov 24, 2010 9:09 PM GMT
    hello ppls.
    I just wanted some advice or to know if im being too dumb or something. Well i have been together with my Bf for more than a year and we are so much in love and just talk about nothing but everything at the same time. But when we are out in public i get self-concious. He is about 130 lbs which is about half my weight, and when we are walking i catch guys looking at him all the time. That is not the problem cuz he is very cute and even i can't help just staring at him; what bothers me is what they think about me next to him. I feel like they wonder why such an amazing guy is dating shamu from sea world. In one of my other posts they said i should have a better reason than that for wanting to lose weight. Has anyone else had this problem? any advice? am i just being dumb? thanks in advance guys
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    Nov 24, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    Look Shamu from Sea World, the guy obviously likes you, you been together a year... relax.

    If you wanna lose weight then lose the weight but do it for the right reasons because you wanna do it for you..
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    Nov 24, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    you're not being dumb, dude. You are over-thinking things though and admitting to some sort of inferiority complex. You've been together for a year - no need for you to feel that way from the sounds of it.
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    Nov 25, 2010 1:46 AM GMT
    If you are dating someone who just happens to be more attractive then you are then the best advice I can give you is to thank your lucky stars and love the fact that he is dating you and no one else and to stop being insecure about that little fact.

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    Nov 25, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    Youre hot and no one in the world is hotter than you. Keep that attitude. Your date likes you for a reason, just make sure your lack of confidence doesnt get in the way.
  • mybud

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    Nov 25, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    Dude...work on your esteem....he sees redeeming qualities in ya...If not he would have said, "See ya".....the only thing that matters to him appears to be the size of your heart....that's enough....Bud
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    Nov 25, 2010 1:55 AM GMT
    "Fuck'em"
    *Not literally
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    Nov 25, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what someone else considers beautiful, can be found gross by someone else.
    fuck the rest of the world, its you and your bf that matter, dont let any thoughts get in the way of that, youre both together for a reason. icon_smile.gif
  • southernT

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    Nov 25, 2010 4:41 AM GMT
    If this is bother you, ask ur bf and see what he says. Yes beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you think you are overweight or your BMI (body mass index) is over 25, and if you think lose weight will give you a better health. Then do it for your own good. Communication is the key in any relationship.
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    Nov 25, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
    charlitos saidYoure hot and no one in the world is hotter than you. Keep that attitude. Your date likes you for a reason, just make sure your lack of confidence doesnt get in the way.


    qft. You can confidently say that you're hot and no one's hotter because your man thinks so, and his opinion is what matters.

    -Doug
  • ohioguy12

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    Nov 25, 2010 5:19 AM GMT
    A1EX said"Fuck'em"
    *Not literally


    agreed! but I'm being Literalicon_wink.gif

    btw, why does your profile say "single?" just curious
  • rioriz

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    Nov 25, 2010 5:24 AM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidyou're not being dumb, dude. You are over-thinking things though and admitting to some sort of inferiority complex. You've been together for a year - no need for you to feel that way from the sounds of it.


    Agree with this. This is part of the reason I broke up with my 2nd bf. He was always making comments about people staring, never trusted me out alone, and always talked about me leaving him for someone cuter cause I could get better. After awhile this got old and it lead me to not want to be with him anymore. Accept that he wants you for you. If you want to lose weight because it will make you happy, then go for it!
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    Nov 25, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    At the end of the day if you know that when he looks at you that he knows that you are the one he wants, which is probably 100% assured because he chose you, then know that no matter what, you are all he is looking for. Don't be that person that changes for someone else, change is always better when it is for you.
  • helios01

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    Nov 26, 2010 7:41 AM GMT
    thanks for the help guys. Its not really a permanent low self esteem; it's more there when we are out and maybe i dont feel pretty enough? its weird, but u guys are right. I dont tell him how i feel, i keep it inside. im trying to change myself little by little. i Lost 5 pnds changing my diet a bit, hope it will be permanent and i can kill more lol.
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    Nov 26, 2010 8:29 AM GMT
    Relish the fact that you got a hot guy who LOVES YOU, and the haters are envious of you.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Nov 30, 2010 5:12 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidRelish the fact that you got a hot guy who LOVES YOU, and the haters are envious of you.


    Precisely! That's what I've learned to do 15 years later!
  • helios01

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    Dec 02, 2010 8:52 AM GMT
    thank you so much for the advice. icon_smile.gif
    I stopped thinking too much about it and we had a great time on our last date icon_smile.gif. I mean some ideas are still there, can't go cold turkey for some reason but one step at a time.
    It was kinda cute bcuz he took me to see the new Harry potter movie (he knows I am a fan and he surprised me icon_smile.gif) and harry came out shirtless in a lot of scenes, he kept trying to distract me every time harry came out lol.
    I feel really special with him and i love making him feel special. Thanks so much, u kinda need sum1 who isnt in ur shoes to show you that you're being silly and to keep ur bewbs up high and enjoy the moment by being urself. icon_smile.gif
  • helios01

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    Dec 02, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    It was mostly a feeling i wasnt making him look good enough. its hard to explain. I been fluffy all of my life, its only been a prob when wantin 2 date. but even my doc is on my back about my weight specially since my dad just got diagnosed with high blood pressure. But he says i should weigh 130 for my height 5'9. 0-0 i am at 260ish. its a long way to go. But i am changing my diet and trying to exercise more. I need to improve my health and looking good shirtless wont be too bad icon_smile.gif