Christmas and boyfriend

  • Onemoresummer

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    Nov 25, 2010 7:48 AM GMT
    My boyfriend wants to come to my parents christmas dinner lunch which is cool.
    The problem is they don't know im gay. And that he is my boyfriend.
    How can I deal with the situation?

    This is a serious relationship, not some 1 month fling.
    He wants me to come to his sisters in the evening..

    I think he is kinda hoping to come...he hasn't met them a big deal for him.


    I feel so stressed about it.
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    Nov 25, 2010 12:07 PM GMT
    Christmas lunch is not the time to be surprising family members that you are gay and then wanting them to meet your boy friend, It is too much for one day and may dampen the yuletide spirit of the family. Why wait for Christmas lunch to do this? And I think you should tell your family about your sexual preference before you even think about bringing a boy friend to a family luncheon.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 25, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    I agree .... if you're not ready to head them off at the pass
    Don't make it a possibility at Christmas
    because either you're going to have to lie through your teeth about who this guy is and why you're bringing him there or you're going to have to say
    ... Hey Mom Dad? You wanna know what Santa brought you this year?
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    Nov 25, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    Hmmm...I'm going to disagree with the guys here. Before I came out to my family I had guys over to Mom and Dad's for events. They were my buddies. A couple of them were bfs. Just behave like buddies, though he may not enjoy that at all, because I get the feeling he wants to meet them and be introduced as bf.

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    Nov 25, 2010 3:32 PM GMT
    Is it really worth the stress?
    If I knew it was stressing my man out this much I would tell him it's ok, but lets work on it for next year.
    Is it that important to your relationship?
    If it is really important to him; I would suck it up and go.
    How long have you been together?
    We didn't make the in-law commitments till the second year.
    Overall, like Doug of meninlove, I was bringing "buddy's" over, well before I came out...hmmm; maybe it was a clue?