Where do you meet gay people?

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    Nov 27, 2010 10:51 PM GMT
    If you live outside a popular gay populated area, where there are not LGTB alliances, gay sports clubs, gay gyms, etc, where do you meet people?

    I'm particulary asking those that lived/grow up in small towns, you know the kind of place where you might think you are the only one, even though you know you can not be.

    So far this is my story: I've met some people through Facebook, but those aren't real conections, at University I know some gay guys that are friends of some friends but I have nothing in common with them. (almost)

    as I mention there aren't Gay alliances or sports clubs, trame around for me to join. Is my only alternative to meet people the Gay Bars? I'm not really a party boy, I cant count with one hands the times I've gone to clubs (straight) so I'm a little reluctant to go to gay ones.

    I've hear some stuff, which I know are probably untrue, like everyone there just want sex, the first time you go there you'll be seen as FRESH MEET, add to those the fact that I have no one to go with!! I know that should I go alone to a gay bar, everyone will asume Im just there for sex.

    Recently I was invited via FB to a semi-private party, I kind of want to go, but I have the same issue "going alone" do you think is a good Idea?

    Again, please share annecdotes, experiences and stories about what you used to do to meet people? How did you met your best gay friends? Thanks in advance guys.
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    Nov 27, 2010 10:52 PM GMT
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    Nov 27, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    ShaDoWhn saidIf you live outside a popular gay populated area, where there are not LGTB alliances, gay sports clubs, gay gyms, etc, where do you meet people?
    Parks and public restrooms.
    Srsly...
    Those were my only options when living in the sticks.
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    Nov 27, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    ShaDoWhn saidIf you live outside a popular gay populated area, where there are not LGTB alliances, gay sports clubs, gay gyms, etc, where do you meet people?
    Parks and public restrooms.
    Srsly...
    Those were my only options when living in the sticks.


    haha Paul, you're such a ho! icon_lol.gif

    What university do you go to, OP? I thought almost every University had a LGBT alliance these days? :O
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    Nov 27, 2010 11:24 PM GMT
    KardioKing said
    paulflexes said
    ShaDoWhn saidIf you live outside a popular gay populated area, where there are not LGTB alliances, gay sports clubs, gay gyms, etc, where do you meet people?
    Parks and public restrooms.
    Srsly...
    Those were my only options when living in the sticks.


    haha Paul, you're such a ho! icon_lol.gif

    What university do you go to, OP? I thought almost every University had a LGBT alliance these days? :O


    not in this country icon_sad.gif
  • corknut

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    Nov 27, 2010 11:44 PM GMT
    From what I've heard Barnes and Noble's is a good place. Be forewarned this is not from first hand experience; its just what my BF has told me and he grew up in some small town in Indiana.
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    Nov 28, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    corknut saidFrom what I've heard Barnes and Noble's is a good place. Be forewarned this is not from first hand experience; its just what my BF has told me and he grew up in some small town in Indiana.


    very true, the fags love the bookstore.

    For me, I don't necessarily look to meet gay people. If someone happens to be gay then we share the same sexual orientation; end of story.

    I meet people everyday that share common interests/traits/passions. This is much more rewarding than desperately seeking the gays. Why are people so discriminatory?
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    Nov 28, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    I love going to the bookstore too. But how do you meet guys there, no one ever talks there lol icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 28, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    At gloryholes, truck stops, abandoned wig shops, and the occassional outlet mall.

    But in the real world at school, work, friends parties, starbucks, borders, and the occassional mcdonalds.
  • COyogabum

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    Nov 28, 2010 6:03 AM GMT
    Honduras...you're probably going to have things a little different than answers are in the U.S. I went to undergrad in Mexico. It is generally easier to meet other gay guys through other gay guys. Perhaps those friends of friends that don't seem that interesting could end up introducing you to a few people may get along with. Coming out and finding your way in Latin America is hard, but rewarding nonetheless. You may want to try the facebook route or go to bars. Just watch your back regarding alcohol and drugs. Be open to meeting new people and you may be surprised.
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    Nov 28, 2010 6:39 AM GMT
    This website. You're already here, honey.
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    Nov 28, 2010 6:40 AM GMT
    I heard Craiglist is a great spot...hope you dont mind shady characters though :l
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    Nov 28, 2010 6:50 AM GMT
    KardioKing said
    paulflexes said
    ShaDoWhn saidIf you live outside a popular gay populated area, where there are not LGTB alliances, gay sports clubs, gay gyms, etc, where do you meet people?
    Parks and public restrooms.
    Srsly...
    Those were my only options when living in the sticks.


    haha Paul, you're such a ho! icon_lol.gif

    What university do you go to, OP? I thought almost every University had a LGBT alliance these days? :O
    Ever been to Baylor?

    Although Kardio does have a point. I heard that the highest concentrations of LGBT people are in resort towns, college towns and state capitals. To be fair, ShaDoWhn, you are from the Honduras, so because of the whole being within the tropics, there's bound to be a huge resort town somewhere by you.
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    Nov 28, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    I meet them the same way I meet any other guys or girls...Social Outlets.

    So that would entitle:

    1) Parties

    2) Events on Campus

    3) The Gay Bar (There is only one in my city, which happens to be pretty close to me, and YES, there are creepy guys there who just want to fuck, but there are also legitimate chill guys too)

    4) Classes (Smaller Lectures and Discussion Sections)

    5) Friends of Friends (Just letting friends know that you're gay sometimes has some added benefits, hasn't happened with me, but they still talk about their gay friends and introduce them to me, which is nice)

    6) Common Interests (For me, Tennis and Volleyball)

    NONE of these involve staying at home alone. It might be hard in some of those situations (like events on campus or lectures), but just keep in mind, no one wants to be alone (well almost no one)...thus, it couldn't hurt to just break out of your shell, and start talking to someone in class icon_smile.gif

    Best of luck to you bud! icon_cool.gif

  • hikerC

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    Nov 28, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    How do you meet people on Facebook? I use it to keep in touch with people I already know. Do you just add people you want to get to know? I never thought of using it for that purpose!

    I live in the suburbs of Toronto, among families and schools and churches and Home Depots and Grocery stores. Thank god for the internet and sites like this one, otherwise I never would have met any other gay men! I didn't even know where the gay village was until an amazing guy from RealJock showed me.

    It must be hard in a small town, good luck! Just save your money so you can move closer to a big city someday, your life is just beginning! You'll meet lots of gay men down the road!
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    Nov 28, 2010 7:40 AM GMT
    hikerC saidHow do you meet people on Facebook? I use it to keep in touch with people I already know. Do you just add people you want to get to know? I never thought of using it for that purpose!


    I was actually wondering the same thing, because like hikerC, I just use Facebook to keep in touch with people I ALREADY know!
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    Nov 29, 2010 1:58 AM GMT
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    hikerC saidHow do you meet people on Facebook? I use it to keep in touch with people I already know. Do you just add people you want to get to know? I never thought of using it for that purpose!


    I was actually wondering the same thing, because like hikerC, I just use Facebook to keep in touch with people I ALREADY know!


    Lol well you see someone that has the same interest you do (personally Iook out for Gaga, Britney and Madonna which are unlikely to show up on straight guys profiles) and I send a friend request, thats it. I try to talk to them through the chat so I just dont collect people, try to get to know them. Its fun after a while to comment on the things you have in common.
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    Nov 29, 2010 2:00 AM GMT
    How would you search for them in the first place? Just type in random names like "Chris" and "Jason" and see what comes up? haha
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    Nov 29, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    PaintDude saidHow would you search for them in the first place? Just type in random names like "Chris" and "Jason" and see what comes up? haha


    lol no!! Most likely to be friends of friends or at least with three degrees of separation so you dont end up befriending a serial killer.

    You know Facebook recomends possible friends also (it appears on the top left) lol lately fb has been showing suggestions of shirtless dudes lol I think fb is into me xD