Sleepless 4 Chicago!!!

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    Nov 30, 2010 8:38 AM GMT
    I am in NEED of the RJ'rs opinions for my current conundrum...
    So about a year and a half ago, I was still living in San Francisco and I met the most amazing guy. So check it;
    -He was tall, light haired, grey eyed, atheltic
    -Former Military man, spoke four languages
    -Was working as a art dealer
    - Loves travel
    - & also has a well developed spiritual side.

    The moment we met was instant, insane, off the charts chemistry; we talked for hours the first few times we met, eventually ending up in bed, after knocking over a few pieces of furniture; the sex was AMAZING!! To this day I still think, jerk off, fantasize, about the hot times we shared together... Anyway, neither one of us were in a place in our lives where we were open to a relationship, but the last couple of weeks we began talking again.. In the past year and a half, he has ended up in Chicago & I have ended up in Upstate New York...Talking again, we have the same insane connection & chemistry.
    Im planning on going to Chicago for Christmas & New Years so I can spend the holidays with him.
    Is this crazy? A few parts of my brain are saying "What the F$&K?" but he and I are intensely into each other..
    What do the RJ'ers think?
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    Nov 30, 2010 8:41 AM GMT
    Did I mention he is a smart, sexy, creative, former Military man?
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    Nov 30, 2010 12:12 PM GMT
    Um... DO IT. DUH!! If he is into you coming to visit, you would be crazy not to! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 30, 2010 2:55 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidAwwh...that sounds amazing! I really enjoyed your writing style. It made me chuckle to read about the part of knocking over furniture.

    I am really happy for you. That is unfortunate that you both live so far apart from each other. See how the second visit goes. If there is consistency with how you both feel for each other then I would think it would be something worth exploring.

    Keep an open mind. Who knows? How often do you meet someone with whom you have such a wonderful connection with?


    LoL Thanks! I think it is worth exploring, I just don't want to indulge in a possible relationship that may end up becoming overly complicated due to the distance... But he is a one of a kind guy..
  • Bunjamon

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    Nov 30, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    Take the chance. You don't have anything to lose. If it doesn't work out, you won't look back and say, "what if?" and I think that's the most important thing. If it does work out, well then......icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 30, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    Have fun... be careful.
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    Nov 30, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    If you are into your man then go for it... Don't let anything stop you from being happy...
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    Nov 30, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidTake the chance. You don't have anything to lose. If it doesn't work out, you won't look back and say, "what if?" and I think that's the most important thing. If it does work out, well then......icon_biggrin.gif


    Okay, you do make a hell of a point. I try to always go for things & never have regrets. It's been a while since I've even contemplated a relationship; ironically, the last guy I met that really had me thinking was him.
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    Nov 30, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    I was just going to say what you just posted. No regrets. No, I don't think it's crazy. And I'm going to echo what another person said: how often has this happened? For me once. I've been with him for 14 years. Definitely give it a chance, but do it with a head on your shoulders.
  • oyoung

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    Nov 30, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    From your writing, you have already decided! lol...
    If you were not going, you would not have a calm Xmax week, and you definitely would say "at that time what if..." later.

    Enjoy and be safe!
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    Nov 30, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    It really sounds fucking amazing... I say just do it! I would! It sounds like you guys really connect (and not just the knocking over furniture part).
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    Nov 30, 2010 11:13 PM GMT
    GO VISIT HIM IN CHICAGO.

    The simple truth is that we don't get endless or many oppurtunities to meet someone you have real chemistry with. You might meet a lot of hot guys and may even have great sex with some of them but it is rare.. very rare to meet a guy you feel very connected and attracted to. This kind of thing does not happen often..TRUST ME. In my opinion, if you meet 2 guys in your entire life that you feel very very connected to... then your very lucky.

    WARNING: Its easy to think that when you get older that they'll be plenty of time to meet and marry a great guy but by the time your ready to be committed.. there may not be anyone around you find interesting or worth your love and energy.

    Its true.... you guys may not end up in a relationship today or next year but things could change in the future. 5 or 10years from now, you guys might end up in the same city... believe me, I've seen this happen countless times with my friends and even my own life. If your attracted and connected to this guy now then trust me, you'll be attracted to him later.

    So go for it. Keep an open mind. Don't make any sudden life descions.. like quitting your job and moving to Chicago.icon_neutral.gif Just enjoy the time you guys have now and allow life to bring you too back together. If its meant to be... you guys will be together.
  • shoelessj

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    Nov 30, 2010 11:41 PM GMT
    i agree completely with keith in the 773. besides, it does sound as though you want to do it, you just need some support for your decision, and you've certainly got it here. and enjoy yourself! have a great time!
  • Puppy80

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    Nov 30, 2010 11:54 PM GMT
    I'm with everyone else on this. Go for it man! I met my partner on here over a year ago and we do the long distance thing. Kind of the reverse of you. I live here in Chicago, and he lives in Boston. We talk almost everyday either online or by phone. We also try to fly to see each other every couple months. Hoping soon to make things a little more permanent. It's work, but it works for us.

    I hope things work out for you cause this guy sounds like a catch...hmm...should I keep him warm for you ?
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    Dec 01, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
    shoelessj saidi agree completely with keith in the 773. besides, it does sound as though you want to do it, you just need some support for your decision, and you've certainly got it here. and enjoy yourself! have a great time!


    Everyone here giving the greenlight tells me that I should defdo this. I wanted to, but didn't want to jump into a situation. I'm usually not indecisive but this guy makes me think about things that haven't crossed my mind in years.. I thinking a small part of me could be a little freaked by the old feelings bubbling up and the fact that this guy is really everything I ever thought I wanted.
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    Dec 01, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    EccentricStud saidI am in NEED of the RJ'rs opinions for my current conundrum...
    So about a year and a half ago, I was still living in San Francisco and I met the most amazing guy. So check it;
    -He was tall, light haired, grey eyed, atheltic
    -Former Military man, spoke four languages
    -Was working as a art dealer
    - Loves travel
    - & also has a well developed spiritual side.

    The moment we met was instant, insane, off the charts chemistry; we talked for hours the first few times we met, eventually ending up in bed, after knocking over a few pieces of furniture; the sex was AMAZING!! To this day I still think, jerk off, fantasize, about the hot times we shared together... Anyway, neither one of us were in a place in our lives where we were open to a relationship, but the last couple of weeks we began talking again.. In the past year and a half, he has ended up in Chicago & I have ended up in Upstate New York...Talking again, we have the same insane connection & chemistry.
    Im planning on going to Chicago for Christmas & New Years so I can spend the holidays with him.
    Is this crazy? A few parts of my brain are saying "What the F$&K?" but he and I are intensely into each other..
    What do the RJ'ers think?



    I say GO FOR IT! if you think you may be missing out on someone that makes you feel that good, do you have any idea how much he may be missing out if he doesn't meet you too!? oh this sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity you MUST not miss out on! sweetie PLEASE GO!!


    Leandro ♥
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    Dec 07, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    SO... I've decided to go to Chicago to spend Christmas & New Years with this awsome guy! The more we talk, text, & email, the more I am reminded of how attracted & crazy I was about him before. Plus, we seem to have this whole new level of chemistry since we both moved from San Francisco to seek out more of what he want in life... Nervous, excited, thrilled, head over heels...
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    Dec 08, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    I can almost feel the static cling of anticipation and joy coming from this side of the monitor!!! I am so very happy for you, and I hope everything goes well! enjoy your stay!


    Leandro ♥
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    Dec 08, 2010 4:33 AM GMT
    ALEZANDAR saidI can almost feel the static cling of anticipation and joy coming from this side of the monitor!!! I am so very happy for you, and I hope everything goes well! enjoy your stay!


    Leandro ♥



    Leandro, my man, should I pay you by the hour? You are like my favorite therapist ever!! And yes, you are right, anticipation is reaching radiation levels!!! I can't help but feel crazed by the connection I feel with this guy; it's really crazy...