Would you date/sleep with someone who has a physical disability?

  • confidentcrip

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    Nov 30, 2010 7:17 PM GMT

    Hi guys,

    I'm a 26 year old guy in a wheelchair. I have Cerebral Palsy which means that I can't walk. I find it kind of difficult to meet guys, and I often wonder if it's because of my chair. So, just wondering: WOULD YOU DATE/SLEEP WITH A DUDE IN A CHAIR?

    Thanks,
    a.
  • oyoung

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    Nov 30, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
    If you are only asking for sleep (sex), I guess it would be difficult. But for a date, I though it would be much easier. Since the one who is more interested in a relationship would be more care about personalities.
    I saw a guy in a wheelchair on campus, he was soooooo hot! Although he doesn't even have legs, I can tell he is still working out regularly. The body is attractive. But more things behind it are his active attitudes to the life. I can feel his confidence that attracts me. icon_smile.gif
    Everyone has his own stories. Be confident!

    Your post reminds me about him, I guess, I will talk to him next time when I see him again! yeah~
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    Nov 30, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
    andrewstkitts001 said
    Hi guys,

    I'm a 26 year old guy in a wheelchair. I have Cerebral Palsy which means that I can't walk. I find it kind of difficult to meet guys, and I often wonder if it's because of my chair. So, just wondering: WOULD YOU DATE/SLEEP WITH A DUDE IN A CHAIR?

    Thanks,
    a.


    It does depend on the severity of the disability though. I mean a hot guy who is in a wheel-chair or who may have lost a limb is still gonna be a hot guy ultimately.

    Also, if I was in love with somebody who happened to become disabled, I would not think twice about it, it would make no difference. If i was looking for a hook-up, it might deter me if the disability was very noticeable, but it would defo be a case by case scenario as there are many hot 'disabled' guys out there and guys with confident/warm personalities to back it up =] .
  • mizu5

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    Nov 30, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    I would have no issues dating, or hooking up with someone in a chair.

    Now, this is assuming it isn't a disease that a year down the road theya re going to be a vegetable. Being 19/20 I don't think I could deal with someone like that, not at this point in my life.

    Other than that, if the only issue is them not being able to walk/ being in a chair? Why not?

    For example, you are very attractive and seem quite intelligent from your profile. I'd go on a date with you in a second icon_razz.gif
  • helios01

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    Dec 01, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    well i've only been with a guy who was colorblind... but wheelchair wouldnt be a problem icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 01, 2010 8:02 AM GMT
    I met a guy with a hand missing, he was one sexy motherfucker with a cool outgoinng personality, so yeah icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 01, 2010 8:16 AM GMT
    No, I have no issues dating, or hooking up with someone with physical disability or disabilities. My ex has Anotia which is a person is born without ears but he has an incredible face and big solid body. (He's a bodybuilder.) icon_biggrin.gif In fact, he's one of best people I've ever! He and I remain friends. icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 01, 2010 8:38 AM GMT
    If you've spent time reading this site you already must have seen how many posts there are from guys who can't find anyone so in that regard you've got a LOT of company. But you bring another dimension to it all which may make alot of people uncomfortable and maybe hesitant to answer so they may either say yes or ignore this post altogether. .
    Myself, if I was back in my 20's again I don't know if I would or wouldn't. I think though that if that was the case and we had met somewhere like at a house party or introduced at a club thru friends or something and we hit it off yeah I probably would go out with you. Not if you were a jerk or anything LOL but yeah. Now whether anything came of it who the hell knows not having a crystal ball. We had friends way back then (in my 20's), a couple, and one of them had no legs and seriously, nobody in the crowd thought twice about it back then so I can't see as how it would be any different now. It sort of proved a point that there is always someone for someone. I just wished now I could remember how those 2 guys met but I can't. It was that experience from knowing them and being part of that group back then that got me over the being uncomfortable around people with disabilities because I was at one time. Not shocking news
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    As well I remember knowing a couple of couples where one of the partners were deaf and while that's not quite the same thing as being in a chair it has its challenges as well. Like when they're intro'd to someone new etc or people go to dance and the guy can't hear the music, his difficulty being understood when he talked etc. .. but again all that "stuff" never amounted to any big deal amongst people.

    I think I answered your question in there somewhere from my point of view but it's late and I'm tired and my sentences are starting to run onicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 01, 2010 8:41 AM GMT
    If you are really in love with that person for who they are inside then the outer appearance doesn't really matter , I say yes
  • LEOPOLDIVX

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    Dec 01, 2010 8:47 AM GMT
    I walk with a gentlemens cane after my car accedent... I have the damndest time geting a date. I cant immagine what a whealchair could do for dating. However the rare guys I do date or have be BF with have been the most big hearted people out there. I am single now but not due to dissability. Keep up hope. I would say it gets better but I am tired of hearing that term already.

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  • nessthing

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    Dec 02, 2010 8:02 AM GMT
    I attend school at one of the most wheelchair-accessible campuses in Pennsylvania, and there are some super hot guys on the wheelchair basketball team.

    Some guys from a french wheelchair b-ball team visited last year and they were pretty dreamy too.

    Hmmm. <3
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    Dec 02, 2010 8:08 AM GMT
    Some of these mother fuckers are way hot! So, "yes". Absolutely. Hot is hot.

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    Dec 02, 2010 8:17 AM GMT
    I've noticed a lot of people with disabilities have really big hearts. That's more important to me than anything.
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    Dec 02, 2010 2:25 PM GMT


    If either of us was single? Yes.

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  • dreamer121

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    Dec 02, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    hazardous saidI've noticed a lot of people with disabilities have really big hearts. That's more important to me than anything.


    Completely agree... The only thing is I suffer from that fear of being awkward around someone with a disability, not knowing when to offer help, how far jokes can be taken, et cetera (and i know that each person is different). Stupid part is all that worrying usually ends up making it awkward anyway.
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    Dec 02, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    Yes, I would. When you truly do love someone deeply in all three ways (phileo, agape, and eros) you look beyond their so-called disability. Hell, you learn to look beyond your imperfections too!

    People with 'disabilities' are just as worthy and deserving of love and friendship and companionship as any 'normal' person is!
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    Dec 02, 2010 2:53 PM GMT
    Absolutely without hesitation, yes.
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    Dec 02, 2010 2:57 PM GMT
    icon_wink.gificon_wink.gifI would definitley sleep with you, but I think the bed might be more comfortable than the chair. (But if you insist on the chair, just make sure the brakes are on).icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 02, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    I haven't but my answer is yes I would and if it was you, YES. icon_biggrin.gif

    In regards to a relationship I'd have to educated myself while dating the guy about his condition but if I'm keen on dating someone it would be a no brainer that I'd want to get to know him a lot more.
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    Dec 02, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    I don't mean to be crude, but how mobile are you out of the chair? If you're still able to enjoy a relatively 'normal' sex life then I'm sure there will be plenty of guys who are happy to date you. I guess the only difficulty will be, as you say, in meeting them.

    If you are a nice guy with great qualities and would make a good boyfriend then people should be able to look past your chair and see you.
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    Dec 02, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    Thanks for posting this, to me, it means a lot. Well, the answer to this is yes, I would and did, but it was so long ago. Back home, when I was still in high school, a guy that lost both of his legs in Vietnam lived a few down from me. Pretty quiet guy, a redneck (of course) and always wore these shirtless flannel jobs. Damn, what arms he had, all inked up and rippling. But it was his smile, that thing he did in lifting his baseball cap when he whipped out the dimples. The sense of humor he had, with me at least, I remember just bent over laughing all the time with him. He asked me to help him out one day with moving some things and he snagged me. I wanted him to. It lasted a while, but he had to move closer to the VA hospital up in Birmingham. He never wrote back, but I think of him whenever I see flannel shirts, or smell old spice.
  • mybud

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    Dec 02, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    I focus on the inside out.......
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    Dec 02, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    Physical disability I wouldn't discriminate the fact that ur in a wheelchair doesn't make u any less hot icon_smile.gif I would date u
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    Dec 02, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    If a guy has a good personality and is good looking then not dating him just because of a disabilty is just plain stupid. And if there are people that stupid im sure you wouldn't want to date them anyway.
  • DanBasil

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    Dec 02, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    I would, I'm a very personality oriented person and if someone makes me feel comfortable and happy I am always down, and my friends who think I'm strange because of that can definitely attest to that LOL