How Important Is Sex in a Relationship?

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    Dec 04, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    I feel it is the glue that keeps people together. But what if you are with someone who you connect with on everything but the sex?

    Would you stay or is the lack of sex or even the bad sex enough to make you leave?
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    Dec 04, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    In the beginning it's important. Physical attraction, mental attraction and emotional attraction. As time goes by its importance diminishes, over many years. After having sex with each other several thousand times, it no longer has the urgency and demand it did when the relationship was new. It's still just as pleasurable, and chocked full of meaning.



    At Bill and I's ages this is fine, because, for example, a severe back-ache that's lasts for a few weeks because of an injury puts a damper on the sex drive. So does a flare-up of arthritis and a host of other problems. (Think about how sexually charged you feel with an abcessed tooth, for a comparison).


    -Doug
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    Dec 04, 2010 6:41 PM GMT
    meninlove said In the beginning it's important. Physical attraction, mental attraction and emotional attraction. As time goes by its importance diminishes, over many years. After having sex with each other several thousand times, it no longer has the urgency and demand it did when the relationship was new. It's still just as pleasurable, and chocked full of meaning.



    At Bill and I's ages this is fine, because, for example, a severe back-ache that's lasts for a few weeks because of an injury puts a damper on the sex drive. So does a flare-up of arthritis and a host of other problems. (Think about how sexually charged you feel with an abcessed tooth, for a comparison).


    -Doug

    ha ha ha ha thanks doug, for making me laugh yet again. however, i agree that sex is very important in a relationship but over time i think it wears down just a little.
  • Sk8Tex

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    Dec 04, 2010 7:23 PM GMT
    meninlove said In the beginning it's important. Physical attraction, mental attraction and emotional attraction. As time goes by its importance diminishes, over many years. After having sex with each other several thousand times, it no longer has the urgency and demand it did when the relationship was new. It's still just as pleasurable, and chocked full of meaning.


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    Definitely this, after time it does feel less important than it did initially, but that doesn't mean we enjoy it any less.