OMG! i just sent pics of my bf and I to my (at the time) best friend and his wife...we were close about 15 years ago...

  • rnch

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    Dec 04, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    i received their family holiday email yesterday. we "lost touch" when they moved to another state. at the time none of the three of us were computer users.

    i emailed them back earlier this morning, we've been emailing and texting and swapping pics of houses, cars and (their) kids all morning.

    after i emailed pics of me and my man (fully clothed, of course!) to them.....the silence is deafining!

    i wonder if they both dropped dead of homophobic heart attacks....icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 04, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    Well, good riddance to them. You're better off knowing where they stand and won't waste any further time.

    But, as always, it's sad to lose friends even if they turn out to be none.
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    Dec 04, 2010 5:25 PM GMT
    I'd say they just got an edgumackashun. icon_wink.gif

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  • DCEric

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    Dec 04, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    ....or they could have just walked away from the computer. Give it 24 hours.
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    Dec 04, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    I agree. Give it 24 hrs. And, if the silence remains deafening . . . well, good riddance.
  • Sk8Tex

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    Dec 04, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    Nothing sucks worse than that moment when you realize your totally wrong.. lol I would say let it stew a lil bit like the other guys above
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    Dec 04, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
    Well maybe they are unsure of how to reply..If they don't reply in the due course of time, you are better off without them..You have plenty of other friends around anyhow
  • TR_Latitude10

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    Dec 04, 2010 7:44 PM GMT
    same thing happened to me this January...Great friends in college...we lose contact...he finds me via google search after a tragedy involving a mutual friend. I send pix of my spouse, then no contact...BUT he did email me this week again so we've started conversation again...I think he needed a long time to deal...
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    Dec 04, 2010 7:47 PM GMT
    Give it 24 hrs.. if no reply just send another one with these simple words:
    "Got issues?"

    You'll know then.
  • allatonce

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    Dec 04, 2010 7:55 PM GMT
    I don't know about the give it 24 hours thing. I mean, some people need time to adjust to new information. I'm assuming he knew you when he was straight, and now you are (to him) a different person than the friend he knew. He may need time to process that information. I had 2 very close friends (guy and girl) confide in me they had been dating for a while, and I was not ready to just talk to them right away. It was a big shock and I was upset not to have been told earlier. I needed time to process the information before I talked to them again.
  • nv7_

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    Dec 04, 2010 8:01 PM GMT
    Give it a week at most. If no reply, send another email with "I was just kidding in the last email" and include a new pic of you kissing a sheep.
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    Dec 04, 2010 8:02 PM GMT
    TropicalMark saidGive it 24 hrs.. if no reply just send another one with these simple words:
    "Got issues?"

    You'll know then.


    This is EXACTLY the same as I would do. 24 hrs is more than enough time. This new info you have shared with them is not earth shattering, tragic, nor anything bad. This "giving them time to adjust" bullshit is just that, bloody bullshit.
    So if they don't respond, confront them. Have done it many times myself. Sometimes it gets worked out, other times you learn who are your true friends. If they turn out to be homophobic, (probably religious) arseholes, then blast them and be done with it. icon_mad.gif

    Good luck and keep us posted.

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  • fitartistsf

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    Dec 04, 2010 8:13 PM GMT
    You now have their email address. (unless they change it...) I agree, give it time, more than 24 hours. Send them a Christmas email in a week or 2, wishing them all the joys of the holiday season. If nothing in return, maybe send a second note, AFTER the first of the year, asking them if they received your notes, and if there is a problem... if still nothing, send a thank you note for their initial holiday email, and wish them a healthy, long life, etc., etc., etc....
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    Dec 04, 2010 8:19 PM GMT
    jprichva saidThis 24-hr advice is ridiculous. I sometimes don't check my email for days at a time. Or Facebook either.


    You donĀ“t check your facebook for months on end.
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    Dec 04, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    rnch saidi received their family holiday email yesterday. we "lost touch" when they moved to another state. at the time none of the three of us were computer users.

    i emailed them back earlier this morning, we've been emailing and texting and swapping pics of houses, cars and (their) kids all morning.

    For all you "sometimes people dont check their emails....." crowd.. read rnch's post...

    24 hrs is MORE than enough. Its not like this exchange was just a happenstance email.
  • TR_Latitude10

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    Dec 04, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    communication is a two way street - to the OP, 15 years had passed. In my case, nearly 19 years had passed since we last talked. Just as my friend from the past was able to find me via google, I would be able to find him if I wanted to. This means no emotional investment on either side for a significant passage of time. Why be confrontational or wait just 24 hours? In reality, I'm looking forward to re-establishing myself with my ganglia of friends from college days. I'm sure we've all changed quite a bit. If not, well it's no big deal.
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    Dec 04, 2010 11:32 PM GMT
    You used the incorrect pronoun.... (Title)

    It's only fair that you get to show off your family as well- I personally hate holiday cards- /especially/ the family portrait ones.
    They just get thrown away.
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    Dec 05, 2010 7:55 AM GMT
    Be patient , nothing has been lost yet ...... icon_smile.gif