This could make it or break it

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    Dec 04, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    So my dad has a cabin up north and he wants me to go just me and him for a weekend,now this was all my moms idea.l don't know if I should go because putting us in the same house for a whole weekend is bad since we don't get along.What do you guys think ?
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    Dec 04, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    Do you have your own car? If you do, use it and have him take his. That way you can leave when YOU like.

    -Doug
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    Dec 04, 2010 5:22 PM GMT
    Not without ground rules, boundaries and a "safety word" to stop the abuse......be careful! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 04, 2010 6:12 PM GMT
    You won't have your dad forever.

    Just suck up any differences you might have, take the risk, try to be nice to him and have fun.
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    Dec 04, 2010 6:28 PM GMT
    PRINCETONY saidSo my dad has a cabin up north and he wants me to go just me and him for a weekend,now this was all my moms idea.l don't know if I should go because putting us in the same house for a whole weekend is bad since we don't get along.What do you guys think ?
    i say go maybe you two can finally figure out why you two are getting along. i am sure there are things you want to ask him and get off your chest
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    Dec 04, 2010 8:55 PM GMT
    Life is too short to waste time doing things you don't want to do.
    If you two were compatible, you'd already be taking trips together.


    Ask yourself, when he's dead, will you look back and wish that you had taken that cabin trip with him ?
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    Dec 04, 2010 9:27 PM GMT
    do it. yeah you guys might have your differences and not the same interest, but do you want to live your life avoiding time spending with your dad? I dont have a good relationship with my dad either, but still i try to spend time with him cause what if he dies one day all of a sudden? You might regret it.
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    Dec 04, 2010 9:34 PM GMT
    meninlove said Do you have your own car? If you do, use it and have him take his. That way you can leave when YOU like.

    -Doug


    GREAT advice, I drive separately for all family functions because my family is bat shit crazy, especially once they all start drinking... the option to leave on my own terms is crucial.
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    Dec 04, 2010 9:35 PM GMT
    Don't go
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    Dec 04, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    meninlove said Do you have your own car? If you do, use it and have him take his. That way you can leave when YOU like.

    -Doug


    Ditto. You will be more relaxed if you know you can get your ass out of there soon as you can't stand it anymore.
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    Dec 04, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    He wants to kill you. Don't go.
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    Dec 04, 2010 11:16 PM GMT
    Yeah I'm taking my own car of course,I don't know what will happen but you guys are right I don't want to regret not going.It's next weekend and I'm really nervous about it.I really really want him and I to get along,and it would be better if it was before Christmas,that's all I want for Christmas .
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    Dec 04, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    PRINCETONY saidYeah I'm taking my own car of course,I don't know what will happen but you guys are right I don't want to regret not going.It's next weekend and I'm really nervous about it.I really really want him and I to get along,and it would be better if it was before Christmas,that's all I want for Christmas .
    Be sure to tell someone where you're going and when you expect to be back.
    In fact, contact the local police and let them know the ENTIRE situation; and also tell them where you're going and when to expect you back.

    I really do think your "father" wants to kill you.
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    Dec 04, 2010 11:37 PM GMT
    antelope said
    meninlove said Do you have your own car? If you do, use it and have him take his. That way you can leave when YOU like.

    -Doug


    Ditto. You will be more relaxed if you know you can get your ass out of there soon as you can't stand it anymore.


    And keep your phone, fully charged on you at all times. Does it even work up there? The remoteness of a cabin in northern Michigan this time of year could be a little scary.