HS facebook friend moving in on my man?

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    Dec 05, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    So I have a facebook account like most of the world. I used it at first to keep in touch with my old highschool friends. Fast forward 7 years now and I could pretty much care less who is married, having kids, or getting out the christmas decorations. The problem I'm having now is that one "friend" in paticular seems to be moving in on my life. It first started with my gay friends. I would make facebook friends with one and next week he's added them. I have no problem with that as I don't see this guy at all however I had the last straw when he friend requested my boyfriend. Should I send a message to him telling him to back off? I just don't want to look super possessive.
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    Did he know before the friends of yours that he friended? Did he know your boyfriend? I would talk to your boyfriend and have him not accept the friend request and you defriend him and make sure your privacy settings are set so he can't see your info and posts through mutual facebook friends.
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    I've talked to my friends and boyfriend about this and all of them have no idea who this guy is
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:16 AM GMT
    Just defriend him then and have your boyfriend not accept the request and hopefully most of your friends didn't accept his request. He must be one of those Facebook friends collectors.
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Being that he doesn't personally know any of them, it is a bit odd that he's doing this....I say confront him on it, but be very careful on how you word your message...so you don't look crazy or anything
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
    does he live in the same city with you?
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:33 AM GMT
    RUMEL saiddoes he live in the same city with you?


    Nope we no longer even live in the same state so it's just kinda weird to me
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:47 AM GMT
    Just ask your bf not to accept the request and deleate him from your friends, its not like you'll meet him and he'll ask why.
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    Just defriend him. Why go through a confrontation w/ someone you don't even know anymore? The only people I argue with are people that I care about. People that I don't care about, I just ignore.

    Defriend him, realizing that he's a weird stalker kinda guy, and ignore him.
  • MrPapo317

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    Dec 05, 2010 3:57 AM GMT
    sound a bit like FB stalking.
    i say msg him and ask whats up with him adding your bf, if your friends accepted thats ok because it is facebook, but then again i dont take facebook or anything online that serious. just block him and tell your bf to block him then you will not see anything associated with him unless he makes another profile.
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    Dec 05, 2010 4:00 AM GMT
    First thing I would hide my friends list (mine already is)

    Second I would de-friend him

    Third I would block him

    I wouldn't say you're being too possessive at all... Some people you just can't be nice to, and this guy sounds like a troll/cancer/creep. Either that or he's still stuck in "Myspace" mode, and treating facebook like a popularity contest. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 05, 2010 4:12 AM GMT
    You know thinkIng about it a little more, he is probably in the closet trying to reach gay folks. If you are curious ask, if you really dont care follow advices above and just defriend him, easier for both of you.
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    Dec 05, 2010 4:19 AM GMT
    i hate people who do that, ive confronted them before or befriended them. it's very tacky. i have a lot of family on fb and I find it very violating when it starts to affect them and people from my conservative circles.
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    Dec 05, 2010 4:23 AM GMT
    dude i wouldnt worry about..

    so what? he frend requested ur boyfriend. I'm sure him being a "facebook friend" is not going to affect ur relationship with ur bf and if you're that threatened by a friend request than perhaps u need to re-evaluate ur relationship with ur bf cuz ur insecure.

    I'm sure he is not going to be able to magically sweep ur boyfriend off his feet via facebook and get ur bf to leave u for him.

    Dont give it another thought.
    he doesnt even live in the same freakin city as u guys.
    No sweat off ur balls, fuck it

    Is the guy cute?
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    Dec 05, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    sounds you got a stalker on your hands.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 05, 2010 6:39 AM GMT
    If I'm not mistaken, everyone that he adds has to accept his invitation...yes? Maybe he is interested in you, maybe not....I see him as being more interested in you than your man...ask and see before you continue with any further actions.
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    Dec 05, 2010 10:34 AM GMT
    Maybe he just wants more neighbours for farmville.
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    Dec 05, 2010 11:08 AM GMT
    Krovi saidMaybe he just wants more neighbours for farmville.


    I LOL-ed at this. I actually made a fake account on FB so my bf can have more farmville neighbours so he can get stuff for free.
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    Dec 05, 2010 11:11 AM GMT
    >So I have a facebook account like most of the world.

    No, most of the world doesn't have a facebook account. I don't and an estimated 4 billion others in the world can't even afford a computer or know what facebook even is.

    >The problem I'm having now is that one "friend" in paticular seems to be moving in on my life.

    Aren't friends suppose to be 'apart" of your life? Why would you add a friend if you didn't want him involved with your life?

    >It first started with my gay friends. I would make facebook friends with one and next week he's added them.

    How do you know this unless your stalking his facebook profile to see who his friends are?

    >I had the last straw when he friend requested my boyfriend. Should I send a message to him telling him to back off? I just don't want to look super possessive.

    Why are you so concerned with who he befriends on a "SOCIAL NETWORK" site. Like seriously..if he's not even a good friend why did you even add him in the first place? You have no obligation to stay in contact with old highschool friends you don't even talk too anymore. Delete him.
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    Dec 06, 2010 1:16 PM GMT
    I fail to see how this guy is doing you harm.
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    Dec 06, 2010 1:20 PM GMT
    PrinceOfArya saidi hate people who do that, ive confronted them before or befriended them. it's very tacky. i have a lot of family on fb and I find it very violating when it starts to affect them and people from my conservative circles.



    This ..Plus there was this 'supposed' female who tried to add me on fb....The only mutual friend was guy whom I'm only acquainted with (We network with each other work related) Anyhow I msg'd if he knew her..Turns out he didn't and I told him to get rid of her cause it could be very much of a fake profile.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 06, 2010 1:21 PM GMT
    There are lots of people who review your friends and add a few on Facebook.
    I don't think it is a problem if your friend adds your boyfriend... just make sure you boyfriend knows the scene and I wouldn't give it a thought, unless the friend starts something beyond what you have discussed.

    I had an experience recently on Facebook where I added a friend (who I don't really know, but was very nice to me) and his boyfriend (so was already a FB friend) asked me "how I know Brad". I explained what happened and the gentleman proceeded to tell me how worried he was about his bf adding "hot men" in Wichita and felt his relationship was in
    jeopardy. Of course I laughed, reminded the guy I have my own partner and I didn't know Brad, but have just chatted strictly. I thought it was a little ove the top, but I was nice about it.

    Don't overreact, that is the worst downer in any relationship.
  • vindog

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    Dec 06, 2010 1:53 PM GMT



    I'd only care if he starts emailing him or leaving him notes on wall....otherwise probably just a friends collector
  • toybrian

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    Dec 06, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    that is why I will never open an account on facebook..do not need the headaches or things that go with this...heard nothing but bad things with this facebook..