Thirty-Something

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    Dec 05, 2010 8:52 AM GMT
    Do you guys think being thirty-something is is better than being in your twenties? Physically, mentally, emotionally, financially...all that.
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    Dec 05, 2010 11:15 AM GMT
    Can you elaborate on the question? It's seems a bit too vague.
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    Dec 05, 2010 1:34 PM GMT
    I can't wait to turn 30. The 20s really suck looking back on it all.

    -Learned alot, but they truly are very awkward.
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    Dec 05, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    I hope to enjoy every decade of my life. I really enjoyed my 20s and I've really enjoyed my 30s so far.

    But in some ways I liked my 20s more (my youth was definitely not wasted on the young), and in some ways I like my 30s more (I have more financial security and professional satisfaction, plus a closer group of core friends).
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 05, 2010 2:17 PM GMT
    When I was in my 20's I was pretty clueless as to the whole gay scene and acceptance. It wasn't until the 30's arrived that things began to clear.
    I became much more comfortable with all once I accepted my sexuality and made what I perceived as "reasoned changes" in my life. The early 40's have been awesome.
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    Dec 05, 2010 2:17 PM GMT
    im in my twenties but id rather date a thirty something yr old. they know how to make me feel like a real man
  • Bunjamon

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    Dec 05, 2010 2:19 PM GMT
    Every age has it's ups and downs, advantages and disadvantages. Since it's entirely subjective, it's impossible to say whether being in one's 30s is better than one's 20s or 40s or 50s.
  • rnch

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    Dec 05, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidWhen I was in my 20's I was pretty clueless as to the whole gay scene and acceptance. It wasn't until the 30's arrived that things began to clear.
    I became much more comfortable with all once I accepted my sexuality and made what I perceived as "reasoned changes" in my life. The early 40's have been awesome.


    yup!

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    Dec 05, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    As a 30-something, I can truly say I miss my twenties! There was so much more to do, stamina and such...now that I'm in my 30's, so many people have passed on, so many places have closed (party wise)! It seems like life had gotten harder, or I have gotten more jaded...or everyone has just gotten older. Yes, I have learned more(maturity, health and money wise) looking outwards instead of inwards...it makes me sad. Sorry to sound like a downer, but things and life feels like it's going quicker as I get older. Maybe that's just me, but it's what I feel...hopefully things will change for the better. (Wow, I hate it when my Taurean traits rear it's ugly head!)icon_confused.gif
  • mynyun

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    Dec 05, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    I never wanted to grow up so no. I miss my 20's.
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    Dec 05, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    I agree with Bunjamon in that every decade brings its own ups and downs.

    However, I recall quite clearly feeling more confident with myself, more satisfied with my life, and more at ease in general in my 30s in comparison to my 20s.

  • TxGrunt

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    Dec 05, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    YA OF COURSE

    i def agree with most here... the longer the whiskey ages in the barrel the better the taste... ive always looked at decades of life like an airplane... roughly id say:"

    20s is take off and ascent, likely to experience more turbulence during this stage.

    30s now youre getting near cruise altitude. learned lots of lessons, now have some experience and collective wisdom and now you get to apply... and see if it works LOL and you also begin to really handle some grown up issues...

    make 40 and cruise as best you can (hopefully without too much turbulence (understand the longer you fly the more likey youll hit turbulence) sit back and enjoy the ride. and as the real grown up issues are encountered you take it for what its worth and make the best of it as best you can....cruise 40s-50s-60s with much knowledge, experience, security... maybe youre lucky and youve generally figured yourself out as a human by now....

    i couldnt wait to hit 30 and then realized all those who seriously get concerned about getting older dont do themselves any favors... (meaining why waste energy on worrying about what we really cant control) focus on what you can control... i say it is what it is.... and its great. take a been there done that, too many other new things to focus upon approach.

    I read a profile on here that listed the 45 Lessons from Life. Just a list a 90 year old columnist put together and one lesson was : "Life is not fair, but it's a gift" and it really is what we make it!

    human beings are just fascinating...
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    Dec 05, 2010 6:06 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidEvery age has it's ups and downs, advantages and disadvantages. Since it's entirely subjective, it's impossible to say whether being in one's 30s is better than one's 20s or 40s or 50s.


    Yes, bro, it is entirely subjective and probably requires some reflection and growth. That is why I asked for your opinion, which makes it possible to state in one direction or the other.
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    Dec 05, 2010 6:13 PM GMT
    RPMSoccer saidI agree with Bunjamon in that every decade brings its own ups and downs.

    However, I recall quite clearly feeling more confident with myself, more satisfied with my life, and more at ease in general in my 30s in comparison to my 20s.



    I agree, man... When I was 28 I was chatting with my cousin about turning 30 and she said, "not to worry... your 30's are like your 20's except you have money and you're smarter about things." Since then I had NO questions or anxiety about it at all and she was right. I thought turning 25 was the best, but 30 [and the 30's in general] are pretty damn sweet.
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    Dec 05, 2010 6:25 PM GMT
    I can't wait to be 30! If everything goes well, my body will be at its peak. In my early 20's I looked like utter shit, I was seriously underweight, my acne was so bad I had given up further treatment and my libido was at its bottom. Needless to say that the young age never gave me much benefits as far as rejection is concerned (it's much better now in this regard). I definitely don't have the same relationship with age as some friends who seem to treasure guys under 23. Under 30, under construction!
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    Dec 05, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    bachian saidI can't wait to be 30! If everything goes well, my body will be at its peak. In my early 20's I looked like utter shit, I was seriously underweight, my acne was so bad I had given up further treatment and my libido was at its bottom. Needless to say that the young age never gave me much benefits as far as rejection is concerned (it's much better now in this regard). I definitely don't have the same relationship with age as some friends who seem to treasure guys under 23. Under 30, under construction!


    Yah, I forgot to mention the physical part... I've never looked better. Definitely at my peak, too, Bachian. You'll love it!
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    Dec 05, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    I like my 30s. People seem to take you more serious when you give an opinion when you're slightly older. And yes, I do like having more money in my 30s.
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    Dec 05, 2010 6:46 PM GMT
    Absolutely. The 30's are far more enjoyable than the 20's for you've gained a sense of self, purpose, and life.
  • Kinneticbrian

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    Dec 05, 2010 7:00 PM GMT
    I can honestly say that every year for me gets better in some way than the one that came before it. I've had a lot of heartbreak in my 30's but I made the choice to turn the hurt back on itself and learn from it and let it make me a better man. I just focus up on enjoying life, never dwell on the past and I give myself permission to be a little kid every chance I get.

    Any age is great. I someday hope to be the 90 year old from Grumpy Old Men who is the only one getting laid and who shamelessly chases guys around the supermarket.
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    Dec 05, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    I DEFINITELY agree with my 30s being better than my 20s...although this whole reverse-aging thing is getting old quick (pun totally intended). As a side-note, does anyone know if Benjamin Button is single?
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    Dec 05, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidEvery age has it's ups and downs, advantages and disadvantages. Since it's entirely subjective, it's impossible to say whether being in one's 30s is better than one's 20s or 40s or 50s.



    I think I'm becoming a little bit more mature as I'm hitting close to the big Three O
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    Dec 05, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    well, in your 30 or towards your 30s, there is clearly much less drama, from yourself and the people around you. If your like me, you have some education and have a wide range of topics to start a conversation with someone who is interesting to you. Guys who are highly superficial tend to start dropping off the bandwagon because your perceived to be further from that twink thing or jock thing. (if you are or aren't is a different story). also, guys seem far more serious about wanting to meet a stable individual vs someone at the bar.

    the downside, well, the spring chicken is a little more difficult to talk to. (doesn't bother me) and it takes a little longer to recover from late nights out for sure. I sure cant do 2 am stuff more a night in row without waking up at 8 and feel sleep deprived.

    My Gaydar is much improved over the last few years where i can identify guys who are gay, but aren't so obvious. I feel way more confident in meeting someone straight acting than 5 years ago. I am also so much more quick to find alternative motives (someone who likes my car, my money, wants a drink, want my cock not my heart)

    30s are better. just wish i had invested in education earlier.
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    Dec 05, 2010 7:34 PM GMT
    TotalDistraction saidDo you guys think being thirty-something is is better than being in your twenties?

    what are you getting at with this question. do you mean in terms of maturity, financially or physically? i can't answer your question unless you tell me your meaning behind it
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    Dec 05, 2010 7:40 PM GMT
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    TotalDistraction saidDo you guys think being thirty-something is is better than being in your twenties?

    what are you getting at with this question. do you mean in terms of maturity, financially or physically? i can't answer your question unless you tell me your meaning behind it


    Dude, I mean ALL of that. That is why I stated the question very generally so YOU could tell me what YOU think about it in general.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Dec 05, 2010 7:46 PM GMT
    In my 20s, I was a bit naive and a bit too cautious about everything. I realized that I was gay and I began my gradual coming out process in my late 20s. In my 30s I started to think more independently and socialized more with gay men. In my 40s, I am pretty much out as a masculine gay man but I don't advertise to the whole world that I am gay. It is just a part of what I am. I regret not being more assertive in my 20s but you live and you learn. You cannot change the past.