Are you where you expected at this point in the race?

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    Dec 06, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    Well guys, we're def at different points in our lives, but are you where you expected to be? Are you maybe ahead of that goal or behind it and are you still aiming for the same target?

    Well, for starters I'm nowhere near where i expected to be and five years ago if someone told me I would be an out gay man with an impending divorce and planning a permanent move to Mexico, I would have passed them off as crazy. Am I happy? Serendipitously, yes and no....happy where my life has taken me as far as finally being at peace with who I am, sad to be leaving my wife and best friend. Extremely happy and excited for the move to Mexico and start of my beach years and being a kid for the first time since I was 14.............

    What about it guys? Your mature and intelligent input is always welcome..........Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 06, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    I'm living in the town I dreamed of living in as a teenager.
    I'm working the job I dreamed of working as a teenager.
    I'm making the money of my nightmares, because this job doesn't pay like my dreams had indicated.
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    Dec 06, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'm living in the town I dreamed of living in as a teenager.
    I'm working the job I dreamed of working as a teenager.
    I'm making the money of my nightmares, because this job doesn't pay like my dreams had indicated.


    you spend too much cruising the bars for boyfriends......hussy...icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 06, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    vetteset said
    paulflexes saidI'm living in the town I dreamed of living in as a teenager.
    I'm working the job I dreamed of working as a teenager.
    I'm making the money of my nightmares, because this job doesn't pay like my dreams had indicated.


    you spend too much cruising the bars for boyfriends......hussy...icon_lol.gif
    Well you know the old saying: "seek and ye shall find." icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 06, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    I'm not exactly where I thought I'd be in life. Oh well, I guess I chose the wrong adventure. icon_lol.gif

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    Dec 06, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    Five years ago I never thought I'd be doing what I'm doing, but I do love it. Everything is going so far so good.

    I am however going through a huge period of adjustment. Emotionally I feel crazy like I was 10 years ago. I'm hoping to take time over the holidays to sort out some of this anxiety/fear.
  • DanOmatic

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    Dec 06, 2010 1:02 PM GMT
    Um, this is a race? Why didn't I get the memo?
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    Dec 06, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    I may not be where I expected to be, but I'm sure I'm where the fates have deemed me to be. I'm good with that.
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    Dec 06, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    Yeah, I think so, and it gets better every day. I hate my job, but I love the people I work with. The most important thing is that I am starting to love myself again. I spend all my free time in the mountains and with the snow coming, I'll be even happier.
  • rnch

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    Dec 06, 2010 5:22 PM GMT
    fuck winning the race.

    at this point in my life, i'm content to still be in the race.

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    Dec 06, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    I guess I sort of had a plan, but I now realize the racetrack I meant to be on was near 5th and Main, and this racetrack is next to the dog park. Stupid dogs, always slobbering on me with their big ole wet tongues--why I oughta...
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    Dec 06, 2010 5:54 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    paulflexes saidI'm making the money of my nightmares, because this job doesn't pay like my dreams had indicated.


    Come over to the dark side! (I think you'll know what I mean icon_wink.gif )


    the GOP/teabaggers?

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    Dec 06, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    rnch said
    southbeach1500 said
    paulflexes saidI'm making the money of my nightmares, because this job doesn't pay like my dreams had indicated.


    Come over to the dark side! (I think you'll know what I mean icon_wink.gif )


    the GOP/teabaggers?

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    Nope. But he'll know what I mean.
    Nah.. he likes things that spin.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 06, 2010 6:28 PM GMT
    I never ever thought I'd be living west of the Mississippi river....but here I am with a home and a very profitable business...so..I guess I'll stay icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 06, 2010 6:59 PM GMT
    I am no where near where I thought I would be in this point of my life. I was headed in the right direction when the company I worked for decided to do away with my district as well as my job and have not worked in quite a while. Now things are really starting to look up for me. I am moving back to my home town and starting my life a new and am really looking forward to it. New year coming up and a new life for me. I am also really starting to love myself again and all the people around me. So new life......HERE I COME!!!
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    Dec 06, 2010 7:08 PM GMT
    Redefining the "race" and its rules...
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    Dec 06, 2010 7:17 PM GMT
    Uhm no, Im far behind where i thought I would be today... I figured I would be well on my way with my career already, and likely settled down as far as marriage is concerned.... but its ok... I figured one needs to change direction and try things differently when what you're doing isnt working
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    Dec 06, 2010 7:18 PM GMT
    vetteset said Extremely happy and excited for the move to Mexico and start of my beach years and being a kid for the first time since I was 14.............

    Glad to see you coming to your senses sir.... I HAD told you before that Canada was too cold, but NOOOOOOO icon_cool.gif
  • Jaxom

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    Dec 06, 2010 8:05 PM GMT
    I expected to be finishing my last year of uni towards my BS in Electrical Engineering. Instead I'm working in a type of job the I probably would of gotten with said degree paying off my 3 years (out of a 5 year program) worth of debt.

    And thinking about the Air Force, something that I despised the thought of just a few years ago.

    And living in bumfuck Montana instead of a major metropolitan city, on the east coast. x.x

    But, I'm happy. And know that I can change my circumstances with just a little work.
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    Dec 06, 2010 8:11 PM GMT
    NC3athlete saidUm, this is a race? Why didn't I get the memo?

    they gave up, the pad was never where they expected it to be.

    all i can say is that when in my early 20's i used to get panic attacks wondering where i'd be later on and how i'd make it.
    well, 30 some years later, i'm at exactly the same place doing exactly the same thing.

    constancy feels like success but not going beyond feels like failure. My ambivalent feelings teeter totter from one extreme to the other.
  • carew28

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    Dec 06, 2010 9:41 PM GMT
    Well, I'm not where I expected to be, but I don't mind. Could be better, could be worse. After 18 years at one job (first 10 years were decent but the last 8 years were pretty miserable) I'm now working, for the past 7 years, at a minimum wage job, which isn't where I expected to be at age 57. Lost my house to foreclosure in 2006, after 14 years of struggling with payments. The pay is awful, not nearly enough to live on, haven't gone anywhere on vacation for the past 10 years. But I like the work, and I like the people I work with, so that counts for a lot. My family, in spite of health and employment problems, is hanging in there, and haven't given up, everyone is always there for each other. I have some good friends that I've known for over 20 years. I'm doing okay, I guess. But what a long, strange trip it's been.
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    Dec 06, 2010 9:49 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    paulflexes saidI'm making the money of my nightmares, because this job doesn't pay like my dreams had indicated.


    Come over to the dark side! (I think you'll know what I mean icon_wink.gif )
    You actually think the airlines would take me, knowing my track record online? icon_lol.gif
    Plus, at my age, by the time I make left seat I'll be just a few years from forced retirement at 60.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Dec 06, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    I'm absolutely no where near where I thought I'd be at 24. I'm actually rather disappointed icon_cry.gif
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    Dec 06, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    Right now I'm about. 2 years behind schedule.....hopefully that time will be made up in the future.
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    Dec 06, 2010 10:29 PM GMT
    I'm where I thought I'd be except I didn't think I'd ever come out but that was icing on the cake. Doing well, saved for those rainy days, honing in on 30 yrs. Not sure I can afford to retire yet but I'm living comfortably, happily and loving having a guy that will take me just the way I am icon_smile.gif Well, that and he knows I can cook