Coming out and meeting other people

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    Dec 07, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    ok. So. I have finally decided to go to this bar/cofee bar very close to where i live. It is a Gay bar that is "straight" friendly. First off. Im kinda in the closet to majority of people other than my closer friends. (yes im slowly coming out and its been very positive. Ive told about 5 people now. I am also finally not really caring if people know about me or not because it dosent make me any different than i always have been.) So other than talking online or chatting, ive never really actually met a gay person. Im VERY nervous as to how the environment and how friendly people would be.

    I recently turned 18, and i really would like to just meet new people. (even though i LOVE my current friends it would still be nice to meet people like me =).)

    Are there any tips anyone could give me? Such as: if i visit this bar should i bring friends? should i go alone? Should i try and meet people elsewhere? where would i search to meet other gay people?

    Any advice?



    Thanks,
    Tyler


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    Dec 07, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    Go with a friend if possible. If there are seats along the bar, try to sit there as a table can seem less social.
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    Dec 07, 2010 2:48 AM GMT
    HeartRobb saidGo with a friend if possible. If there are seats along the bar, try to sit there as a table can seem less social.
    ^^^that...especially the friend part.
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    Dec 07, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    I asked an almost identical question in my first post.

    Cheers.

    I'll be keeping an eye on this thread for suggestions and tips.
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    Dec 07, 2010 3:30 AM GMT
    HeartRobb saidGo with a friend if possible. If there are seats along the bar, try to sit there as a table can seem less social.


    Female friends????
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    Dec 07, 2010 4:03 AM GMT
    Adrenalinejunkie said
    HeartRobb saidGo with a friend if possible. If there are seats along the bar, try to sit there as a table can seem less social.


    Female friends????


    want to meet straight guys or gay guys?......Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 07, 2010 8:45 AM GMT
    I have friends that moved to other cities and made friends through gay organizations. There are things like gay charity organizations, movies clubs, softball league and other stuff like that. You do whatever event with the organization and then go out to dinner or for a drink afterwards. If you are not socially awkward or a bitch then you'll probably make some gay friends. You can then meet your gay friend's friends and it goes on and on.
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    Dec 07, 2010 8:54 AM GMT
    Tyler,

    I just thought I would say this one thing. I know coming out is a new thing for you, and you want everything to instantaneously happen, but all I wanted to say is; don't limit yourself or think that you have to always hang around or go out to gay bars, clubs, or organizations to be yourself and meet other guys.

    These places are great for meeting other people and alot of times lots of fun, one point that alot of people overlook is that all different types of guys, people in general, are everywhere. Just by joining organizations that you like, like baseball, or some kind of interest group, or whatever....you will find others that you can relate alot to and have lots of fun. Your newfound attitude of being yourself will help you see new opportunities in these places. Does that make sense?

    It took me a long time to figure this out for myself, that many times a group of gay men won't have anything else in common other than that they are gay.

    Good luck
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    Dec 07, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    Adrenalinejunkie said...if i visit this bar should i bring friends? should i go alone? Should i try and meet people elsewhere? where would i search to meet other gay people?

    What kind of bar admits 18-year-olds in the US? Is this a non-alcoholic bar for teens, or do they have wrist banding? Or is this really a restaurant that includes a bar?

    There are many places to meet young gay people, in gay community centers, gay youth centers, gay and gay-friendly churches & synagogues, to list but a few. Not sure about your gay resources in the Cocoa area, but Orlando offers a range.
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    Dec 07, 2010 9:35 AM GMT
    Come to Seattle and I'll introduce you to people Tyler. Btw, play more Halo.
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    Dec 07, 2010 11:49 AM GMT
    hazardous saidCome to Seattle and I'll introduce you to people Tyler. Btw, play more Halo.
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    Lol that would be sweet. Except your kinda in the opposite side of the country!



    Btw thanks for the advice and replies =)
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    Dec 07, 2010 11:53 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Adrenalinejunkie said...if i visit this bar should i bring friends? should i go alone? Should i try and meet people elsewhere? where would i search to meet other gay people?

    What kind of bar admits 18-year-olds in the US? Is this a non-alcoholic bar for teens, or do they have wrist banding? Or is this really a restaurant that includes a bar?

    There are many places to meet young gay people, in gay community centers, gay youth centers, gay and gay-friendly churches & synagogues, to list but a few. Not sure about your gay resources in the Cocoa area, but Orlando offers a range.




    Well they serve coffee, wine, and beer. They dont sell straight liquor. They label it a "coffee bar". I think its because its more of a social place.

    And thanks ill check those other options out