Conflicting religions in a relationship....

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    Dec 08, 2010 11:29 AM GMT
    I was raised southern baptist, my bf raised jehovah witness. Even though neither of us are very relgious now for obvious reasons we both have beliefs we go by that we base our spirituality & belief in God & the Bible on.

    It hasn't become to much of a problem until recently. He has been going thru some difficult times personally & financially & is severly depressed. He has reverted going back to his "meetings" to feel better about himself & his life.

    Im all for this if it helps him as Ive tried everything I know to do to help & be there for him, but its not enough.

    I feel a slow divide growing between us based on all of this i have even offered to go to the meetings with him to show my support but he was against it saying that they don't tolerate homosexuality there.

    It really hurt me because I am in no way a big flaming queen & know what relgions teach about gays. I just want to help him in anyway I can.

    Holidays for us have always been & disruptive time as he doesn't believe in celebrating them but we compromise on them. I feel like Im losing my husband & I dont know what to do.

    Ive talked to him about it, he says we are fine & he still loves me, but I can feel the intensity of his love changing & its killing me.

    I have been thru so much with this man & love him dearly, but I dont know how much more I can take.

    Any advice?
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    Dec 08, 2010 12:41 PM GMT
    redbull saidI have been thru so much with this man & love him dearly, but I dont know how much more I can take.

    Any advice?

    It's an issue of compatibility, in my view. Either you share common beliefs, or you don't.

    When I was a kid there were 2 common folk sayings, that conflicted: "Birds of a feather, flock together" and "Opposites attract." But which is correct?

    I believe in most cases it's BOTH. In all my relationships we shared the same interests, so that we could sit down and watch the same TV programs & movies together, go to the same stage shows, listen to the same music in the car, enjoy the same restaurants, like the same home decor, etc.

    But we each had different talents & abilities. I'm always the mechanical & computer guy, he's always the cooking & design guy. Together we're a complimentary team, that covers most of the bases of modern living. What I can't do he can, and vice versa. Our sum is greater than our parts, and together we are quite formidable, stronger and better than either of us could be alone. That, to me, is the essence of a partnership.

    So what is your situation? Do you have common interests, or not? Do you each contribute complimentary talents, or not? Or are you in a state of conflict and opposition? To me these are basic questions, essential to a relationship.