"No REALLY, you SHOULDN'T have!" When he insists on baking you fattening things during the holidays......

  • silverfox

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    Dec 08, 2010 8:06 PM GMT
    "I know you have my best intentions in mind....don't you?

    But I told you my weakness is oatmeal chocolate chip cookies. If you give me one, I will eat it right away. If you give me 12, I will eat all 12."


    So gang, I ask you. Have you ever been in the situation where someone close to you feels the need to make you all kinds of fattening goodies and you feel like the holiday Grinch if you say ....no thanks?

    How do you or would you handle this situation? Remember, this is someone you care about.....

    Tell me gentlemen!
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    Dec 08, 2010 8:12 PM GMT
    they simply don´t understand you REALLY don´t want it. Like REALLY.

    So tell them, and suggest a replacement that you WILL enjoy (for me it´s dark chocolate). Then they can feel happy that you are having a "treat". It´s communication.
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    Dec 08, 2010 8:16 PM GMT
    In my clinic companies send gifts all the time, but especially at this time. It's unethical and bribery.

    but....

    -I had six of these salt/chocolate truffles yesterday, but only four this morning!

    I don't mind/That's what the holidays are for. Just burn it off latericon_smile.gif
  • mizu5

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    Dec 08, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    This might sound stupid, but I;d probably just eat it. I am 19, my metabolism is lightning, and I spend many an hour dancing or doing gymnastics/trampoline. To me it's a non issue? I have to work VERY HARD to put on a pound of fat.
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    silverfox1 said"I know you have my best intentions in mind....don't you?

    But I told you my weakness is oatmeal chocolate chip cookies. If you give me one, I will eat it right away. If you give me 12, I will eat all 12."


    So gang, I ask you. Have you ever been in the situation where someone close to you feels the need to make you all kinds of fattening goodies and you feel like the holiday Grinch if you say ....no thanks?

    How do you or would you handle this situation? Remember, this is someone you care about.....

    Tell me gentlemen!


    Tell them that you have a food allergy of some sort. I choose not to consume grains, so I usually get away with lying about having a gluten allergy or being a celiac. I'd imagine that most holiday treats involve regular flour of some sort, so my method might work nicely. Of course this won't work if you're eating bread of pasta right in front of them. icon_wink.gif

  • Timbales

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    Dec 08, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    Can you not just say 'thank you', accept the gift and then take it to the office or share with your neighbors?
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:33 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidCan you not just say 'thank you', accept the gift and then take it to the office or share with your neighbors?


    This. Its the best way.
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:43 PM GMT
    I rarely eat all of what I'm offered. The more it's praised, the more awful it likely is. I take a bite out of politeness, then try to hide the rest.

    I know the things I like. If you shove something on me, it's probably disgusting. And if you force something with peanut butter on me, I'll likely vomit. Just leave me alone, OK? icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    In this situation, you say this person is "close" to you. If you can't be honest with them, how close can they really be?
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    Timberoo saidCan you not just say 'thank you', accept the gift and then take it to the office or share with your neighbors?


    This. Its the best way.



    I also agree. It is the most obvious and simple answer. The gift giver only had good intentions.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 08, 2010 9:56 PM GMT
    HeartRobb said
    Chainers said
    Timberoo saidCan you not just say 'thank you', accept the gift and then take it to the office or share with your neighbors?


    This. Its the best way.



    I also agree. It is the most obvious and simple answer. The gift giver only had good intentions.


    Also, it is a gift.

    If someone got you a hideous sweater, would you just hand it back and say it's ugly?

    I've received my share of gifts I've had no use for our want, and I say thank you. If they later ask me about it, I find a polite way to tell them that I didn't care for it but I appreciated their intention.
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    Honestly? If you have a good diet and are careful what you are eating the rest of the time, the cookies aren"t going to hurt you. Probably best night to eat all of them right then and there, but it won't ruin anything. Just stay good the rest of the time! Enjoy!
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    I'd say it's all about sharing so I would do, as others indicated, share it with other you like. You can always flatter the gift giver by telling them how much everyone, including you, enjoyed the treats. It's hard to get too upset with a friend who goes out of their way and invests a lot of time, energy and creativity into something special for you.

    Be gracious, appreciative and sharing. Merry Christmas from Heloise!
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    Couldn't you exercise a bit of self control? Have 1 and put the rest in the biscuit tin. Or share them with friends or neighbours. I wish someone would make me cakes or biscuits once in a while.
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    Accept the gift, say thank you, then either re-gift the offending items to someone else or throw them away. Just because someone makes you cakes or cookies doesn't mean you have to eat them.
  • disasterpiece

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    Dec 08, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    I can't say no, and I don't even feel bad about it (ok, maybe just a little bit).

    It's chrismas, I'm with my family and they spent hours cooking the best meals I'll ever taste. It'd be a fucking waste and insult to them if I dare not enjoy this precious moment with them... and the succu-fucking-lent chocolate truffles icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    I will eat one or two and then will share it with others by either taking them to the office or taking them to a neighbor or friend. Most of the stuff is great except for one. My dad had this lady whose husband worked for him. One day she made the comment that she was making some vodka balls and would he like some. So for Christmas that year she comes with a plate of Vodka balls and you could smell her coming a mile away. Unfortunately I was in his office at the time and I made the mistake of saying that I loved Vodka. Every year after that I got her Vodka balls for Christmas plus on my birthday. Well, I absolutely hated them. One year she showed up at my house and I could smell them as soon as she got out of the car. All Vodka and sugar with a coating of powdered sugar. I would take them and throw them in the trash after she left. Of course I had to smell them till the trash man came and the neighbors always wondered why they were not invited to the party.
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    I take them to work and they disappear like crazy. Problem solved.
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:58 PM GMT
    You cannot gain more weight than the weight of the food you eat.
    Just plan ahead for the holidays, like maybe lowering the calories the day before and after the big dinners.
    It takes more than one or two days of pigging out to destroy one or two (or more) years of hard work.
  • nicelyproport...

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    Dec 08, 2010 11:11 PM GMT
    A platter of goodies can be shared, brought to the office, thrown out. Saying no becomes harder, however, when the entire holiday meal is a 5-hour fat-fest, with each course more artery-clogging than the last and the chef seated just a few feet away.

    Here's what I find frustrating. If I were vegetarian, no one would insist that I eat meat. If I were kosher, no one would say, oh, come on, it's just a little piece of bacon. But my desire to keep off the weight that I worked so hard to lose -- no one considers this a good enough reason not to down every last morsel of lard and sugar.

    The funny thing is, if someone wants to cook something for you, isn't it more important that they cook what you want to eat rather than what they want to cook? Otherwise, the offer of food is much more about them that it is about you.

    My solution is to try a little of everything, do my best to share with others, and say I'm saving myself for the next course.



  • silverfox

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    Dec 08, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    Note from the Op:

    Ok. Thank you for portraying me as an unappreciative louse with no self control what=so=ever! icon_smile.gif


    My b/f actually enjoys watching me eat his baked goodies....and no...sorry....I don't feel right after he makes things for me to politely say thank you and then trash them or bring them to the office. That doesn't work for me.

    He is GREAT for making me stuff. I am not unappreciative! I just work hard at staying in shape....I am not 21 and I don't have a super fast metabolism!
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    Dec 08, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    I just plain eat it! icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 08, 2010 11:26 PM GMT
    I dated a dessert chef once upon a time. He continuously prepared desserts for me even though I explained that I never really have had a sweet tooth. On occasion, I would take a bite to taste and be polite. However, often, I reminded him I had no sweet tooth at all. I suggested that he consider setting up a "healthier options" dessert menu not only for us but also for work. However, he never accepted the idea. It was a short-lived relationship in the end. But I'm glad I was honest all the way through.

    The holidays are different; we are to spread cheer! If someone prepares baked goods, I accept. I may actually taste a few, but like others, I'd probably share with neighbors, co-workers, friends, or family.
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    Dec 08, 2010 11:45 PM GMT
    This is a hard question but I remember when I started to watch my food intake in my teens. I remember one day my mom gave me someting I didn't want and I told her I gave it to the dog which I did. Most people know I watch what I eat so they don't bother me but they act surprise when I let my guard down and eat the crap. However, the next day as I am in the gym bright and early to burn the calories and this happened evey day when I am on a cruise consuming the daily intake of junk which I can't say no to.

    Back to the orginal poster's question I would accept and not eat the entire thing.
  • CAtoFL

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    Dec 08, 2010 11:56 PM GMT
    I feel for you, Silver, because my metabolism isn't 'lightning' fast either (damn you, mizu! LOL!).

    I'm surprised that someone who knows you well would make you fattening foods. I'd eat a cookie and say something like "that's amazing, but I'll bet it takes me half an hour of cardio to burn it off". A dozen oatmeal chocolate chip cookies might seem like nothing, but they conservatively add up to between 1000 and 1350 calories - about half of one day's caloric intake. And they total about 60 grams of fat.

    To me, people who force bad food on you (even with good intentions) are no different from people who want to force you to have a shot or a drink when they're drinking. Thankfully, you decide what to put in your mouth (don't go there).

    Most people will gain weight this month partly because of what you're going through. Find healthy substitutes and don't let the fat and caloric content of holiday foods sabotage your routine.