Sex and Friendship

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    Dec 08, 2010 9:29 PM GMT
    Is it possible to have sex with someone and still be good friends? Has anyone ever became good pals with someone who started out as a trick or a date?
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:43 PM GMT
    Yea there is a guy that I went out on a date with a couple of times, fooled around (still do) and we talked about going further. We decided to stay friends, which was a pretty mutual feeling. We still fool around, but if one of us finds something more permanent than we would stay friends.

    It can happen, you just have to be an adult.
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    Definitely, happens to me all the time... one of them was even straight, and hes still one of my best buds icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:49 PM GMT
    Yes. I have a couple of friends who started out as hook-ups. We don't have sex very often any more though.
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    This didn't work out too well for me because after we slept together they became attached instantly and I felt nothing for them. They were good people and I wanted to be their friend but things happen. You don't have to be friends with everyone, if it happens it happens, if not oh well... Not much you can do about it.
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    Dec 08, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    Depends. Its POSSIBLE but not always the case. I drunkenly hooked up with a "straight" friend once and things were just awkward from that point on. Never talked about it (more so out of respect for his privacy) and just awkward. But unless a guy is straight/in the closet/whatever like that guy, I think it could be fine.
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    Yes and no. I have some with whom I've maintained a nice friendship and others that refused to remain in touch. It's a delicate balance but I think ultimately depends on how close the relationship was and how it ended.
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    Dec 08, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    Some of my closest friends are guys I slept with or went on a few dates with in the past; however my rule is that I don't sleep with friends so now they're strictly friends and that's it.
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    Dec 08, 2010 11:32 PM GMT
    Yep. Just make sure your friend is just as much of a slut as your are.
    It's what I refer to as "true friends" ... with benefits. They're a rare find.
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    Dec 08, 2010 11:57 PM GMT
    Are you trying to say that I can have sex with you And be your friend too?! That's a two-for-one deal. I'll take it!!
  • chris_dallas

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    Dec 08, 2010 11:59 PM GMT
    can totaly happen as long as you agree that tht part is over with ..unless you want both which can work as well
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    Dec 09, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    hapakun saidIs it possible to have sex with someone and still be good friends? Has anyone ever became good pals with someone who started out as a trick or a date?


    Hmm... I don't have sex with my friends. I didn't know it was something friends often do. icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 09, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYep. Just make sure your friend is just as much of a slut as your are.
    It's what I refer to as "true friends" ... with benefits. They're a rare find.


    LOL So you have to be a "slut" in order for it to work out?
  • laguna07

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    Dec 09, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    a couple of my close friends were one-night stands...and no sex, just friendship after that.
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    Dec 09, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    hapakun said
    paulflexes saidYep. Just make sure your friend is just as much of a slut as your are.
    It's what I refer to as "true friends" ... with benefits. They're a rare find.


    LOL So you have to be a "slut" in order for it to work out?
    Of course. Didn't you know?
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    Dec 09, 2010 12:53 AM GMT
    Oh HELL yes - has happened a couple of times.
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    Dec 09, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    Few times in the past and currently!! icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 09, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    PE_Teacher saidOh HELL yes - has happened a couple of times.


    Had two last few years, one good friend couldn't handle the relationship. The other, still a good fiend and 'fuck buddy'icon_razz.gif
  • Citrushills

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    Dec 09, 2010 2:57 AM GMT
    I can see having a friend who is also a jo buddy. It seems to me that that arrangement would be very comfortable and convenient.

    I had such arrangements with a couple of guys when I was in my 20s, but no such arrangements since.
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    Dec 09, 2010 4:32 AM GMT
    YUP - one turned into a flatmate for a while (no sex) and when he bought his own place we still go out for meals, movies etc. Enough in common to get on really well... but not to keep on shagging! One of my best mates! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 09, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    Hmmmm its a tricky situation...
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    Dec 09, 2010 6:13 AM GMT
    hapakun saidIs it possible to have sex with someone and still be good friends? Has anyone ever became good pals with someone who started out as a trick or a date?


    It's totally easy if both involved are mature, up front about expectations (or lack there of), have good chemistry, a sense of humour (so important for fun, hot sex!!) and things in common. Actually, quite a few "f" buddies have turned into good friends, simply because it was a natural progression (we loved/love having awesome sex together), and we had/have fun hanging out, but knew it wasn't/isn't going to be a relationship for different reasons. I would much rather have sex with a friend than some skankho, std, slutty trick; i know where he's been (so to speak), and there is a good level of comfort.

    The best friend, no. For me, that's what makes him the best friend (brotherly).
  • tjmwdm1

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    Dec 10, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    One of my best friendships started out as a hookup. We met - had sex and then became great friends there after. We talk about the sex and it's never awkward.
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    Dec 12, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    I haven't done this yet, but I'm not sure if I ever will.

    Not that I'm against hooking up overall, but I'd like to get to know the person a little first to even see if I really want this guy to get into my pants, let alone into bed with one another.

    So I guess I'm going to have to use the, "Let's go out for a drink" excuse a couple times. Hahaha.
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    Dec 12, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    Yes.