Etiquette question

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    Dec 09, 2010 5:22 AM GMT
    So here's the situation - I have a part time job through Catholic Charities and I have one client who I have for 5.5 hours on Monday afternoon into Night and then Wednesday for 2.5 hours to go volunteering. Anyway, his dad and mom are around on those Monday night shifts and every night this family eats dinner at exactly 6 and it is expected that I eat with the family. They are the kindest and most good hearted people and just have kind of taken me in and treated me (and all other staff that work with their son) very well. Tonight my shift was over they provided me with dinner with them and then leftovers to bring home...

    So after all that- what can I do to show or tell them thank you in an extra special /nice way? I always say thank you and everything as I want them to know it is not expected but it is appreciated.
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    Dec 09, 2010 5:24 AM GMT
    sometimes a gracious thankyou is all anyone really needs,....and you seem to be good at it............................Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 09, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    Why isn't a thank you and a hug enough?
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    Dec 09, 2010 5:49 AM GMT
    You can certainly take them out for dinner or maybe help out in something that they need assistance in... Or you can pay it forward to someone else..
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    Dec 09, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    Just say thanks again. They did what they did out of the kindness of their heart,not to recive something back from you.
  • jagjock

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    Dec 09, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
    Uncomplicated , gracious and simple forms of graitude our generally the best thing in a situation where one is unsure. Proper etiquette says that you should thank them and that is all that is expected in this situation.
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    Dec 09, 2010 7:38 AM GMT
    If you were french, you would send chocolates or flowers
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    Dec 09, 2010 7:39 AM GMT
    yeah, they didn't offer you their kidney, a simple thank you, even repeated is enough to show your gratitude.
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    Dec 09, 2010 7:46 AM GMT
    5ebastian saidbring a bottle of red wine to dinner one night, and some fresh baked bread.

    They'll thank you for the sacrament, being Catholic and all it seems appropriate.


    ...and 2 fish while you're at the grocery store
  • Napoleon123

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    Dec 09, 2010 1:58 PM GMT
    You can give them a "date nite " and take their son to the movies or have a guys night. Sleepover non-sexual I might add.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Dec 09, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
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    Napoleon123 saidYou can give them a "date nite " and take their son to the movies or have a guys night. Sleepover non-sexual I might add.span>blockquote>
    BINGO - This is the greatest gift - YOUR TIME. For a couple who have special needs in the family, a gift of your time is the ultimate gift.

    I have in the past written a nice card explaining how I was touched by a certain kindness or situation and then end by saying with gratitude that I offer a certain amount of time for their use so that they may be able to do something they otherwise would not get to do.

    By the way - I would not offer a sleepover. As a parent that would raise a giant red flag to me. That kind of trust would be earned over months or years to a person I had recently met. However - you may ask them if you could keep their son out a little late so that they may enjoy some extra time.

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    Dec 09, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    running11 saidThey are the kindest and most good hearted people and just have kind of taken me in and treated me (and all other staff that work with their son) very well.

    There you go. You should tell them this. Think how much that'll warm their hearts.

    Get a card and put your thoughts into words how much you truly appreciate their generosity and kindness. How much they inspired you to continue your own act of charity.

    I'll betcha they'll keep your card forever, reading it over and over, knowing someone out there thinks the world of them.
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    Dec 09, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    Andre_84 said
    5ebastian saidbring a bottle of red wine to dinner one night, and some fresh baked bread.

    They'll thank you for the sacrament, being Catholic and all it seems appropriate.


    ...and 2 fish while you're at the grocery store


    LMAO!
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    Dec 09, 2010 2:43 PM GMT
    I recommend a nice, hand-written note and perhaps a bouquet of fresh flowers. You could also go to a local chocolate shop or bakery and get them an assortment of fine dark chocolates or Italian-style cookies nicely wrapped in a gift box. But a note and flowers are pretty 'universal' and usually a safe bet; but not being Catholic, I'm not sure what else they would like that is Catholic specific.
  • Chunner

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    Dec 09, 2010 2:43 PM GMT
    Card at least, but if they are Catholic a good italian wine might be good too
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    Dec 09, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    The family includes you in their dinners because THEY are trying to thank YOU for taking care of their son. A heartfelt "thank you" is all that is required but if you want to do something extra then bring them something to add to the dinner like a loaf of nice bread or a pie from a bakery.
  • mke_bt

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    Dec 09, 2010 2:45 PM GMT

    These people seem like the type who would cherish a heartfelt note. I think you have a good idea what to write. It will probably mean more to them than a gift.
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    Dec 09, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    can you cook?

    I would make them something. there is nothing like something made for someone else with time and love, it's something that money simply can't buy.

    if it was me, i might:
    prepare them my special pork roast recipe, make them salmon tournedos, make them some home made bacon (everyone loves bacon lol,) homemade sausages, smoked salmon, etc, draw them a nice picture or print off a photo for them, i collect art so i might give them a not too expensive print, maybe draw a picture for their son... christmas is coming so if you can make ornaments for the tree ppl like getting those, etc, etc.

    something like that. giving something that's worth money can be akward sometimes, depending on the context and how well you know those ppl but giving them something you made never is. i dunno what your talents are but use those to give them something that shows your appreciation icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 09, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
    Thanks for everyone's responses so far. All the advice is great and I'm thinking a card with a gift card to the movies (two tickets and money for food) and just sending it to them.

    As far having a sleepover, no. That's a total violation and it could ruin my nursing career.

    Thanks again!
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    Dec 09, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    Maybe a nice bottle of wine? Or bring dessert? Or, bring them a nice platter of homemade Holiday treats and a card?
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    Dec 09, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    scftnsguy saidMaybe a nice bottle of wine? Or bring dessert? Or, bring them a nice platter of homemade Holiday treats and a card?


    All great ideas. I like a simple card expressing your sentiments. Sleepover is a BIG NO!!
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    Dec 09, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    A box of condoms and a Madonna CD...

    Or what the other guys have said icon_smile.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 09, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    Costco's has those big HUGE beautiful pointsettas during the holidays that are usually around $16 -- take the family one of those with a nice card thanking them and wishing them Happy Holidays
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    Dec 09, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidCostco's has those big HUGE beautiful pointsettas during the holidays that are usually around $16 -- take the family one of those with a nice card thanking them and wishing them Happy Holidays


    I like this one. Target is selling really nice poinsettias for 3.99 and 10.99.
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    Dec 09, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    I agree with the suggestions regarding flowers or a good looking plant. I'd also give them a hand-written Christmas card - with your heart-felt appreciation for being included for those great dinners with their family.

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