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    Mar 18, 2008 9:13 PM GMT
    I'm in a bit of a situation. I like a guy and he likes me. We are both at university, but I am a freshman and he is a senior who will be graduating in less than 2 months. I've been in a relationship before that stopped when I moved far away... it has taken a long time to get over that relationship. He will be moving far away after graduating. What should I do? Should I date this guy? What are your opinions and experiences icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif
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    Mar 18, 2008 9:47 PM GMT
    Maybe I'm too old to understand your dilemma, but I don't see a problem here. You're talking about dating...not getting married and having kids. Go for it. Even if something long-term doesn't work out...which it likely won't...at least you'll have had fun for a couple of months. What else have you got to do?
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    Mar 18, 2008 10:03 PM GMT
    Hit it and know how to quit it.
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    Mar 18, 2008 10:12 PM GMT
    Enjoy your Felicity moment.
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    Mar 18, 2008 10:13 PM GMT
    Yeah have a lot of fun for two months, cry a lot when he goes and then move on.
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    Mar 18, 2008 11:14 PM GMT
    Dude, fly straight towards the Sun
    Thats my advice. If your wings melt and you crash and burn... Hell, you still had a hell of a ride.

    The human soul is unbreakable man.
    You'll be fine.
    Enjoy the smiles and enjoy the tears.

    It's all part of life
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    Mar 18, 2008 11:28 PM GMT
    Ikaros saidDude, fly straight towards the Sun


    Oh, my. I just finally figured out that your screen name is Ikaros, not L. Karos.

    My bad.
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    Mar 18, 2008 11:35 PM GMT
    lol its no biggie JP

    i should have posted on the "what does your screen name means" thread icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 19, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    If you date him, and he eventually leaves you with a broken heart...this will be your love song in reverse...leave it to Ace Of Base ingenuity. "All I wanna say to you is &@#%icon_evil.gif$&@!!" - just don't curse out evil words you'll regret. icon_twisted.gif





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    Mar 19, 2008 1:11 AM GMT
    I would agree with everyone on here and say go for it. Never live with the thought of "what if..". That's never healthy and can cause you to lose your place in reality and start wishing for that fantasy. I know I did that with something else. Not in the relationship department but more in the academic one.
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    Mar 19, 2008 1:15 AM GMT
    id say go for it!
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    Mar 19, 2008 1:31 AM GMT
    RunintheCity saidHit it and know how to quit it.


    Thanks for my new dating motto. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 19, 2008 1:32 AM GMT
    I had a similar situation like this a few years ago, and we decided to just let it dwindle away. It's one of my biggest regrets--I say enjoy the time you have, there's only one shot at life and no harm in enjoying the pleasures that come at you.
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    Mar 19, 2008 3:41 AM GMT
    Go for it. I'm leaving in two months and just started dating a guy. Just make it clear that it's only going to be a temporary relationship so you can have fun and the relationship can end while still maintaining a future friendship. It will probably still hurt a little if you develop an emotional attachment, but just try and temper our emotions.

    This all assumes that any of us can control the degree of our emotions to any extent. Not a wise assumption, but at least you can get more experience this way and have some fun.
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    Mar 19, 2008 3:49 AM GMT
    I guess I'll be the dissenting vote. Don't if you can help it.

    It's bad news when you get in a relationship already knowing it will end in heartache. Why spend 2 months+recovery time when you could be focusing on finding something more long term.

    Of course you are in college so that might not apply anyway. In which case go for it. icon_evil.gif
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:00 AM GMT
    You just got out of a relationship that seems to have the characteristics.

    You have choices:
    1) Date the guy and and exhibit the same feelings as you did in your last realtionship and go through the same process again feeling the same loss when he leaves.

    2) Just go out and have your fun and not get attached to lessen the blow of when he does leave or maybe you'll get lucky and you'll give him a reason to want to stay.

    or

    3) Don't entertain the thought and just ok for someone a little more stable in location.

    There are always options you just have to choose the ones that are right for you.
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:37 AM GMT
    It's a no brainer. Go out and got wild with your man. icon_biggrin.gif It might not last but what can it hurt.
  • GQjock

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    Mar 20, 2008 9:51 PM GMT
    I say move to his city...
    Join the Pinkies
    ... have your ears pierced

    And sing hopelessly devoted in your nighty